I am naturally a jealous person. I know my fiance loves me and we are gonna be together forever. But he is so bad at looking at other girls when im around. I feel like if he looks when im around him, what does he do when we arent together. He tells me all the time that those girls arent anything and that he knows he's lucky to be with me. But i cant stress how many fights i almost got into because of it. I just know i found a great guy nad i dont want to loose him to anybody. But i also know if i dont stop being so jealous everytime we go out its going to end this relationship, its not what he says but i know id get sick of it. Any advice?
2006-07-28 10:43:43 · 15 answers · asked by nikki nicole 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jealousy is something that is in every human, just try being happy that you have him, and nobody else does.
2006-07-28 10:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being jealous is having issues within your self. You need to solve those issues. Have you actually caught him cheating on you? A guy will look no matter what. Start looking at other guys see how he likes it. Or check out girls with him. If you don't stop nagging him, he will leave!!
2006-07-28 10:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by sissy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be 100% responsible for your reaction to him. You might be jealous, which runs deep since it involves thoughts of having a family being threatened. You might be angry which comes out of feeling undervalued. Understand that you feel this way, that you are entitled to feel this way, but you can't take it out on him. You run a bigger chance of losing him because you try to control him and by being negative than by his actually straying.
That said, you are entitled to tell him from a you-feel perspective without blaming him for your reaction: Honey, I feel unloved and abandoned when I see you looking at other girls. He needs to take responsibility for his actions, which currently have no consequences. You can't change him. You can only stay away from him, which I understand is a double-edged sword.
2006-07-28 10:50:08 · answer #3 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww -hug- Just remember what he tells you! You have no reason to be jealous unless you actually have real proof of anything. I sometimes get worried when my boyfriend hangs out with other girls, too, but I just try to remember that there's a reason he picked ME and not any of them and that he's entitled to have friends that are girls, just like I'm entitled to have friends that are guys.
2006-07-28 10:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by Allison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men are going to look. It's natural.
And any man is a liar if he says he doesn't. It doesn't mean anything, I'd be worried if my old man didn't look at someone else once in a while. What would anger me would be if he were to go on and on about her. Then I would get jealous!
And you can't tell me you haven't seen someone walking and taken a 2nd look!
2006-07-28 10:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a good question. i am the same way. and i feel bad that my man has to deal with this. i try to keep myself occupied so that i'm too busy to even think about it. but if im just sitting around and just waiting..then i get so freakin crazy i throw stuff, and sometimes break things....i HATE IT! maybe tell him to stop checkin out girl when your together.
2006-07-28 10:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its only natural for him to look. the only reason i would worry is when you guys are out and he sees this really pretty gurl and you guys are talking and completely ignores you then i would worry. my boyfriend does that all the time? and i ask him oh babe you think shes pretty? then he says stuff like yea u should buy a dress like that. try not to be so jealous. he obvious sounds commited to you. he did ask you to marry him after all. he loves you.
2006-07-28 10:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by lizlatina69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, jealousy roots from lack of self confidence, low self-esteem, or poor self image. If you know that he wants to be with you and you want to be with him, be confident of that. If he wanted to be with somebody else, he WOULD be. So, remind yourself everyday of how beautiful you are, how lucky you are to have him, and how lucky he is to have you. Make sure to be CONFIDENT in yourself and make sure he is the happiest man on the planet and there will be no reason for you to be jealous.
2006-07-28 10:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by mortalunderground 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
naturally guys are going to look so you need to get over that insane jelousy of yours. i have a huband of twelve years and he looks a t playboy and penthouse.and he has naked girls for wallpaper on his side of the computer.my ad vice to you is pay him no mind hes just being a man.
2006-07-28 10:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok... i have the same prob. w/ my bf. i get jealous all the time wen he tlks about past gfs and tlks about how girls r pretty i get soo jealous i tell him its b/c i luv him sooo much. i just try to ignore him wen he says all that stuff. and i tell him to stop looking at other girls . if he really were attracted to other girls he would b w/ them. so he must b more attracted to u.but besides that im not sure wat to tell u. sry i didnt really help. im kinda stuck in the same situation and plus think about it
2006-07-28 10:50:26 · answer #10 · answered by fluteplayer1300 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋