First of all he is a pathological liar, even when he is completely backed into a corner he often won't confess until several hours or even days later of questioning by my parents.
He is 20 now and has been working for over a year on getting his high school education completed after failing to graduate with his class in 2005, he is so incredibly close only like 5 hours from finishing.
He is living with my parents since he can't afford to move out, although he had moved out for awhile till him and his "friends" were evicted.
He has been involved in drugs of various kinds, even trying meth atleast once. He has stolen and pawned some of my parents posesions to pay for drugs.
He says he want's to get out of that lifestyle but he always seems to end up slipping again. He's finally got a job that he says he is happy with and says that he's got less time to be doing stuff he isn't supposed be doing... but who know's.
Anybody been in similar situations that can offer any advice?
2006-07-28 10:12:28 · 5 answers · asked by Justaguyinaplace 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The best thing might be to get him going to a 12-step program, even if someone in the family has to go with him. You and your family should probably go to narc-anon meetings to learn the best ways to deal with him.
I wish you all the best.
I had a cousin who was an alcoholic most of his life. You could never trust him to tell the truth. He once tried to sell my Dad a car that we found out later had been stolen.
He's dead, now, and I'm not sure if he ever got himself straightened out, because our family had little contact with him.
From things my other cousins have said, I guess he spent some time in jail, too. It was harder on them, since he was their brother.
2006-07-28 10:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by Nosy Parker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My step son was into stealing and drugs and all that stuff. He stole a truck when he was in the 10th grade and went to boot camp in Texas. His mother told me he was doing good after he graduated from a military type school, and I thought everything was ok.
I just found out after I divorced his dad, he went to prizon for 4 yrs for forgery and theft. You can see his name and photo under the Illinois dept of corrections. Some people never learn. I think he has a mental problem.
Your parents need to cut the rope and quit being enablers. He is never going to learn if they let him come home and disrupt their lives. My step sons grandparents bought him nice cars, new clothes, gave him money and basically kept him. He never learned. He will be a career criminal.
2006-07-28 17:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Brother In Law is the Same Person...hes scheduled for release from prison in 15 days third trip downif he dosent change thats where your brother is going
2006-07-28 17:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I suppose that as long as he has strong family support then it's foolproof. Just make sure he knows that you and your parents are there for him when he falls. My brother's been through some really serious problems, but now he's doing extremely well for himself. He knows his family is there for him!
Best of luck.
2006-07-28 17:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by Angela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not your brother's keeper. You can suggest, if asked, but you can't force any changes in his life style. He has to grow up on his own.
P.S. Your parents are helping him, they are enabling him.
2006-07-28 17:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by voandginger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋