Please be serious when answering. I need help from others who don't know any of us. You should know we are upstanding people who are all in our 30's. Thank you in advance!
2006-07-28 10:35:54 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've met my brother's girlfriend twice for about 10 minutes each time. We are not close by any stretch. When I met her exboyfriend we didn't put two and two together until after we grew in fondness of each other. I really care for him and have never met anyone else that has brought me this much happiness. Once we discovered who each other were I immediately talked with my brother. He is totally against it and now I'm torn.
2006-07-28 10:52:06 · update #1
Quite honestly, there really shouldn't be any cons. If it's the "upstanding" part that is concerning you, ask each party how they feel about it, but ultimately, it's the both of you that has to decide. It's not like you 2 are dating to hurt anyone?
Personally, when I am struggling w/ a situation, I always (or try to always) pray to the one who knows the beginning from the end, and who knows what and "WHO" is best for me...."The Lord"....who is faithful to give wisdom to all who seek Him...
Best of everything w/ your decision.....
2006-07-28 10:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by diane b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just seems like a bunch of unnecessary drama. I mean think of the awkward love triangles that would be formed. If the 4 of you went out together it would have to be a little weird being that your brother is with his gf, your man has been with your brother's gf and now you are with him. It's like some Melrose place type stuff lol.
Also, if it gets serious would you all be able to live with the fact that both you and your brother's significant others have slept together - would you feel comfortable with them alone together?
If you are all adults about it and no one has any emotions about anything and if you trust these people then I guess go for it. But just keep in mind that you might be opening a huge can of drama.
2006-07-28 10:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yikes..sounds like the circles are a little too close for my taste. if u really think it's worth it, then by all means, whatever u need to do to find "the one". however, i would let ur brother and his girlfriend know that u are interested; not exactly asking permission, but letting them know that it's a possibility. if they are adamant and say "no", then u have to make the decision whether or not to go against their wishes, possibly causing a rift in ur relationship w/ them. but if they say it's ok, then u can feel a little better about it. try not to make it "them" or "him"; if THEY make it that way, u can't help it. but at least u tried.....
i had sort of a similar situation.. my good friend wanted to date my ex, but i didn't know it. one day she and i had a long talk, and she told me she had feelings for him, and wanted to date him but wanted to ask me first. i was actually happy for them, and wanted both of them to find what and who would make them happy. and she said she was so scared, but she's glad i was ok. THEN i found out from him that they WERE DATING behind my back for a year!! so after that, i couldn't see her the same way. she had lied to me the whole year that she liked someone else, to cover up that she was dating my ex. i don't like liars... so altho i was ok w/ the dating the ex thing, i was not ok w/ how she acted. i don't talk to that girl anymore, but i still have a good acquaintance in the ex. so try not to be a sneaky one, they won't appreciate it.
2006-07-28 10:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll keep hearing stories about your siblings, and there will be no interest in you. Also you siblings would tell you a little too much about that person. If one you sisters or brothers happen to be enemies, well there goes the family reunion! In most cases it doesnt work out, however that doesn't mean for all cases.
2006-07-28 10:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by hitechmal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think it would be uncomfortable to me anyway...it depends on how serious a couple they were for one.. but actually i do not think i would go there at all...i can not see anything good to come out of a relationship with your brothers girlfiends ex..i think there are plenty of men out there and you are better than to go with your brothers girlfriends ex....i have heard of this happening and it did never work out.. they got into fights and arguments..so i would not go there..
2006-07-28 10:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only a con if everyone is uncomfortable together or you are uncomfortable hearing about their history.
This person and you are free to go about your business.
You didn't mention if you live near, far, together or how much you'd bump into them.
2006-07-28 10:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never ever do that sharing is caring but not in that way
try looking for another girl. even if she comes on to u think about it ur brother got with her already! eeewwww
2006-07-28 11:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not upstanding to date around...
2006-07-28 10:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by Pooks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't there are thing you just don't do. The other party may resent you. There are plenty of fish in the sea!! Plus its disrespectful.
2006-07-28 10:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by sissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. Just having him in the whole picture is kinda weird. Stuff might come up. Old memories...ionno.
2006-07-28 10:38:42 · answer #10 · answered by Allison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋