My mum had terminal cancer.For about 8 weeks we knew she was gonna pass away.Week by week we watched her getting weaker-to the point where she couldnt move she was just ticking over, she wasnt consciousce.She didnt even have the energy to lift her eyelid up.I sat with her on my own ( the first time on that particular day).I put my hand by her side-and this happened: Her hand moved onto my lower arm , and i felt her grip it lightly.She then went on to have her last breaths.Dont you think thats spooky?????? I do.
2006-07-28 08:25:01 · 29 answers · asked by tunachunks199 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Thanks for all the answers.Sorry jennycam thats terrible.
2006-07-28 09:04:08 · update #1
i lost 2 parents to terminalk cancer within 3 months of each other about nearly 3 years ago now, so i know exactly what you mean, my father i watched him go from 13 stone to just nearly 4 stone,he just held on until i arrived as we live in essex and he was in a hospice in klent nr madistone and as soon as my mum said shes here now love he smiled and just passed away, my mum reckoned at the time he was waiting for me to get there so get coulod go with all the family present.
when it came for mum mum to pass away, it was so different, she lay in her bunglalwo with my brother and his wife careing for her as i had done all i could do at the time,she was breathing oxygen, but didnt have the mask on before she died as the doctor, said there was nothing mreo he could do, it woulod be best to let her go her own way now, i had hold of her hand it was so thin with the weight shed lost and quite cold,she struggled to take breaths and it gos worse and worse, i said to her go on mum, goand be with dad now, she was asleep but smiled and just took one last breath and passed away or so i thought, my husband bend over her to check her pulse to make sure before calling the doctor to pronounce her and she gave another huge breath and scared us all, before she finally died.it as the worst thing ive ever seen, but she still had this smile on her face.
i dismissed it, but asked the doctor if she could of heard me before she died and he said that apparently the hearing is the last sense to go before you die , so shes heard what id said and had smiled at me.
ibe had weird stuff happen in my house since seriously and i am having it sorted as we are moving house soon, not cos of it though.
and yes this is spooky the way things happen at the time i agree with you.
2006-07-28 08:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by jennycamuk 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
No, I do not think that is spooky. She was telling you goodbye. I did not get to see my grandfather die (lung cancer). When my grandmother was told she had cancer I promised my self that I would be there no matter what and help her to. I watched my grandmother die and take her last breath. Before she died she could not open her eyes and my family was setting around her laughing and talking and the nurse looked at my grandmother and she told us that is was crying and she was. My grandmothe died happy and I know that and I would have not gave that up for anything. I miss her badly. Sorry to here about the loss of your mother but you will never forget the last moments you spent with her.
2006-07-28 08:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by njacobs7477 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's spooky. I'm a RN. I have been at the bedsides of several people who died. I have seen people who have been unconscious for weeks, suddenly open their eyes and get huge smiles on their faces. I have also had patients take hold of my hand and grip like your mother. I guess since I have seen several times it's not spooky to me.
2006-07-28 09:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by schroeders_piano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mum had liver cancer and i nursed her at home . for two days she was unconcious getting worse minute by minute. Completeley out of the blue and with an uncontrollable force i placed my fathers ring( My father died 4 years earlier) on to her finger. As the ring moved along her finger her breathing stopped and she passed away ... i am crying as i type this , the first time since that day . but anyhow i know what you mean
2006-07-28 08:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all I took care of my father for about four months as his health declined due to stage four lung cancer. My father would always stare at this corner in the room of our home. Every night he would stay awake until dawn came then he would dose off. I think that was because death was going to come like a thief in the night and it did at 3:35 am just as the sun was scheduled to rise at around 4:50! Before he passed my mother laid in a seperate room and prayed for God to take him because his breathing had become so labored and he could no longer eat or speak and it hurt to see him on his back in pain. My sister had also talked to him and said it was okay to go on! I never told him to go because I was pregnant and a selfish part of me wanted him to stay to see my daughters birth which was sheduled to be induced in about three weeks! I was always very strong and he new I would handle his passing better than the rest of the family. So when he passed I was there holding his head as he took his last breaths and I called my mother so that she could tell him that she loved him and to say goodbye for now. You were very lucky as was I because that was her way of communicating to you like my Dad did with me! Just typing this has brought back so many memories but to everyones surprise I was calm through this whole ordeal because he blessed me with the gift of being in my life and he in my mind will remain here with me!
2006-07-28 08:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not spooky, it was probably her way of acknowledging you being there and her way of saying a final goodbye. She probably used every last bit of energy she had to do that for you. You should be proud and happy that she managed to do that for you. (Which i'm sure you are). Take care. :)
2006-07-28 11:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by msj2uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was just saying goodbye before she broke the umbilical cord between the soul and the body.
She was probably out of body at the time and pain free, looking down at you with love.
Beautiful.
Love and Light
M
2006-07-28 08:33:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with everyone on here that said it's not spooky...it was her way of saying goodbye to you and to communicate that she loved you and thanked you for being there, so she wasn't alone in her final moments.
some of the other answers are extremely touching too. i'm humbled just reading them.
2006-07-28 08:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about you loss, I had the same situation with my favourite Aunt , who sadly died from cancer as well. Her son & I were with her one of her last days , she was un-consious & laying there really struggling for breath. All of a sudden she sat bolt upright ,opened her eyes & looked at us both. It is something I will never forget
2006-07-28 08:39:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A similar experience happened for me. It was my nan who had cancer i was very close to her and lived with her for a while to. I saw her a week before she died on her birthday. Grandad told me that before i saw nan that she was very ill had been unable to eat and was in to much pain to get out of bed, but when i was there she did all these things she used her last ounce of strength to say goodbye to me. I believe she held on until she had her chance to see me for the last time. That gives me the stength to carry on knowing she did all that for me just to make that day normal for us both.
2006-07-28 08:32:17 · answer #10 · answered by monkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not spooky. She just used the last of her strength to say goodbye to you.
2006-07-28 08:29:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋