I this really love?

Question

if your husband tells you you get on his nerves and he doesn't like you while angry should i take it to heart?

Answer 1

C'mon now, havent U said some things to people when U were mad that U really didn't mean or that U wish U could take back????
Of course U have, we ALL have...
But that doesn't mean that we actually mean what we say, it's just lashing out @ the closest person to us.
As men and women we have to understand that in order to co-exist we have to celebrate our difference, not tear them down.
Think about it like this:
WOULDN'T THE WORLD BE A REALLY BORING PLACE IF WE WERE ALL ALIKE?????



Good Luck, I hope he lightens up some...lol

Answer 2

Should he take ANYTHING to heart that you say when you are angry?

Anger brings out some pretty terrible stuff sometimes. I would suggest, in a more controlled time, that you discuss openly with him that getting angry is, alothough not enjoyed, not a problem however, "we need to establish some boundries to preserve and build our relationship". Discuss with how you feel when he says those things.

Most of us guys don't reaaly understand the emotional upheaval we hand to women. A guy can have the toughtest argument with a guy friend including name calling and later go get a beer together. We don't realize that women process the things said differently.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Do what I do - fire it right back at him. But then again, my husband and I have been married for 13 years, and we have 3 kids. The ENTIRE household gets on MY nerves!

Seriously, the next time he says something that hurts your feelings like that, don't say a word to him. Just leave for a little while. Treat yourself to an ice cream, or a new pair of earrings. You don't need him to make you feel better.

Answer 4

The first thing I would do, when he is in the mood to like you, is ask why you get on his nerves...of course that line should open your eyes to the fact that he is not the one for you. However there are times when my wife gets on my nerves so it depends on how often he decides that you are getting on his nerves.

Is he having problems with work, or with friends and he is keeping it bottled up inside and using you as a "verbal punching bag"?

The best advice that I can offer you is to mentally step back from the relationship...forget for a moment that you are married, remember how everything has been over the course of your relationship and ask yourself if you would marry him...if your answer is no...I would suggest counseling for him, you, or both.

If your answer is yes you would marry him then talk it over with him as to how you can go about living like this because eventually if you keep "getting on his nerves" then he will more than likely move on to another relationship.

I truly wish you the best of luck and hope that everything works out in the end like it is suppose to.

Answer 5

I believe God appointed us women to get on the husbands nerves .. LOL . It's our duty. As far as not liking you when yer angry. I don't think anyone likes angry people. I don't even like myself when I'm angry, I know my husband don't either.
Just chill & talk to each other. If it really does bother you talk to him & let him know it hurts you when he says that. I'm sure you both get on each others nerves & don't like him when he's angry too. If ya make it a peaceful conversation it will all be good.
Good Luck

Answer 6

Yes and no. No, I don't think he really meant it, but yes, I think you both could benefit from some counselling on how to fight fairly in a marriage before someone says something that they really don't mean, but which can't be taken back. If you think about it, nothing we say ever really gets taken back, does it? I mean, we may forgive what was said, but we certainly don't forget it was said. And when that happens often enough, it starts to erode the fabric of our relationships to a point where all the "I'm sorrys" in the world can't fix it. So, it's better to unlearn that behavior before it gets too bad. Good luck to you both. There is an answer out there; you've just got to find it...preferrably together.

Answer 7

Well, he is your husband and you should be down for him through thick and thin! So if he just so happens to tell you off while he's pissed of, don't pay him any mind. Just let him be, and go do something for yourself, to make you feel better. He'll get over it eventually, but if this continues, then you need to have a sit down with him, on a serious level!

Answer 8

no you should not have to put up with that,or maybe you took it wrong, he does not like to see you upset,when people get angry they can do some hurtful things or say thing that will hurt some one the rest of there life, i don't like it when i get angry it makes you a ugly person good luck

Answer 9

Don't take it to heart. Some people can behave that way when angry. You may think they don't love you when angry.

Answer 10

At times men can be very stubborn hard headed its our egos that overcome us If and only if he may say some them things when you have nothing to do with it then he's crossing the line..just live with it for now learn when to raise your voice and make him look like a asshole that all us men are at time's dont take it to the heart but dont shrug it off your sholders either. goodluck