What’s with people on here bashing daycare like its a sin and making up “facts”?

Question

Here are some wonderful “facts” I have seen on here that make me laugh:

When a baby is not with his mother 24/7 the baby learns that his efforts are in vain and that world is a cruel place that doesn't care about his needs.

If a child is watched by his father or grandma (while mom is at work) the baby will not evolve as the baby require his mother 24/7 to “evolve.”

If a baby is not with his mother 24/7 he will have bad health, depression and anxiety.

If the baby is in daycare or watched by family, the baby’s father is more likely to be disapproving of the baby.

The use of day care is abuse and neglect of your child.


Who the **** writes this crap? Anyone else think this is ridiculous?

Answer 1

Completely ridiculous. I feel sorry for the kids whose parents can't relinquish control for even the tiniest moment in time to allow them to socialize and learn about the real world, not the overprotected sanctuary that is their home. I'm a former preschool teacher and now have a day care in my home and I think day cares and preschools are very important for children to experience. They need the socialization, they need the structure of a classroom, they need routine, they need to learn how to interact with an authority figure other than family members, and they need something that they can feel is their own. I think if people can afford to stay home with their kids, great, but it's not that easy for most families out there. They have to use day care of some kind and that's what works for them. And for those people who feel the need to criticize another family's choice or rattle off "facts" about how much a child will be damaged if they don't spend 24/7 with their kids, which by the way is asinine, I love my daughter but we both need time away from each other every once and a while, they need to get down off their high horses and learn to accept other people's choices and not attempt to make them feel guilty for providing for their family. I think I'll take my soap box and go home now, LOL!

Answer 2

Some people are dumb. I have a 2 1/2 month old son and I struggle with the idea of putting him in daycare. There are mom's on here that rant on and on that putting your child in daycare is not "healthy" for him/her, but you know what...that's not true. I have searched high and low for months on end for a good daycare and have finally found one. My lady is remarkable and she's doing it not because of the money but because she absolutely adores kids. I know my son will be in good hands. Don't get me wrong, I've tried to figure out ways to not go back to work and be a full time mom but realistically it's just not financially possible for us right now, that doesn't make us bad parents. We are doing what we can to provide for our son and making ends meet. So to the people that think that working mom's are n ot doing the right thing for their child...screw you all. Who deemed you my judge and jury? I'm a great mother.

Answer 3

Well it is crap because it just is not possible for a mother and baby to be together 24/7 what if she has to piss or take a shower?? daycare is good and especially for toddlers they learn that mommy/ daddy always returns diminishing the separation anxiety. and Day care for toddlers teaches social skills.

Answer 4

Even if a woman is a stay at home mom, she shouldn't spend every waking hour with her children. She has to bear in mind that her children need to grow up into healthy human beings. They need time for interacting with other people, to learn to fight their own battles, to win and to lose. Having a mom constantly by their side makes them constantly rely on her (whether they want it or not).
I was stay at home mom, but I did take my boys to a daycare center (but only for a four hours period, from 9 am to 1pm). They spent four hours every day playing with other children, in controlled environment. Today they are wonderful, healthy young men (21 and 16), one is a law student, and the other is ih high school. We are very happy family, they adore their dad and he adores them; also, they have many friends, many of whom they first met in daycare center.

Answer 5

Of course it's ridiculous! It's like the people who tell mothers to push their kids ahead into kindergarten/2nd grade (whatever) early even though the teacher said they weren't ready, but the kid will be bigger than everyone! There are some crazy people in this world who still think mom's shouldn't work and have crazy notions about children.

Answer 6

I used to work at a daycare when I was in high school.

It is actually good for children, when balanced properly with their family.

It allows for children to understand social interaction at an earlier age than school so they can be prepared for school.

And also, for the children who's parents neglect them and treat them like crap, we gave love and attention and encouraged their growth,

Its not daycare that ruins children, its the parents.

Answer 7

very crazy, i think the kids in daycare can be more adjusted to different enviornments, than there "mom only" counterparts. I've put my children in daycare while I worked and have stayed home. Some people don't have a choice and both parents must work. who is anyone to judge anyone else?????

Answer 8

I'm sure you would feel the same if you were a stay at home mom putting in all your time nurturing a child in the hopes that they will be the best they can be as a result of your efforts. Best wishes

Answer 9

I understand the need for daycare and why parents have no choice sometimes but to send their children to daycare. But there have been studies that show the negative effects of daycare on children, as follows:

http://www.familyfacts.org/findingdetail.cfm?finding=7339
The more hours children spent in daycare centers, the more likely care providers were to report such behavioral problems as immature behavior, attention problems, and aggressive behavior when the child was 54 months old. The same relationship between hours in daycare and behavior problems existed, with regard to center care experienced at any earlier period of the child's life.

Source
"Type of Child Care and Children's Development at 54 Months"
NICHD Early Child Care Research Network
Early Childhood Research Quarterly Vol. 19, Number 2. , 2004. Page(s) 203-230.

http://www.familyfacts.org/findingdetail.cfm?finding=7344
The more hours children spent in a daycare center as infants, the lower their preacademic skills were when they were 54 months old; The more hours children spent in a daycare center as toddlers, the higher their language skills were when they were 54 months old.

Source
"Type of child care and children's development at 54 months"
NICHD Early Child Care Research Network
Early Childhood Research Quarterly Vol. 19, Number 2. , 2004. Page(s) 203-230.

http://www.familyfacts.org/findingdetail.cfm?finding=5588
Spending full days in day care was associated with a rise in children's levels of cortisol, a potent steroid hormone that is regarded as "stress-sensitive" and affiliated with experiences of fearfulness and vulnerability to stressors. Among infants (aged 3 to 16 months) who were in daycare, 35 percent experienced a rise in cortisol levels throughout the day, while 75 percent of toddlers (aged 16 to 36 months) experienced a rise in cortisol levels throughout a day-care day. There was no change in the cortisol levels over the day regardless of age when the infants and toddlers were at home.

Source
"Morning to Afternoon Increases in Cortisol Concentrations for Infants and Toddlers at Child Care: Age Differences and Behavioral Correlates"
Watamura, Sarah E.
Donzalla, Bonny, Alwin, Jan; and Gunnar, Megan R.
Child Development Vol. 74, Number 4. July/August, 2003. Page(s) 1006-1020.

http://www.familyfacts.org/findingdetail.cfm?finding=7542
Among low-income children who were securely attached to their mothers, those in the care of their mothers from infancy through age 3 scored higher on cognitive assessments at 30 and 36 months than those who had been in child care.

Source
"Joint influence of child care and infant attachment security for cognitive and language outcomes of low-income toddlers"
Spieker, Susan J.
Nelson, Dana C., Petras, Anthippy; Jolley, Sandra N.; and Barnard, Kathryn E.
Infant Behavior and Development Vol. 26, Number 3. August, 2003. Page(s) 326-344.

http://www.familyfacts.org/findingdetail.cfm?finding=7148
While researchers did not observe increased aggression in children who spent more hours in child care, caregivers rated these children as significantly more aggressive.

Source
"Child care and children’s peer interaction at 24 and 36 months."
NICHD Early Child Care Research Network
Child Development Vol. 72, Number 5. , 2001. Page(s) 1478-1500.

Answer 10

Good point.

You know, it's just like breastfeeding, abortion, sex before marriage, etc. People have SUCH strong opinions...and often times, they 'back up' these opinions with second-hand, off-the-wall 'facts.' I would have COUNTLESS violations if I told these idiots how I REALLY feel. I just have to TRY to ignore their ignorance.