My gf is leaving to work in Thailand for a year, I'm finishing up my last year of undergrad. 12 hour time difference is a killer... what do you think?
2006-07-28 09:53:49 · 18 answers · asked by toocool006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Communication and trust is essential to keeping a long-distance relationship, just as it is in a normal relationship.
You will have to have absolute faith and trust in your partner and them you.
And as a means of communication, make all of the following a regular habit:
-Letters (They are more personal and have more substance than an e-mail, so don't just skip this one. I think maybe...once a month?)
-Telephone calls (Probably every other day or so...at least twice a week.)
-E-mail (I suggest twice a day. One in the morning discussing what your days plans are and one in the evening explaining how your day went. This keeps each other connected on your day-to-day activities, which is important.)
-Text messaging (On the go and up to date.)
-Instant messaging (A good rule of thumb is to do this as often as you call, on the days you don't.)
-Sending gifts (Don't focus too much on this one, though, if you know what I mean.)
-Shared online activities (Multiplayer online games, music, news articles, etc.)
-Shared offline activities (Listening to the same music, watching the same movie, etc.)
Your other problem would be figuring out the time difference what with phone calls and such...but basically...
You have to remain a constant in each others lives, stay actively connected with each other.
What's meant to be will always find a way. There is no distance between two hearts in love. And besides, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Take care!
2006-07-28 09:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by flod_prfekshun 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's ONE YEAR so you know there is an end.
long distance relationships take a LOT of trust and a lot of communication. here are my suggestions:
email daily... just to stay in touch
try to find a time in the day you are both awake and available to try to IM each other a bit.
Schedule a phone call once or twice a month if you can afford that to hear each other's voice
Send lots of fun things back and forth in the mail... it helps keep you connected
make sure to send lots of pictures via email - she can send you cool things she has seen and done, you can send her pictures of you and of home since she might get homesick
Try to plan 1 or 2 trips to go out there and visit her, as well as her trying to come home once or twice while she is gone.
Those are my suggestions, it takes a LOT of trust to work through long distance. My former roommate lived in Italy for a year - she came home once during that time, and her boyfriend visited her 3 times... by the time she moved back home, he had bought a ring and they are no happily married!
2006-07-28 16:59:27 · answer #2 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a beautiful dream and yes it always seems to work out in the movies but this is reality and guess what? It sucks!! It's time to move on because letters and phone calls don't make up for the physical presence of the one that you love.
2006-07-28 17:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by tripping_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that a long distance relationship can work, I'm in a long distance relationship myself. My bf is going to Iraq later this month and has been stationed away from me an entire year before this news. You have to be able to communicate, communication and trust is the key to a success long distance relationship. Try it, its actually not that bad..............
2006-07-28 17:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by Monie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see boy it would work as long as u have trust on her and the vice versa the day you the bonding of trust u will get messed up so be loyal and committed to her my galfrnd lives in jamaica and me, i live in india 11hrs difference but we just love each other and just get shocked if i dont mail her up or she to me u know love is a sacred and divine feeling which can all the boundations of distance and all that boring things, ya it gives pain but thats love another name of sacrifice so just go and tell her that u love her and this distance wont matter u both people love each other
2006-07-28 17:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by aks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I live in Florida. My boyfriend of two and a half years lives in Boston. So far it's worked quite well for us. But only because we both have very fulfilled lives otherwise. If your life evolves around your girlfriend, forget it. If you are secure with yourself first, and then with your relationship, and she is the woman you want, be patient and go for it.
2006-07-28 16:58:53 · answer #6 · answered by Emm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...just make sure you visit her a lot. If that doesn't work, you might wanna move on. Sorry. I'm in a long distance relationship too, but not as far as you.
2006-07-28 16:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by CC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not with a 12 hour time difference
2006-07-28 16:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are planning to move to Thailand, or she is moving back, then it is possible you could make it work. However, one of you will probably meet someone else between now and then.
2006-07-28 16:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by El Guapo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They never have for me and a 12 hr time diff is hard. I say try but if it doesnt work then dont beat yourself up for it.
2006-07-28 16:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋