Im a nice guy, athletic, not bad looking, and intelligent... so why don't i get any girls???

Question

and alot of girls say I'm friend material even when we're not like really good friends or anything...

Answer 1

Because you think being a nice guy is a plus for attracting women.

I like to use this analogy. Being a nice guy is like being good at math. Sure you may meet that one in a gazillon girl that gets aroused by a good math equation, but to most women, being good at math isn't a bad thing, but it doesn't help either.

Think of it this way. If all you have to offer is nice, then they'll only become your friends.

Women want the whole package. Money, looks, intelligence, charm, and fun to be with. Sweet and nice... not so much. But luckily, you don't have to be the best of the best. Just be average in all these categories, but have an edge in one or more of those categories. Maybe you're rich, so you excel in the money department, but average in everything else. Maybe you have slightly above average looks, and you tell funny jokes, so you don't excel, but you're not bad in two categories, and average in the rest. Anyway you get the idea.

Most of these can be worked on, like looks department, dress well, clean and neat, and be in good shape, which you seem to be athletic already. Fun department learn to dance (women like dancing), learn social situations where you could inject jokes and make people laugh, figure out fun things/places to take women (I took a girl out kayaking couple of weeks ago). You can improve your "interesting-ness" by taking up sports or hobbies... etc. So just put in some effort and you'll get there. Of course the more "edges" you have, the better.

This applies to attracting women only. Keeping a relationship going however, is a different beast. Being nice and sweet actually helps in that department, provided the girl you're with doesn't have any mental/personality issues (some girls only get into abusive relationships, if you treat them nice, it'll actually make them leave you).

But of course you also have to go out and meet women. An average woman can walk into a bar and walk out with 5 numbers two hours later. An average guy can walk into a bar and get 5 drinks dumped on him two hours later. Guys (except the rich, famous, and ones born with the mojo) usually have low percentage of success. So you have to hit up on A LOT of girls. Let's say you're about 10%, after hitting up on 50 women, you'll get 5 numbers, and 4 of them probably won't work out past the first date. When's the last time you've hit up on 50 women?

Best quote I've heard in a long time. Not from me, can't take credit.
"If you've never been slapped, you're not trying hard enough".
Don't take this literally of course, we don't want to annoy women so much that we get slapped, but you get the idea.

Answer 2

You probably need to be more comfortable with who you are and not make it seem like you one of the girls. You got like a 2-3 hour window where a girl marks you as a friend or boyfriend material. Once you in the "friends zone" there's no turning back. maybe your "too" available. It would'nt hurt asking these friends of yours what they think you need to be boyfriend material. It's worth a shot.

Answer 3

Well, sometimes you can't wait for girls to come to you. Even if you are good looking, most girls (at least old fashioned ones) want you to come after them. Take initiative, and strike up a conversation. Even if you don't want to have a relationship with them, and you only want to be friends. Who knows, maybe you'll meet one of their friends!! Just go for it, the more confidence you have in yourself, the more attractive you are to girls. Just don't be cocky. There is a difference between the two!

Answer 4

It could be any number of things......
Are you compassionate?
Are you self-centered?
Can you protect her, save her, rescue her? Would you?
Do you brush your teeth enough?
Do you have bad breath?
Are you effeminate?
Do you have earwax oozing?
Have you been a womanizer in the past?
Can you cater to a woman and pay her attention?
Would you choose your guy friends over the girl?
Do you have nose hairs hanging out?
Do you constantly have to "rearrange" yourself in public?
Do you do the special, little things that show her you care?
Do you wear your hair like a nerd? Is it greasy?
Can you watch a chick flick.... even when you'd rather watch hockey?
Can you be affectionate, without just wanting sex? (That's a hard one, huh?)
Do you drive a station wagon?
Are your teeth rotton?
Do you have bigger boobs than the women do?
Are you stuck-up?
Do you prefer shopping for linens and drapes more than she does?
Do you intimidate women with your "smartness"? (smarta$$?)
Do you question them about where they've been.... who they've been with? Basically harassing them?
Do you talk about past relationships with other women... making them feel like they'll never live up to your expectations?
Are you dependable?
Do you talk about yourself all the time?
Does your face look like a pizza? (try ProActiv)
Do you have goals and desires to better yourself?
Do you prefer to hang out with your mom or sisters more than your girlfriend?
Do you talk more than she does? (She can't get a word in edgewise)
Are you confident in yourself and carry yourself with pride?
Do you have body odor? (BO)

It's not really about your looks. Most women will find men attractive if they have more important assets that make up for it.
Take a good hard look at yourself and try to determine why these girls don't see you as a potential mate. If you can determine the cause, you can try to better yourself. If you think you are pretty much perfect.... then THAT is the problem! Good luck to ya, Casanova!

Answer 5

You are probably making the mistake of being too nice. This is why they want to be friends.

Be a total jerk. Girls love that.

Remember, not nice, jerk. The girls will be all over you.

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Answer 6

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Answer 7

Maybe you are too nice? Girls like guys who take charge...jerks basically. You don't need girls who are your "friend"...you need to get laid. Grow some balls and start listening to The Tom Leykis Show.

Answer 8

are you sure you look good? just because you think so they might not. there is something they are not liking...evaluate your self...are you too nice? b/c if you're too nice any girl will boot you.... we like a lil bit of bad boy in our men. girls like guys to have that spontaneous side to them.....

Answer 9

You should go out more get to know different kinds of people

Answer 10

hmmm well your obvious need to express your "good looks" online leaves some doubt in my mind... and other than that... either small penis or clear lack of self confidence