2006-07-28 08:46:17 · 47 answers · asked by grandefrapnowhip 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I say pretend it never happened.and if your husband finds out,still pretend it never happened.
2006-07-28 08:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
The bad thing about this situation is that your father in law would probably want to do it again, you should think about what was the real reason you slept with him, maybe you were attracted to him, you cant blame it on the wine unless you were passed out in which you probably wouldnt remember you did it and then youll just be a victim..but if you were sober enough to remember then you wanted to have sex with this man, maybe your just not that into your husband..i say tell him and leave him and find someone you will be faithful to even when you have a "little too much wine" preferrably a man with a real ugly father...
2006-07-28 09:01:03 · answer #2 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you plan on splitting up a whole family, then by all means spill the beans. If you don't want to ruin a relationship between father and son, then keep your mouth closed. If this was a friend, or co-worker or a stranger, I'd be saying tell your hubby. But not in this case. And out of all people, why the father-in-law? ewww. And I don't believe about the wine. Alcohol is an excuse and a poor one at that.
2006-07-28 08:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your conscience gets the better of you, yes, you should tell him. But be prepared for the possible wrath, even if you yourself knows it was a one-time mistake. Won't be easy to convince your husband it was a mistake, because his trust in you, and his own father, would be broken. If you and father-in-law can come to an understanding that it was only a weak moment between you two, and will never happen again, then I wouldn't bother telling husband.
2006-07-28 09:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by tramps3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am so sorry that you had this experience. Was your father in law drinking too? I'd hate to think he took advantage of you. No matter how much it hurts. You have to be honest with your husband. It's for the best. Hiding something like this, and him finding out another way will destroy your marriage. There is no easy answer. I wish you the best.
2006-07-28 08:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by sleepless in the ATL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no, he might kill the both of you...Well, maybe just you, he might give his father the benefit of the doubt and blame you. You must have had more than "a little too much" wine for your father in law to start looking as good as your husband does to you, lol! Ewww, my father in law, gross, I don't even think of him as handsome, he's just gross all the way around, and weird!
2006-07-28 08:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by duvaldiva.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can see things happen sometimes when your in a vaunerable state. But I would be completely honest when the time was right. If he loves you and everything maybe you can work through it and if he has problems with it which of course he will. Just make him see that you love him unconditionally and that you messed up it was a mistake its something that will never happen again. Hope this helps
2006-07-28 08:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by KC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i try very hard to be compationate and fair when i answer questions. i also try not to judge but i cant hold this back this time!
what the hell were you thinking!?!?!
do you realize exactly what you have done!?!
you have potentially ruined
1) your husbands entire sense of trust, not just in you but probably in everyone seeing as this involves his father
2) your mother in law. she has to find out that HER husband cheated on her ith her sons $lutty wife
3) an entire family who loved you and trusted you
my suggestion would be to tell your husband IMMEDIATELY!! i would also pack your bags and leave of your own accord. there is no way that you can fix what you have done. be prepared for the worst. i dont condone hitting in most cases but i seriously believe that you deserve a good a$$ kicking. i hope you feel guilty for the rest of your life for what you have done! you make me sick!
2006-07-28 09:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, weigh your options...How pissed is he gonna be when he finds out later and from his dad and not from his own wife? That is gonna suck....Sux 2 B U right now, huh? I would just tell him the truth. Honesty really is the best policy. If you can beat his dad to the punch, he'll probably forgive you. But if you're sleeping with his dad no matter how much you had to drink, then you have way bigger problems than this...
2006-07-28 08:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by mizzmisti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh oh. i sense complication in your future. yes, tell him. the only way you can possibly fix this is with truth. ...would you rather he found out from someone else? because he will. why not just fess up? although you have some major explaining to do, atleast whatever happens, you can approach it from the right angle once everything is out in the open. your father in law is also wrong for sleeping with you. He should also be held accountable.
2006-07-28 08:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I really hope you're joking!!! Is anything sacred? Dumb question... of course not. Yes, you should tell your husband. Then, go out and get yourself a lawyer because he'll probably want a divorce.
I know stuff happens, but you should have never put yourself in that situation.
2006-07-28 08:51:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋