i dont have kids yet..but i was spanked by everybody in my fam..my uncles..aunts even cousins..im not letting anybody lay a hand on my children...im going 2 b the one 2 whoop on their buttcheeks...
do u or would u let someone spank on your kids???
2006-07-28 10:04:29 · 12 answers · asked by mikey 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
im mexican soo everybody b romping on thier kids asses....
2006-07-28 10:12:17 · update #1
Nobody else should discipline your child. You are the parent AND guardian; it is your job to protect them, even from well deserved whoopins from family members.
Your kids also have to see you protect them, not just tell them that you're going to. If my mother or one of my sisters spanked one of my children, I'd be up to my neck in their a**.
It is MY responsibility to discipline my child, and whatever offense YOU think she needs discipling for is for ME to decide.
I'm 100% with you on this.
2006-07-28 10:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
spanking is utterly stupid.
it lowers the child's iq. it builds resentment. it teaches that people who 'love' you can hurt you. it drives behavior underground, doesn't change it. and, it doesn't work.
given all this, neither you nor anyone should hit your child. Bravo for you!
disciplline means to teach. lots of people can teach your child, but if they hit or yell at your child, they have in that moment utterly failed to teach anything good.
be strong. never let anyone hit your child. my parents hit me and they were mature and strong enough to admit it was wrong. few people can do this. i hope your family can.
it doesn't matter that your family is hispanic. so the f what? we're talking about abusing children. the color of the skin being assaulted by a mommy (sob) is irrelevant. in fact, violent parenting probably accounts for some of the extreme violence in underclass black and hispanic neighborhoods.
of course it is possible not to hit. you know it is wrong and you decide you will never do it. period. you will never hit your boss, will you? see your child as a human being, as an individual, as a trusting soul wholly dependent on you. look into their eyes are you lay a violent hand on them.
don't turn them over so you can't see the violence you are inflicting, and even justifying, sometimes, sickly, using god to do it. you believe in this - look them in the eye and do it.
i would hope that you would be human enough that you would vomit your guts out before you could lay a violent hand on a child.
don't excuse it. what garbage. my immigrant ancestors were violent, drunken, and ignorant. so i should be too? that's not why they came here, you know.
2006-07-28 10:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I'd rather I did it, but I'm ok with someone else telling my kid "No, you can't do that" if they know I won't approve of it either. I don't mind an extra pair of eyes looking out to make sure my babies don't get hurt, ya know? But I would prefer people to let me do the spanking. UNLESS they are with a babysitter that knows they need to spank the kid to teach a lesson.
2006-07-28 10:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing the person who keeps your kids is a very good idea. Because when your not there a lot can go on that your not aware of. You must have a great deal of trust. Plus be consistant with your discipline.
2006-07-28 10:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by stripeman3035 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person in my family who beat our butts was my dad. He liked to use his belt on us, slam our heads together, etc. Now that I have my own kids, I won't let anyone discipline them, not even my husband. I do it. I try not to spank them (who are we kidding, that doesn't work). But I don't let anyone put their hands on my kids.
2006-07-28 10:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never allow anyone to discipline my child. I do that myself, but I also dont beleive in spanking...there are other ways of getting children to behave.
2006-07-28 10:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by geet840 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 2 children and i don;t spank my children, i do not think it is the answer, being sent to bed or to be grounded is more effective and i believe it is more appropriate, i was kicked and punched as a child and it has made me more determined not to spank my children. i would not anybody spank my children as i do not do it myself.
2006-07-28 10:12:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. The only two that can discipline is me and my husband. Anyone every raised a hand to my son and they would be in the hospital so fast their head would spin.
2006-07-28 16:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let someone else spank my children because they are my responsibility. However, I would let them verbally discipline them as long as it was appropriate.
2006-07-28 10:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by Fivens 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no one but myself and my husband are allowed to punish our son when we are around. Now the only other people who watch him are great-grandma and grandpa, they are the only other ones that can Punish him, but they don't when i am around. I don't think that everyone should be able to punish the child, that's stupid only the parents or the kids caregiver.
2006-07-28 10:20:27 · answer #10 · answered by fandj4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋