I just asked a ? about my daughter wetting herself and i got alot of neg answers like maybe she is being...?

Question

? like is she stressed or has she been molested. I would die if that happened to my baby are there any other signs i should watch for can doc check for that? she attendes a in home day care.

my daughter is 4 and has been potty trained since 2

Answer 1

to me this sounds like a way to get attention since your focus is on getting ready for the baby, find time and do fun big girlthings with her or even let her help you pick out things for baby his should stop that quite quickly. kids regress when a new baby is born

Answer 2

I wouldn't overreact, because having accidents at such a young age (I'm assuming she's under five years old), is normal. Unfortunately, though, if you feel concerned about the possibility of sexual abuse, that is another thing altogether. Have there been any warning signs of abuse, such as her getting scared when certain people greet her, and then she starts crying or clinging to you? Crying and clinging are normal at times, but if it's excessive, and specifically directed toward one person, I would say that's cause for concern. Unfortunately, a lot of children who are sexually abused don't tell their parents what's going on, so maybe you should initiate a conversation about the subject to your daughter in terms she can understand, and which are not frightening to her.

Let her know what's acceptable touching, and what's not. And let her know that if that should ever happen, that you want her to tell you right away. Let her know how important she is to you, and that if anybody did such a thing, that no matter who they were, even if it was a very close relative, that you would always take her side over anybody. That she is number one in your life, and you won't ever let anyone hurt her. Then let her talk to you. See what she says. You know your child better than anyone. If you've seen something unusual, or her personality seems affected in some way, you may need to take her out of the daycare she's in right now.

And whatever decision you make, even if you decide to ask her caretaker questions about what goes on, never feel guilty about anything. Your child's safety and welfare come first. Just listen to your instincts as a mother. They're always right.

Answer 3

Everyone here has some good answers. Yes a doctor can usually tell if your child has been hurt that way, I was one of those children once. Is there any other behavior changes, not sleeping at night anymore very well, always scared, doesn't want you to wash her in that area, quiet, withdrawn? Anything at all that may be slightly different than before? You can't go with her playing with herself, that is not a deciding factor, as doctors have told me, I had taken my oldest child in years ago because I thought possibly he was being molested by someone who watched him, I told the doctor he was playing with himself, along with other behaviorial changes. The doctor said it is so common for children to play with themselves as part of bodily discovery at that age and on up until at least the age of six, that it is not a determining factor of possible child abuse. If your daughter has not shown any other behaviorial changes and a doctor says there is no physical signs of it, then you should talk with the daycare provider and see what they say, if it is a good daycare provider, then they will inform you of anything going on that may possibly be affecting your daughter that way. If there is nothing going on that is stressing her out or upsetting her in any way, then chances are she is just having way too much fun playing and doesn't remember about going to the bathroom. Now if on the negative side, you find out something bad has happened, you go get some counseling for both you and your daughter and you be as strong as possible for her, she will need to know you are there for her. I hope and pray nothing has happened to her, for both your sakes. I do wish you the best outcome possible with this. My thoughts are there with you.

Answer 4

how old is she? she could have been molested by someone u never know. if a child is wetting her self theres a chance she could have been i know its not what u want to here. but take it from me i was molested as a little girl. or she could have a tiny bladder. i also had what thay call a urithrow reflux. try taking her to the doctor and see if thay can find anything.. some other sign of a child being molested is thay kinda shy away form the sex that molested her. so watch to see if she shys away form men or women. and watch to see if she touches her slef down there thats another sign cause thay dnt really know that what the other person did was wrong.. if u have any further questing feel free to email me [e-mail]

Answer 5

Whoa, that could be somebody on this site talking out the other side of their face. How old is your daughter? If she's any younger than 7, accidents happen. If she's older, it could possibly be a medical issue, or stress of any kind, but doesn't have to be molestation. Don't panic, it won't help. Talk to your daughter about her day, and pay special attention to anything she doesn't seem comfortable talking about. Be subtle and patient. Especially patient, if she sees you getting excited, she might assume she's getting in trouble. The doctor can check for abuse, but that can be traumatic too, so be sure before you take that step unnecessarily. I sincerely hope it's nothing.

Answer 6

If wetting is the only thing that's changed, I wouldn't worry about molestation. Here are more signs.
Signs of Sexual Exploitation in Children

Parents, grandparents, and guardians should be aware of the signs noted below that could indicate your child has been sexually molested. You should note that some of these behaviors may have other explanations, but it is important to assist your child no matter what the cause of these symptoms or behaviors.

* Changes in behavior, extreme mood swings, withdrawal, fearfulness, and excessive crying

* Bed-wetting, nightmares, fear of going to bed, or other sleep disturbances

* Acting out inappropriate sexual activity or showing an unusual interest in sexual matters

* A sudden acting out of feelings or aggressive or rebellious behavior

* Regression to infantile behavior; clinging

* School or behavioral problems

* Changes in toilet-training habits

* A fear of certain places, people, or activities

* Bruises, rashes, cuts, limping, multiple or poorly explained injuries

* Pain, itching, bleeding, fluid, or rawness in the private areas

Answer 7

Oh honey I am so sorry you got so many negative answers and now have this awful thing put in your head. If you have any reason that this may be the problem take her to your ped as soon as you can get her in but I for one don't think this is the problem. When I was pregnant with my second child our oldest son had been potty trained for some time and suddenly he wanted to be in diapers. We talked to his doctor and he suggested that he was just upset about this change in his very ordered life and this is very normal. We went ahead and let him be in diapers and didn't make a big deal about it. Within two weeks he was back in big boy pants and had no problems after that. I know this is very concerning in and of itself but please try not to make too big a deal about it to your daughter it could upset her more than she already is. Good Luck honey and congratulations on your upcoming arrival. E-mail me if you need to talk.

Answer 8

Maybe the other kids are molesting her. Yeah, u should go 2 the Dr. & get that checked out. When I was in daycare, other kids used 2 try 2 sexually experiment on me. This was many, many yrs. ago.

Answer 9

These are the signs:

Change in behavior
extreem mood swings
with drawal
fearfulness
excessive crying
Bed wetting
nightmares
fear of going to bed
other sleep disturbances
a sudden accting out of feelings
is aggressive
becomes clingy
bruises
rashes
unexplained injuries
pain
itching
rawness in the private area

I hope she is not in any harm, Good luck and take care!!

Answer 10

My husbands half sister wet the bed well on into her teens. We were told it was just a bladder control issue, something about her bladder not growing as quickly as she was. Take her to the doctor and get her checked out so you can quit worrying, because you will get all kinds of answers here and probably just be more confused.

Answer 11

a doc could def tell if something has happened, but i did the same at her age. My daycare providers weren't making sure I was wiping well and I was constantly getting UTI's...this can make it harder to control the bladder...but she may just be playing hard...stress can be a factor, and the smallest things you would never consider can stress a child...