what is so wrong with knowing what i want from a guy?

Question

can i just find a guy to tie up seduce, have my way with and them tell him to go home and come back tomorrow night? why do they always want to spend the night?

Answer 1

Girl I know what you are saying. They always call and hang around. What if all the GIRL wants is sex ya know? I feel you! It most be a pretty girl problem.

Answer 2

I am dominant also, and have been into it for about 4 years. Not that long but long enough to gain some experience and learn a good bit. I am involved in a BDSM group in my area (Tucson AZ) and I highly recommend that if you have one in your area you go, at least for the discussions. Be careful, some see our kink as abuse still when really it isn't. It is consentual between two adults. Most that aren't into the lifestyle are confused or get confused.

BDSM is an art, and a way of life. I am very much dominant. However I did try being submissive. While it was great that I learned the "other sides point of view" and that I learned many new techniques, being submissive is not for me. Though I do like to do it everynow and then to learn new views and make sure I know the other side. To each their own!

How long have you been into this?

If you are not near anyone that posts to this question, and you want to get a partner, check out sites like http://www.alt.com , or http://www.bondage.com , and others to find what / who you are looking for. Otherwise do searches in google/ask for "BDSM in (your area)." Normally some will pop-up.

If you need to know anything else feel free to email me at [e-mail]. Take care, and good luck in the lifestyle, whether a new fetish or one you are trying to grow upon!

Answer 3

Good lord, brace yourself for the number of emails you are going to get with that one.

But I'll be good and just answer honestly. Guys want to spend the night because they either think you want them too, or because they want to spend more time with you.

Nothing wrong with it, just be aware that as you get older, what you want is going to change, and you'll eventually have to deal with your past.

Be careful, very careful, follow every single safety precaution you can with meeting new people, use protection and stay safe.

And tell the guy what you expect out of them, its actually surprisingly tough on a guy to know that he's just being used for sex.

Answer 4

There is nothing at all wrong with going for what you want and to be honest I do not see why your having the problem unless your not being up front with the men you bring home. this way you weed them out and the issues dies. you will only have men for your amusement - but word of warning men who are willing to be used are usually used by many may want to see just how many gloves you can get on the hand. good luck.

Answer 5

Keep looking, you'll find him. And if he does want to spend the night, just gag him and leave him tied up in the front room for the night.

Answer 6

Nothing is wrong with knowing what you want and you should always know what you want befor you choose the guy you want to be with. Just make sure he doesnt have a history of cheating cause once a cheater, always a cheater

Answer 7

Doing things like that can take a lot of energy out of a guy. He may just be tired and not want to drive home.

Answer 8

There is nothing wrong in knowing what you want but there is
something wrong in sending your guy home after a good outing
unless you are tired with his company.

Answer 9

Spend the night??? Why? Girls gone wild comes on at 3!! LMAO

Answer 10

Good question. WHEN I was dating I wondered why men want to stay the night.