2006-07-28 10:45:11 · 12 answers · asked by Ashley C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my mother is over reacting on certain things. She cant handle being wrong so she grounds me for no apparent reason. I tried to address here on her actions but she says im wrong. She has been going thru this depression ever since she got married...about 1 month ago.
2006-07-28 10:52:16 · update #1
she isnt hurting me...but in her mind everything that is wrong in the household is my fault...she cant handle the fact that she is wrong about me and im right
2006-07-28 11:01:17 · update #2
Man do I know what it is like dealing with a mother's anger. The only nice thing about getting older is you can do it from a distance! There is probably no sense in trying to talk to her about it, she probably has no idea where your coming from and she can't see what it's doing to you. If you could tell a trusted adult, or go to your father's and stay. I know you don't want to get your mother in trouble and despite what she is doing you still love her! As a last resort I would call child services on her. They might take you out of your home right away, but your mother would have to take parenting classes before you could go back or continue to stay with her BUT I STRESS to using that as a last resort because once child services are in your life it is not that easy to get them out! Try to get an adult or consular that can listen you and talk to her about it. Being a parent can be hard and overwhelming a lot of the time. You can deal with guilt, fear, all the responsibility, and frustration that comes with it and to do it alone can be to much for people. Just remember that it really is not about you and try to stay strong and bo not be ashamed or fearful of reaching out and getting the help that you deserve.
take care and good luck. I will send prayers and good thoughts your way
2006-07-28 11:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by shiva 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My best friend was in this sort of spot. I don't know the reasons behind why your parent is doing this, but the biggest thing that you need to do is confide in a person that you trust: an adult friend, a relative, a church friend, somebody who can encourage you, so that your paren't depression doesn't pull you into one, too.
The next thing that you need to do is the hardest. You need to talk to them and let them know how you feel. Don't be angry or rude, just honest. Truthfully, they won't take it too well at first, and will probably get angry and call you ungrateful, but hang in there and just love them. My friend did this, and in a few days, here mom saw what she was doing and really turned her life around and went to get councelling, and things are much better now.
Communication is the key. If you don't feel safe, then have another adult there that you trust. Surround yourself with people that you trust.
2006-07-28 18:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by music_junkie_55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST TRY to understand her point of view she is going thru a hard tym and i think you should try to be on her side torelieve some of her depression don't do anything stupid yet like calling the cops cos itll just ruin ur family unless she starts like threatening you with knifes in her hand or something.
help her be more happy and help her laugh at hings , be more relaxed take walks blah blah blah
2006-07-28 18:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by GodisLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I don't know if you live with both parents but if you do then talk to the other parent about these feelings.
If you do not, talk to a close relative and ask that they help you through this.
If you don't have someone such a relative then talk to your parent straight forward. I know it will be hard but your parent may not realize what they are doing and this may help them realize that there is help to overcome the frustrations of life.
If you attend church as your pastor to help you. If you do not attend church I encourage you to be involved in a Bible based church. Church families are wonderful.
2006-07-28 17:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by okiemom67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Child Protective Services. They will straighten the parent out fast.
2006-07-28 17:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parent is hitting you then you need to get help. No one has the right to harm another person. If it is weighing on you mentally you need to get help. If you go to someone you trust and let them know what is going on they will be able to tell you what steps to take to stop this abuse. Don't wait until you get hurt badly, do it now.
2006-07-28 17:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are always two sides to every story. I'm not their to see for myself but if it is happening the way you say it is then I agree, call the police.
2006-07-28 17:58:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call cps my family member works there (not going to say who) but you should call cps 911 and thats just wrong if shes pissed at you O WELL
2006-07-28 17:57:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
plead with them to get help, tell another adult you trust (relative, school counselor, coach, etc) who might be able intervene and confront your parent about getting help, call a cop/social services
2006-07-28 17:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by Lucy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might have depression...my mom and sister have it and they went and got medicene from the doctors...there alot better now...also they wood flip out alot on the littlest things like ur mom...i think she shood see the doctor...it might help...it helped my family alot!! good luck
2006-07-28 18:07:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋