You have a 5 year old daughter from a previous marriage. You have been seeing a new guy for a few months. You initially met online, then you emailed for a while, then you met for coffee a few times, then you went out on a couple of dates. You email each other daily. You talk on the phone about weekly. Until now, you have not allowed your man to become involved in your daughter's life. He says to you that he really enjoys his time with you and wants to take your relationship to the next level. he wants to be exclusive. Would you say yes?
2006-07-28 08:34:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do not involve this man in your daughters life until you are really sure that he is here to stay. She might end up getting attached to him and then poof one day he may be gone. My advice is to take it slow and don't rush things and if you do introduce them, make sure that you and him remain at a friendship level until afterhours. it is not healthy for a child to see their parent with many others exept their other parent and it could confuse them. He is your "friend" not hers so let it ve that until you really know what the deal is. I was with my boyfriend when my son was less than a year old, he ended up staying around until he was 6 but now we are not together and he asks for him all the time. This man raised my son as his but now that we have separate lives my child is not of great importance to him. So not only is his father gone, but so is the other man that raised him. I watch him suffer because he is young and doesnt understand that they didn't leave him, they are gone from the relationship with me.
2006-07-28 09:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by avandachi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would I had 3 kids and was in a similar situation. I took the chance and now 8 yrs later I have 4 kids and a very loving relationship with my man. If something happens and the relationship doesn't work your daughter will get over it . It's amazing how resilient children are.Please enjoy your self as if your not happy your daughter won't be either. and even single mums deserve happiness
2006-07-28 08:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes! Give him a chance. Obviously he is very kind and patient with you. Let him try to know your daughter. Maybe the things will work out..or may be not.. But you can't know this unless you try! Go ahead. :)
2006-07-28 08:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by ChillyღAngel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and you haven't told me about your daughter yet?What gives? Relationships are built on trust and honesty. Tell him now or risk losing him when he finds out.
2006-07-28 08:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not yet.
its still too early. and dont take him around your kid for a while.
everything is the color of freshly cut roses in the begining. all types of patience and calmness. wait til he gets comfortable see the behavior. theres wacos in this world in all types of shapes or forms
wait for a bit see how it goes. go out some more
2006-07-28 08:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by GrownNSexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that there is a kid and see how he feels about it. His reaction will let you know whether or not to take the next step.
Good Luck!!
2006-07-28 08:38:53 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i agree let him know about ur princess and see how he will react.... then it is up to you
good luck
2006-07-28 08:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by moi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you need to ask that question,than you know the answer!!!! it is your present
2006-07-28 08:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by IcyQueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta let ur daughter know ! or she'll hate him till the rest of her life ! then do wut ever u want !
2006-07-28 08:39:08 · answer #9 · answered by xxxXAshXxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋