We talk all the time and I get the impression that she likes me too. She has winked at me, and she smiles alot at me and seems to like to be around me in general. I am on the shy side and therefore have my doubts that I have communicated any significant interest in her beyond a normal friends relationship.
She happens to have a boyfriend which I know I need to ask her about to find out if I even have a chance. The few times he has come up, the impression I got was that there is some room for improvement in thier relationship, but that goes for 99% of all relationships.
I think about her constantly, both while at work and away from work. I am shy about asking her to do anything with me outside of work because I'm not really sure how to avoid seeming stalker like.
I guess I really need to find out her situation with her bf, then somehow confess how I feel about her? I have changed so much of my life after meeting her. I quit playing world of warcraft, I eat better, and exercise
2006-07-28 10:38:57 · 29 answers · asked by Justaguyinaplace 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not a good idea man... you'll be too close to each other, you'll get tired of one another quick and then work will be a nightmare
2006-07-28 10:41:01 · answer #1 · answered by Luis T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be, first of all, DO NOT ask about her boyfriend, that would instantly kill whatever interest she might have on you.
Then, whatever you do, don't "confess your feelings". Let this thing un its natural course, and build up the nerve to ask her out my friend! Don't make a big deal out of it, it is best if you grab a cup of coffee together or have a walk in the park or a mall, than going to a movie or dinner.
As someone has already said, IT IS ALWAYS BEST TO TAKE A CHANCE THAT HAS THE POTENTIAL TO TURN INTO SOMEHING GREAT, than being afraid of the minor awkward consecuences.
Just SHOW her that you are interested in her, don't TELL her, and after that first date you will know for sure whether or not she likes you and what kind of chances she GIVES you.
Good Luck and get to work on that confidence dude!
2006-07-28 17:48:28 · answer #2 · answered by Sleep Terror 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
Firstly if you share the same work place, you may want to check your company rules with your Human Resources department to see if there is a clause for workplace relationships. Some are ok with it, some are not. This is just so you are safe to pursue a relationship at your workplace. Even if you do, you may want to be careful about it, especially if you are unsure of how she feels or interprets.
If you are already aware of your workplace rules and this is ok with you, you may casually want to ask her out or tell her that you like her politely. You will know right there whether she's interested in you or is just being flirty or friendly.
Good luck!
2006-07-28 17:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you quit palying WOW whats wrong of you man thatours whole existance on living, you shouldnt give that up for any woman, start playing WOW again and becareful when it comes to office relatinships, or even bringing up the subject if it goes wrong or the issue upsets her there may be problems in the work place, if you must ask her, leave her a note, you u dont ask you wil never know and if you will never know that thought will haunt you forever
2006-07-28 17:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by Quasar1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to them. Take a chance. There is always a chance of something not working out, but you have to root for the hope that it DOES work out. I took a chance with someone I worked with and now we will be getting engaged after two years of being together. It can work. All you have to do is have confidence in yourself. Show that you have confidence in yourself and that will make her feel better about not only you, but in herself as well. Women love that. Stay strong and I hope it all works out for you.
2006-07-28 17:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by mortalunderground 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating coworkers is a bad idea. Think about how uncomfortable it will be to have to see her at work all the time if it doesn't work out. Besides she has a boyfriend and if you know that and ask her anyway she'll just think you are a jerk.
2006-07-28 17:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter... She has a BF. It's going to be hard. Just keep flirting with her and be playful at times (not always). Ask her out for lunch "if she won't have problems with her bf" and go from there. Good luck dude!!!!
2006-07-28 17:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by feroz101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really like her.. just one day say something like.. you know your just like the forbidden fruit, and see what she says.. if she says something like.. what is that mean? tell her to think about it.. or get really close to her when you are asking her something you will see how she acts around you... that should give you some clue as how she feels.... take it from a women, I'm married and i get hid on all the time ... if a girl smiles at you all the time she is around you, and seems to be into everything you say .. she likes you..
2006-07-28 17:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHoah...you def. need to check out the bf situation...would you want to date a girl who flirts with everyone while she has a boyfriend?? wow...ooky...sit back, be sweet, kind and a little flirtations and she may see that the man she is looking for is not the current bo on her arm :)
Heather~
2006-07-28 17:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't date someone you work with. It never ends up good, because when you stop dating them, you still have to see them every day at work. Many times while you might have been friends before, you end up not contacting them at all afterwards.
2006-07-28 17:41:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not good that shes flirting with you whilst she has a boyfriend, if you got together and she did the same to you (which is likely - 99% n all that) you would have to accept that you knew she was capable of it in the first place.
2006-07-28 17:47:14 · answer #11 · answered by jolenenicola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋