My pregnant wife is upset because her boss would not give her a new schedule?

Question

My wife has spoken to her boss about getting a new schedule after the baby is born.

She wanted to leave at 2pm everyday because her boss said it would be okay a few months ago.

Well now her co-worker decided she wanted to leave at 2pm so she could make sure her 16 and 17 get home after school because its too hard for them to call her when they get home.

Her kids are not into trouble, she was just saying this because she wanted to go home early too.

Well, the boss said they both can’t leave at 2pm. So she told my wife no since the co-worker has been employed there longer.

My wife was super upset because she feels a new mother should be chosen over the other co-worker.

She wants to find another job now even though she loves her job.

Is it right that my wife is upset?

She will be on maternity leave for 3 months, then she wanted to come back to work and leave at 2pm.

Screw all the people bashing daycare. Our baby will be with my wife's mother for 5 hours a day. You think that's neglect? To be with someone who loves you for a few hours? Get real.

Answer 1

your wife has every right to be upset..She may be able to find something to better suit her hours somewhere else...or maybe they could rotate the schedule and your wife do M&W and the other women do T&T and they could alternate fridays...

dont listen to the people who bash daycare...or bash bottle feeding..or bash feeding baby solids before a year old...etc...Everyone has an opinion and what is important is to do what works for your family...

Good Luck and Congrats on the baby

Answer 2

What is upsetting is that the boss committed to your wife and then changed her mind. Neither your wife or the co-workers children are more important than the other so I wouldn't take sides there. The boss does have a point with seniority however it was your wife's request and the boss said it would be allowed. I would be upset too. Is there a compromise? Could your wife come in a few hours later to have morning time with baby since the other is leaving early? It may not be what she wanted but it may work she would still have time with the baby which is what is important. Good luck, I would try to find a solution as she loves her job. However I understand she feels betrayed.

Answer 3

your wife is over-reacting! why does she feel she should be given special treatment and someone with more time on the job should get less? the person that has been there longer SHOULD get to pick her hours first! your wife is being selfish... the other lady probably had to be away from her children as they were growing up and she wants to have some quality time with them since they will be grown and gone VERY SOON... your wife will have 18 years... maybe when your kid is 16 she can get out of work at two. SELFISH, why do people only think of themselves?

you mentioned that the 16 & 17 year olds aren't any trouble... well, neither is a baby. i suggest that your wife get a new job where maybe she can throw a temper tantrum and get the attention she feels is owed to her!

Answer 4

This is what I did...I told my boss that I was nursing and you have to do that every 3-4 hours so I said he can either let me work 9-4 with lunch from 12-1 so I can nurse before work go home at 12 nurse then go back to work from 1-4 or he can provide me with a private area for me to have someone bring my baby in 3 times a day and nurse. Now here is the kicker by law the boss doesn't have to change your schedule but by law they have to allow you to nurse and provide you with a private area to do so. So you can see why my boss decided to allow me to work the hours I requested. Keep in mind that your baby might want to nurse every 2 hours and it takes at least 1/2 hour each time and I don't think they can take you off the clock so the boss would be paying for your wife to nurse when ever she wants. Also the law says that she can pump as well so your wife could go pump every two hours. The reason why I am telling you all this is because most bosses especially men are not comfortable knowing that some women is sitting in the back room 3-4 times a day with her boob hanging out and a baby sucking on it. So whether you are going to nurse or not tell him you are going to and you are going to need the schedule worked around that or you (your wife) is going to be nursing and/or pumping at work. I bet he changes his tune!

Answer 5

Man,

Obviously she is upset for the stupid irrational behavior of her boss. Unfortunately, supervisors/bosses in the workplace take a bad action against or "retaliate" against what a not commong worker is, such as a pregnant woman, minority, handicapped person, and so on, you name it.

What you can do so far, and all you can do is to stay on your wife's side and support her. Whether she may be wrong or not in this situation, just stand by her side. A pregnant woman just goes entirely over more feelings/emotions than a nonpregnant woman may go.

Now, relax. You can report your wife's boss behavior to the Department of Labor or your State Department of Labor. They will surely know what to do against his actions. There's something so called Family and Medical Leave (FMLA) that may help in the way.

Answer 6

the other lady needs to be home after school OR her kids will get into trouble.

when an infant is away from its mother for more than an hour at the most, the baby's brain floods with stress hormones which impair learning and predispose the child to depression. the child learns that its efforts to get what it wants (mommy) are in vain and that world is a cruel place that doesn't care about its needs.



day care is so damaging to babies, you don't want to use it. plan now for your wife to not have any job that would require any time away from your infant. as your baby's father, you should want the best for your baby.

human infants evolved to need their mothers' arms, and human milk on demand. not daddy, not grandma, mommy. research on day care's bad effects - and there are so many - holds true for nanny, grandma and daddy. baby evolved to need mommy.

if your baby isn't with mommy 24/7 and getting breastmilk on demand, then your baby is being harmed. iq is lower, health is worse, depression and anxiety more likely, and, guess what, if baby goes into day care, dad is more likely to be disapproving of the baby!

you don't want that, right?

this job thing is stupid. focus on giving your baby what it needs - her mommy!

Because of the way day care utterly violates the needs and rights of an infant and toddler, use of day care is abuse and neglect of your child. That seems like a pretty lousy plan to begin your baby's new life. Her love of her job is for the past and for the future. Right now is for your child. Give it what it deserves.

Answer 7

She is right to be upset...about the fact that her co worker is a selfish *****! But she cant be mad at the boss...he has a business to run. In this day of being politically correct about everything your wife cant expect special treatment just because she is going to be a new mom.... she wouldnt expect to be treated worse so why shoud she get treated better ya know? Allthough I do totally understand why she is upset....that other lady with th eteenage kids is just rude....

Answer 8

Yes your wife has the right to be upset, I would never argue with a pregnant women. Maybe your wife should have a heart to heart with her co-worker and explain her situation, and ask if they can come to compromise, maybe they can split up the days, and time. Maybe the co-worker goes home early M & W and your wife T, TH and F. or whatever. hopefully your wifes co-worker is nice and sensible ( she should be since she does have kids )
Good Luck

Answer 9

The boss can not give preferance because of pregancy or an impending birth but a boss can give preferance based on tenure. I guess your wife should start to look for another job.

Answer 10

I think that your wife does have reason to be upset.The co-worker just wants to go home early but your wife needs to get home to see your child so I say that it is unfair the boss does needs to overlook that.