My When to explain adoption?

Question

My daughter is 6. My husband and I have been together since I was 2 months preg. When we got married my daughter had my name so she understood that when we got married we both got new names. We went through the adoption after the wedding. She believes god put her in my belly. SO without going into the whole birds and the bees I'm not sure when to explain it. Her school psychologist says as soon as possible. I want to tell her someday but wondered what other parents thought or have had expereience with? Bio father had alcohol, drug and anger managment issues so his not in picture at all!!! She only knows my husband as Daddy which is really what he is!!!

Answer 1

This subject for some parents and children are tough but when she is old enough and really wants to know the truth more like the teens or older then explain to her the situation. Some kids and parents want to know about thier biologice family and others don't, sometimes the adoption subject can cause a lot of hurt and anger if brought into the open and other times it could bring joy and happiness it all depends on the person, the information surounding the case and so on.

Just let it e for now and just think how to explain it when she is older and concerning the issue why she was adopted and the fact that there was no mention of the biological father even making any attempt to be in the childs life she will probalby be curious but yet understand.

Answer 2

You really should tell her the truth immediately, the whole truth in the way that a 6 year old can understand. My sons father was a crackhead and I never kept that a secret from him. Your child is the product of an egg and a sperm, from you and her father, not an immaculate conception as you have made your child to believe. The more secrets you keep from her, the less she will trust you as she gets older and finds out these secrets. Secrecy and denial is part of what killed my sons father (he was adopted and didn't know until he was 30 and found out from his natural mom). His parents refused to accept the fact that he was addicted to drugs and kept giving him money and a place to live. Truth is the key to true happiness. Telling your child the truth will make you feel a lot better about the whole thing also.

Answer 3

in case you have faith expectant mothers are lined up at adoption companies anxiously giving their newborns away or that newborns are accessible waiting to be accompanied then you definately've offered into the toddler adoption industry propaganda. The adoption industry knows finished properly there's a shortage of wholesome newborns to fulfill the call for, yet that would not shop them from taking applications to undertake and doing homestead examine besides. A extra pertinent question to invite is - what's the multi-billion dollar toddler adoption industry doing to get newborns for this is waiting purchasers with earnings hand.

Answer 4

Hi - I appreciate and agree with your concerns. I dont understand why the school pschologist wants to do it? As long as it goes, i think its good to keep things going this way. As you say, dad is a dad and it should never make a difference.

Cheer..

Answer 5

Just tell her the truth. I am adopted, and the older you are when you find out the harder it is to deal with it.
I will have to think about the how to explain it part.

Answer 6

wow u are in a tuff situation hun, i think u should just let her know the truth but when shes older!!!shes to young to understand now

Answer 7

as soon as you want to and just make sure she knows her step daddy loves her and she is wanted and loved no matter whos child she is and good luck

Answer 8

This probably should have been done a LONG time ago.