I have been sleeping with my girl for a few months now. The problem is that she cannot keep up with me in the bedroom. I have tried to be patient and work with her, teach her, its to no avail. When I perform oral on her, her toes curl and I know she reaches climax. When we have intercourse, I make her body shake and most of the time (no girl has the big O EVERY time) However, she does not please me the same. Her B***J**s are poor, and on some (too many) occasions, I do not even climax during sex. Is it wrong for me to want to be with other woman b/c of this?
2006-07-28 08:30:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FYI--We have had discussions about this and I have tried everything to try and get her up to speed. She just does not get it
2006-07-28 08:35:11 · update #1
maybe you just want ANOTHER PERSON anyway and your heart is not into your girlfriend. maybe YOU are the one with the PROBLEM
2006-07-28 08:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a pretty sensitive issue... I'm not sure how you're going to broach the subject without hurting feelings, but if you can, there is a book out there that might be extremely helpful. It's by an author by the name of Lou Paget, and it's called How to be a Great Lover: A Girlfriend to Girlfriend Totally Explicit Techniques That Will Blow His Mind.
As for whether or not it's wrong of you to be with someone else... frankly, I'm not sure. It is a hazy issue... If she's not willing to work on this area, then no, it's not wrong of you - at least, I don't think so.
2006-07-28 08:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by Jinx U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First are you having safe sex ? Second do you love her ? It sounds like you might have more experience than her. Try going to the adult book store rent some movies watch them but talk about what you see because good sex comes from good communication most of the time they go hand in hand.
2006-07-28 08:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by dwight p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off let me say, BRAVO, for always taking the time to please your "girl". I would say if you are truly pleasing her, maybe she doesn't know that she is failing you. Try talking with her about it. Tell her what you do like and encourage her to continue doing it until you climax. Try different positions where it is a little less sensitive for her so she lasts longer.
2006-07-28 08:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by brew_1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's wrong because your suppose to be commited to this girl. I'm sorry that she performs poorly in the bed room, and orally. It's not means to break up with her but since you've been trying to teach her and she hasn't learned maybe you should consider it. I'm not telling you to and I'm not trying to sound mean, thats just what I think.
2006-07-28 08:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by lillady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch porn together. I was/am a very sheltered person. The first time I saw a guy naked was with the guy I am married to. So most of what I've learned was from porn or trial and error. Also, try to get aroused before you start, or give yourself a hand job all over her...
2006-07-28 08:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by isellpc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you teach her what you like. When she's giving you BJ's tell her what feels the best and 'guide' her. If she doesn't take the advice then move on or have a horrible sex life...your pick.
2006-07-28 08:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by JC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow sound likes you know what your doing in the bedroom...im kinda in the same situation but im in your position..its not wrong for you to want to be with other woman its perfectly natural for you to want what you dont have....have you mentioned this to her? the best thing is communication, my friend and i tell eachother what are the things that turn us on and what stops we liked caressed, kissed, or sucked...i mean im not an expert but dont have any complaints about my bj skills
2006-07-28 08:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!! If something is wrong talk with her and let her know what she is doing wrong then if that does not work don't just sleep with other girls but leave that one completely alone so she can find someone she is compatable with that is only fair.
2006-07-28 08:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys just don't have that connection but maybe your trying too hard so when it comes down to it your mind is set up for disappointment, you guys need to get drunk and go at it.
2006-07-28 08:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by candidworker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she experienced or is she new, she might need more time to understand your pleasures, explain to her what turns you on and how she should do it but dont seem like your telling her or she might get angry, discuss it with her you could play a view games ;) bring out the chocolate.. get what i mean then both of you can enjoy it
2006-07-28 08:36:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋