2006-07-28 08:44:39 · 16 answers · asked by prmami4eva_17 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because the particular guys you're talking about don't actually mean it. Pure and simple if you ask me. (Perhaps you should consider persuing someone of a completely different personality type altogether if the guys you date now have this trouble.)
For some reason, (and this is going to sound very weird to you women at first) I think the majority of men take the word "love" way more seriously than women.
Do you ever wonder what a lot of those loser guys out there you catch eying you out of the corner of your eye, but never have the balls to walk up to you and say anything are thinking? Aside from thinking you're sexy, attractive, and definitely someone they'd "do," I believe there lies something else in the back of their minds. I believe they think, "Now that's someone I COULD love." Now this probably isn't exactly what EVERY single one of those guys who ever eyed you was thinking, but I have it on good authority that I'm not far off about most of them.
Guys are conditioned to think differently than women do. I'm fairly sure if you had a brother, he wasn't into Barbi dolls, and it's likely that you didn't grow up playing with "action figures" either. I think we can all agree on what I'm talking about now. Now, this might just be me rambling about a whole lot of nothing here, but have you ever considered what effects the fairytales you were told as a little girl might have had on the way you think now?
Maybe you have fantasies that have stayed with you all the way back from your childhood. Come on, what girl didn't dream of being rescued from her boring life by her own "Prince Charming," and then live happily ever after with him yadda yaddi-blah... You remember.
You're probaby wondering why I brought up something so obscure as this, but I do have a point that might just answer your question...and, I'm going to get to it very shortly, so just role with it for now, and try to keep an open mind about what I'm saying.
So we've covered POSSIBLY why most women are a little more free about "love," because they REALLY just want to live out that special fantasy where they live happily ever after with her man, (What woman doesn't want that?) but hold up a second. Us guys were told the same fairytales as the girls, perhaps told a little less mushy, but pretty much told the same nonetheless. Curious, don't you agree?
For the sake of not wasting anymore of either of our time, if you would like to talk more about this, feel free to send me an email.
2006-07-28 08:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Axel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never had a problem saying i love u in public or phone some guys r and i believe it makes some them feel weak.
2006-07-28 15:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by jdhmusic3029 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, not all guys are reluctant to say it, but mainly because they are shy or embarassed. Guys, unlike girls, like to hide their emotions. When a guy says he loves you in a public place, it means he's putting his emotions where everyone can see. As a metaphor, you could say it would relate to somone being naked in public. Everyone is naked underneath the clothing, but it is hidden from the peering eyes of onlookers. Trust me, if a guy says he loves you in public, either he extremely good at faking it, or he truly means it.
2006-07-28 15:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by lonely_wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling their feelings is not something guys do. In fact they look down on guys who do it because it makes them look weak. You and your man could work out a code in private that when you're in public and you say a specific phrase he will say one in return. That way he can let you know he loves you without having to emasculate himself in front of other men.
2006-07-28 15:49:36 · answer #4 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about fear. Affection is not typically construed as a "manly" thing, especially not in public. Me personally, I would scream at the top of my lungs, buk-nekked, in Times Square, if I had a girl that I loved.
2006-07-28 15:51:07 · answer #5 · answered by LAW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cuz they want to be hard and don't want to show no one but you i guess that they have a soft side. But I call that bein a lil boy cuz if you love your woman and stuff you wouln't be afraid do nuthin in public maybe he not ready for you or a relationship
2006-07-28 15:54:50 · answer #6 · answered by !!yentruoc!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying "I love you" is a very personal thing. Sharing it with other people takes the specialness out of it. It sounds like you're looking for a performer.
2006-07-28 15:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they think its unmanly to show that kind of vulnerability, especially in public. Personally, I dont have a problem with it at all.
2006-07-28 15:49:54 · answer #8 · answered by Spellcaster97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we are raised to be the opposite of mushy. Think about it, if you were told to not walk like a duck or people would make fun of you from the time you learned to walk, are you going to walk like a duck? NO..same thing applies.
2006-07-28 15:49:22 · answer #9 · answered by esko1269 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are we? I suppose that quality exists in both sexes. I personally have no problem with PDA or saying " I love you," except when I don't.
2006-07-28 15:51:45 · answer #10 · answered by i_cycle_hard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋