2006-07-28 08:43:39 · 12 answers · asked by John W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's part of parenting...kids leave. Divorce just makes it tougher.
When my parents divorced, I lived with my mom. Then in college, I realized my mom wasn't going to allow me to have the freedoms I felt that I deserved as an adult, so I moved in with my dad and tried to repair my relationship with him. I still feel like I resolved a lot and it was the right thing to do even though we no longer speak. I don't have any 'what ifs' or regrets following me because I tried to fix things.
My mom, however, was hurt and angry. It made me feel like I could only have one parent or the other, not both. I now live in another state with my fiance. My mother is financing my wedding and my father is not even invited. When my mom acted out on her hurt and left me messages saying "you don't even know what you've done!" ... she almost lost me.
Please don't be that way to your daughter if you love her.
2006-07-28 08:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are times in a girls life when she just needs her mum its nothing personal. Just continue being her dad and loving her remember not to judge her for this. The less of a hard time you give her about it the more she will see you only want whats best for her . She will always be your daughter
2006-07-28 08:49:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i left my dads went to moms so i know what to say.... trust me she will be back. a daughter always wants her dads love. always be there with your arms open. i stop talking to my dad at 15yrs old. but i made sure he gave me away at my wedding 5 yrs later. there will be a time when she will need you and call on you for help. be there and love her. and she will love you back no matter what the hurts were before. at one time i thought i hated my father but when i needed help he was the one there for me. even though i dont see him as much as i like to now he knows i love him. maybe let ur daughter know u love her and will lways be there for her
2006-07-28 08:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u have a girlfriend or wife? maybe ur so hurt cuz u just need sum company in ur life. i mean ask ur daughter to plz come visit you like on holidays and such, but i mean pretty soon she'll be leaving her mom to go to college.
2006-07-28 08:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by MiiSS CHRiiSS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be true to yourself, you have done much to raise her and allow her to be the mature and capable person she should be, let her taste some more of maternal love also. Look at it as you have done a marvelous job cultivating her mind to be sane and loving to try new things in life. If you haven't been trying to be good to her, then i'm sorry but you don't deserve her choice.
2006-07-28 08:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by Wayne C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of how lucky u r to hav had her all this time and know that no matter what, the past u have with her can not be erased. be happy for her that she can have the chance to spend time w her mom. and chances are, she may hate it there and come back soon!!! good luck, dont stress.
2006-07-28 08:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will heal the hurt. She still loves you, and you'll still see her, and it's better than moving out to be with some dumb jerk guy!
2006-07-28 08:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by wishiwereatthebeach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do all of the above plus finding a hot woman, screw her brains out and get more daughters. or the less fun way is to adopt one
2006-07-28 08:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by nmahlburg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to take is personally - some girls just relate better to their mothers. When my parents divorced, my sister and I stayed with our mom. I'm sure she still loves you!!!!
2006-07-28 08:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by PiccChick12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her mom pay for her college.
2006-07-28 08:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by televisionmademewhatiam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋