When I was in a relationship with a married man, people told me that the married man would always put me last and that I would spend most of my time alone while he was busy with his family. True but I recently met a single man (I know he is single) and we had two good dates and althought we talk for hours most every day, he has been too busy to go out this week. I was off two evenings but he was busy (exercising and other stuff) and now he has gone out of town and will come back next week to be busy againwith a school group. I know he is busy and stuff but I find myself home alone on a friday night with no where to go not unlike when I seen my married guy. It just seems like he could have made a couple hours for me yesterday afternoon and cut out one day of exercising. He lives outside of town and I can't go over to see him because I don't have a car. So I'm not convinced that is is more fun to date a single man.
2006-07-28 10:51:09 · 5 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im married and have never put my mistress second, maybe you just picked the wrong man ?
2006-07-28 10:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by charlie c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well sounds like this guy is "not into you" but that doesn't make it ok for you to date a married man either. Just as you said this married man will always put you last but not only that, consider the fact that you may be sick at 2am and you can't call him, not only are you alone when he's with his family but you have "no talk", there is nothing you can come out and say if you object to something. You are always lurking in the shadows. This guys is getting free sex from you with no committment. He could be there with you one day and out of the blue he disappears because he no longer wants the relationship. It's too bad that this single guys is treating you this way. Maybe you are not his type but he doesn't know how to say it to you so he's making up all kinds of excuses to avoid being with you. Don't waste the pretty girl, go out and get your "own" man who you can call him any time you want and know that he'll be there for you 'anytime". Good luck.
2006-07-28 18:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a sample size of one. That's a bad way to make a generalization.
There are common sense reasons why you shouldn't be dating a married man. They would also tend to correlate with you not being the highest priority (since he could choose to marry you instead and didn't.) So that one makes sense.
Dating one single man who doesn't pay enough attention to you is much more likely an indication that you are dating a bozo, rather than a reflection of all single men. If single men as a rule didn't pay attention to their significant other, how would anyone get married in the first place?
2006-07-28 17:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by dpawson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, no offense, but this guy apparently just has a very busy schedule and a life. Whethere their single or not this could be the case. So, I would just keep looking for single men, and hopefully you find one with a closer location and more free time.
2006-07-28 17:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mandee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I just sinned by reading this.
2006-07-28 18:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by Benicio Del Costner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋