Ok, here is the deal... I have dated this same guy on and off for almost 3 years now... We went through some really hard times these past few months and now we are no longer together... He started date a new girl who i have been told looks alot like me... I don't think she even knows i'm alive... But he still calls me all the time... asks me for pictures and tells me he misses me and all kinda stuff... But he has this gf... So my question is y is he still talking to me and why did he jump into a relationship so quick...
P.S. it is a long distance relationship because we are at different schools Do i even bother with this anymore even if i still love him?
2006-07-28 09:16:35 · 18 answers · asked by Christina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He can't have his cake and eat it too.
He jumped into a relationship so quickly because he's scared of being alone and wants someone around. The poor girl though, because she probably thinks it's all going great but in reality he's obviously still not let go of you properly.
Don't think about him - think about you. What do YOU want? If you still want to be with him, then ask him outright why he's still getting in touch. Ask him if he's prepared to finish with this girl and get back with you. If the answer's no, or you don't want him back in the first place then cut him out of your life completely and make it clear to him that contact is not welcome - that might be hard in the short term but in the long run you'll get over it all so much more easily. Make it very clear to him that he can't have a new girlfriend and keep messing with your head.
Good luck, I hope it works out for you.
2006-07-28 09:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 14⤊ 2⤋
Dear confused:
Your ex is going through the " having your cake and eating it too" complex. I would suggest if you still have strong feelings for him then talk to him and tell him. As for the other women, there is not much you can do. IHe has to make that choice. But in doing this give yourslef a time limit to recindle the relationship. M
Respectfully,
Been there Done that!
2006-07-28 09:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥Soon to Be Mrs.F♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to forget about this guy. If he has a new girlfriend and still pesters you, why doesn't he leave her? It sounds like he wants you as well as her, in which case he is best avoided. Even if you still love him, this man is going behind her back and telling another woman (you) that he misses her. I wonder how she would feel if she knew he was telling you he missed you. Bearing that in mind, consider how you would feel if you started going out with him again, and then found out he was telling that girl how much he missed her. He needs to decide who he really wants, and take my advice, don't wait around for him to decide. He sounds fickle.
2006-07-28 09:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by Rotifer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u still love him then maybe theres something between u guys that u guys havnt figure out yet. and i think that he jump into a relationship really fast b/c he thinks that nothing will happen between u guys anymore and whats the point and if alot of ppl think that this girl look like u then maybe he went out with her b/c that girl remind him of u that i think is a wrong thing to do. but i think that maybe u guys should talk and figure things out like if there still something between u guys,will anything happen to u guys again,how does he feel about u and yea long distance is hard but if u guys love each other then it will happen.
2006-07-28 09:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only young and things like this happen a lot whilst growing up... I wouldnt worry so much and the only advice i could give u would be to find a boy nearer to you and if possible still remain friends with the other guy.. Whatever u decide,i hope all goes well for you..
2006-07-28 09:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young. Don't waste time rekinling old flames. You can find a great man that isn't your X. Time to move on. As far as him calling you....I'd let him know that you are ready to move on and that a real man doesn't cheat. Don't take it as a compliment in what he's doing. That is not a good man. You can do better as I said.
2006-07-28 09:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No; move on, he's just keeping you hanging on in case this new relationship doesn't work out...I'm a man, and I did the same thing years ago ..;I thought it was clever at the time but I'm ashamed to admit it now...I wasn't worth it, and neither is he..
2006-07-28 09:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by murphy51024 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u love him then u ask him what u just asked in your question. since he has a girl that looks just like u he probably misses u.
2006-07-28 09:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by Life Is Great 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He broke up with you, now you have to be the strong one and resist communication with him. He will go back and forth for indefinite period of time if you let him. You don't need the drama, free yourself up to meet someone who is deserving of you.
2006-07-28 09:20:19 · answer #9 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest moving on. Sounds like he wants to be with her but hold you on the side. You deserve better then that.
2006-07-28 09:19:07 · answer #10 · answered by movu101779 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋