My husbands daughter likes this 16 year old boy that goses to our church and shes only 12 but she will be 13 in october what should i do?
2006-07-28 08:53:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You don't ... that is your husbands job ... he needs to be involved in his daughters life and be the disciplinarian
2006-07-28 08:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by me 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is he returning her attention, or is this just a crush? You may have to be the bad guy on this one. Explain to her that 16 year old boys who can't date 16 year old girls have something wrong with them. Who's this 16 year old picking up on 12 year olds?
On the other hand, if it's just a one-sided crush, you may be best off to let her crush and get her heart broken naturally. It hurts almost as much to watch as it does to live through, but that way you aren't an evil monster trying to kill love, you're just her mom who supports her when she's down.
Good luck.
2006-07-28 08:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by Beardog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't say anything. If she does it, she does it. You've already gave your opinion. She will just go behind your back and do it, and wouldn't you rather like for her to bring him over than him and her together in the church parking lot? She'll probably not have much of a chance anyway, 16 yr old boys usually don't go for Junior High girls, and if they do, they're told off by their friends, and made fun of.
2006-07-28 08:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is wonderful of you to be concerned about your step-daughter! I love it! You know, depending on how good of a relationship you have with her, she might be just old enough to sit down and chit chat about boys-express to her you want her always to be careful and that you love her. But she's getting into those teenage years so another idea (since most teens are so resistent to adult chit chat) is just sit back and see where it leads. If he's 16, he might not be interested in her, but if he is, tell her that you think it's great that they're friends and tell her to invite him over sometime to hang out with her and some friends (this way you can supervise and see what kind of kid he is). Plus, if he goes to church with you, he might be a good kid, but regardless, teens will be teens.
If you all go to church, express to her that you think it is wonderful she is developing into a young woman and you are proud of her but you want her to always remember to respect herself and not to go too fast. I think genuine talk like this might help. I would have wanted my mom to do that.
2006-07-28 09:03:25 · answer #4 · answered by operamemartexpo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't really need to do anything unless you honestly suspect the older boy likes her and something may happpen.most likely she is just crushing, and you telling her he is to old could just hurt her and make her resent you. if you honestly think there is a possibility of a hook up, talk to your step daughter in an extremely nice, supportive way. tell her that it's nice to have a crush on an older boy, but it would be hard to relate to one so much older, and that she would be missing out on other boys her own age.Also explain to her that he would be in college while she was just starting highschool. Try in get her interested in boys her own age, and try and relate to her and be a "girlfriend" for a while. let her talk to you about things girls her age talk about, and help her build trust in you so she knows you sren't just putting her down
2006-07-28 09:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and your husband need to sit down together and discuss this, then once you figure out what age diffrence is your limit (say.. 2 yrs?) then bring her in and explain this new rule with her. She will protest as much as possible and constantly try on convience you other wise. Enforce this rule.. You may want to re analize once she gets older but for now be strick about it, even if it makes you the "uncool" parent , if you have ot go as far as asking for ID or calling their parent to find out, do so. Theres so many creeps in the world today, as well as idiots. Remember, its for her own good.
2006-07-28 09:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by sera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's sweet that you are concerned, that shows that you care about her. Just be honest and talk to her and explain your point of view with real arguments, and try to introduce her to other guys her age, she's a kid and she desn't know anything about life and less about 16 year olds, give her some guidance
2006-07-28 09:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her hes like 13 and ur 16 ur too old for him, try to indroduce her to guys her age at the church
2006-07-28 08:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if hes a church boy he may be decent and thats only like 2 + yrs apart hes not to old for her. what do u want her to date a little kid or something most girls like older males and its not like hes and adult
2006-07-28 09:02:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really hard since your not her real mother so I would tell your husband about your concerns and both talk to her together.
2006-07-30 06:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you now the boy's parent's maybe you and your husband could set down and have a talk with them and let them now that she is to young for there son. good luck
2006-07-28 08:57:59 · answer #11 · answered by lipsmackinghotauntie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋