My ex waited 11 days to get into another relationship?
My ex girlfriend waited 11 days after we broke up before starting an intimate relationship with another guy. We were seriously in love for over year and the longest, most serious relationship of both our lives. I feel a mixture of sadness, anger, jealousy, disgust, lust, shame and heartache.
So, my question is :) What relevant insight can you offer to help me feel better and not let this get to me?
2006-07-28 10:52:16 · 15 answers · asked by gravvyboat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that someone you dated was needy enough to prematurely jump into an intimate relationship with someone else is no reflection on you. You shouldn't feel like you were easily replaceable. The fact that they were needy means something was gone from their life. The problem is that they have a hole internally and are trying to solve it with an external band aid. No external person can ever give you happiness if you don't have it yourself.
Do things you love doing: riding bikes, swimming, going to movies, hiking, making homemade milkshakes. You have to have fun and make yourself happy. If you were happy, you wouldn't care what happened to your ex's.
2006-07-28 10:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know many women... me, sisters, aunts, cousins and friends. There are all types of women. The ones that I've run across that move on so quickly are usually the ones with low self-esteem. They feel they need someone in their life to fill the spot where the esteem should fit. It's sad but you shouldn't take it personally. It's hard ... I know. Just remember that she is not a bad person for moving on so quickly. It's really sad if you think about it. Don't waste your energy feeling sadness, anger, jealousy, disgust, lust, shame or heartache. You are just obviously able to focus on your hurt feelings rather than running to someone knew to try and take the feelings away. Believe me, she is suffering herself. No one I've known that has jumped from relationship to relationship so quickly has had peace with themselves. God Bless.
2006-07-28 18:01:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat brother. My ex started hanging out with some guy right after we were over with. I just laugh that she is so needy she constantly needs someone in her life. I was happy when it was over but it did piss me off that she found someone so quickly. But just remember this what goes around comes around so if she broke your heart eventually it will come back to her someway. So just get on with your life and make yourself a better person. That way you will become better for the next girl and she will see what a piece of **** she was for leaving you. Then when she comes crawling back you can laugh at her. Just dont compromise your own self integrity by groveling or anything like that. Act like it does not effect you if you see her and get one with your life.
2006-07-28 18:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by yeeeehaw4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how do you know it was 11 days and how do you know she was intimate with another person? But besides that it is important for you to focus on yourself. Learn new ways to fill your life with different activites and positive people who are encouraging an influencial in your life. Creat new short term goals, take up new hobbies. The key that I am stressing here is fill your time because there are things we just cant change. We need to change the things we can and accept the things we cant and move on.
2006-07-28 18:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by Nickerbockers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts, but either she feels resentful and is getting back at you subconciously; or, she misses you and is lonely. Sometimes a sexual experience just happens and it means nothing. We miss the intimacy that was there and seek it somewhere else shorterm.
Believe me, your girlfriend is hurting, too. This may just be her way of showing it. Forgive her and move on. In fact, I'll bet you two are back together within two weeks.
Good luck.
2006-07-28 17:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by keepingitreal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's pretty shallow and you deserve better. Take some time to re-establish your own self esteem. Hang out with your buds who make you feel positively about yourself, take excellent care of yourself, pamper yourself, try not to be alone when you feel vulnerable. Give yourself time to re-become who YOU are without her (remember, you deserve better than her) and DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP. She wasn't good enough for you anyway. Be ready for a woman who deserves you and you her because after you have taken such excellent care of yourself and pampered yourself she's gonna know a good man when she sees him. Chin up!
2006-07-28 18:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by waney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That if she could do that to you after 11 days she wasn't really in love with you. Sad to say... It must hurt
2006-07-28 18:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad that you got out of the relationship when you did. Either she didn;t have as strong of feelings as you thought she did or she is just wanting this new guy for sex.
2006-07-28 17:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there doing this to show u that there over u even though there not they want to show everyone that the breakup didnt hurt them but it did stay positive and get out of your house stop moping bout it
u will feel better
2006-07-28 18:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by prettyinpink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may have been going on before you broke up. Or she is just trying to make you jealous.
Either way, it ain't healthy. This is just extra drama that you don't need in your life. You have to try to move on.
2006-07-28 17:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by G-man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋