My son is 10 and he talks about his dad to everyone. He loves that his dad drives a heavy duty tow truck. The problem is, his dad only aknowledeges him when he's mad at him. I get the impression my husband doesn't like him.
My son has gone as far as making things up to make it sound like he has this great relationship with his dad, when it's the furthest thing from the truth. (I found out his stories when I read his journals the class would keep at school). It breaks my heart, I want my son to have a good relationship with his dad. How do I get this across to my husband who seems to be in denial of the whole situation?
2006-07-28 11:00:52 · 12 answers · asked by ~SSIRREN~ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your boy clearly idolizes his father and loves his driving profession but the father VERY clearly is too 'big, busy, or bothered' or self-centred, strung out or stupid to pay attention to the young man.
Unfortunately some fathers DO NOT like their sons, much less love them. "kids are a nuisance" to some types. "he doesnt' look like me" comes to mind.
Give your son a break. Encourage your husband to take the boy with him once in a while if he WILL, or can.
Meantime, allow your son to make things up and encourage him to write his journals. It certainly does not hurt a child to use his imagination.
Meantime, take your husband aside, make him read the journals, and explain the implications of his rather pathetic attitude to his SON. If he does not change, get some counselling,--- he NEEDS it.
2006-07-28 11:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by fiddlesticks9 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have your son express how he feels to your husband or just let him (your husband) read the journals that your son kept. Your husband needs to reassure his son that he loves him and try to get him to do things with his son just the 2 of them ask your husband if he will take his son on the tow truck with him sometime since your son loves big trucks maybe that could be the ice breaker for both of them.
2006-07-28 11:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by Spacious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it very clear the your son is lacking his father and that it needs to change now. If he doesn't understand then you make him understand. Let your son explain to him the way he feels. Your son might make the impact to open his eyes. Use good examples for your husband like "what if" something happens to our son ? Get him thinking about the situation .
2006-07-28 11:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by smorgan1124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you may need some family counseling. You should show your husband the things that your son has wrote about him. Try and get the two of them to spend some time together and really bond.
2006-07-28 11:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write to Dr. Phil....or record one of his episodes or try to get one dealing on that issue.
I used to hate Dr. Phil because my ex would take his damn word for everything but didn't believe anything I say.
He OPENS peoples ignorant eyes sometimes. Some dads just aren't good at the "finesse" side of life, maybe try to schedule some time of them together like buying them tickets to go to a ballgame or a concert that your husband likes, I'm sure your son won't mind as long as he's with his dad and bonding. Good luck!
2006-07-28 11:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by Joshua J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way your husband can see or know of the journals to see how his son idolizes (sp?) him? I would focus on how your son sees him like a "god" and promote more "guy" time together? I am a mother of 5...married 23 yrs..I have encountered more than 1 rollercoaster...I am also a christian..so I hope you don't mind me suggesting "Prayer"...just pray a simple prayer as best you know how....the Lord knows your husband best and knows your son best...pray that the Lord bond them together like glue...that their relationship would mirror image that of the Lord himself! then pray for wisdom & stregnth for yourself...Us moms seem to be the ones who manage to hold things together don't we? I wish the best of everything for your family!
2006-07-28 11:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by diane b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him 2 aknowlage ur son in good ways 2 like wow good job on that spelling test , and tell ur dad and son they can have a father son day like an outing 2 a baseball game or monster truck rally or somthing fun so they can bond.
2006-07-28 11:06:37 · answer #7 · answered by dot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show your husband the journals and explain to him how you know these stories aren't true. If that doesn't work family counceling might be a good idea.
2006-07-28 11:03:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 05:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son did the same thing..making up all kinds of things he and his dad have done..when in reality, his dad pretty much ignored him most of his life.
2006-07-28 11:03:28 · answer #10 · answered by Catherine n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋