I recently started seeing a psychologist to help me with anxiety and panic disorder. The trouble is, I think he's extremely attractive. I sometimes have trouble concentrating. I focus less on what he's saying and more on not obviously drooling! LOL!
Could this eventually be beneficial or is it detrimental to the success of our doctor/patient relationship? I'm sure once we really get into therapy I'll get over it, but right now it's just hard. I told him I thought he was attractive at a time it was relevent to the conversation, but not just how much. He said thank you then asked how I felt about telling him that (typical psychologist turn-around). I simply said I was certain he knew he was attractive, but people just enjoy hearing it sometimes--it makes them feel good--and I like to make people happy. That's the truth.
Is this bad?
2006-07-28 11:06:55 · 17 answers · asked by misslabeled 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I need to impress that regardless of what I might say to him about it, I'm absolutely confident he would not use it in any way to take advantage.
2006-07-28 11:19:22 · update #1
its only human to noyice that the oposit sex is or isnt atractiv
the question is can u set this aside and tend to bussnes?
i only work with female psycologists because i find them easier to talk to ,and some have ben verry atractive
its important though if you have feelings for your psycologist you should find a new one
2006-07-28 12:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
No, its good...its very very good. If in fact he is somewhat attractive, that is. Otherwise, depending on the underlying reasons for the visit, he may be reassured that you are a horny and outwardly Hung babe. There is nothing right or wrong about it- it is what it is. It's all for the best. Don't be shocked if he refuses to continue seeing you as a patient and requests to see you on a personal level- assuming that you are of legal age, and other more critical ideas.
2006-07-28 11:13:55 · answer #2 · answered by ••Mott•• 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy is supposed to be a safe place to discuss thoughts. Sexual tension and the like changes that! Get another psychologist! If you explain it to him, I think he will understand, but even if he doesn't, it is IMPERATIVE you change therapists. Trust me on this. How can you feel comfortable talking about all your hopes and fears with someone you find nit hard not to drool over?
2006-07-28 11:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by TwilightWalker97 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your therapist is much more use to you as a therapist than as a boyfriend. Boyfriends come and go but a good therapist is very valuable. Don't screw this up cause you can't have it both ways.
Part of your attraction to him is that they listen to you and help you, qualities we look for in a mate. Concentrate on the talking not the gawking.
2006-07-28 11:12:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are describing is known as psychological transference, which is also known as projection.
Believe me, your therapist is aware of this and he has been trained to recognize the pattern. It is somewhat of an involved process, so I won’t get into all of the dynamics here. It may be helpful for you to look it up and read up on it.
I am a licensed social worker, with a minor degree in psychology.
2006-07-28 13:28:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whoa whoa whoa hold on here.......u 'like' ur psychologist? lol. i'm sure it's happened to many people, you're not alone. that's y some women (like me) prefer women docs. i think u should find another doc---preferably a woman...if u get a girl doc u won't have this problem again. hehe, i think he'll understand. i mean--it'll get pretty uncomfortable if it hasn't already. it must be hard to sit there and tell him about all your anxieties, fears, etc while you're 'undressing him' with your eyes :D
don't worry, just get another shrink. a girl-shrink. lol.
2006-07-28 21:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by Queen of Halloween 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest another psychologist as well. Not only could this hinder your therapy, you have to be careful of they kind of guy he is. You've already told him you think he's attractive; he could manipulate you with that knowledge if you don't have a true idea of his professionalism. My sister fell prey to a counselor in the same manner, so please be careful; not only did she have the added issues of his handiwork, but her old issues weren't resolved . . .
2006-07-28 11:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by Arenor Pendragon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's detreminental i most cases. What could really make it better for you, and worse for him, is if he's interested in you. If he is, he might eventually want to see you, when off duty.
2006-07-28 11:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new psychologist then ask him on a date....lol
2006-07-28 11:11:38 · answer #9 · answered by Bluebonnet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it is a good idea. I suggest switching to a woman doctor
2006-07-28 11:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by thebulktiny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋