Ok my girlfriend enjoys smoking pot. i told her that i dont like her doing it. yesterday i went to her house and we went out to dinner. one of her friends thought it would be fun if we smoked. She asked me if I was alright with it in front of her friends. so i said it was ok even though she knew i didnt want her to. So we were screwed up and i called her later and told her that we cant do that again. she said she dosent see anything wrong with it. i told her that if she got hurt while doing it i would feel bad because i could of prevented it. she said that i could not make her. it means a lot to me that she dosent do it but i know she wont stop. i feel that we are a great couple and she makes me happy. what should i do. i dont want to end it. please it hurts me bad.
2006-07-28 08:09:08 · 5 answers · asked by Jay B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Probably a phase. I don't know whats with women and pot, they just love it.
2006-07-28 08:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur girlfriend knows that what she's doing is wrong, and U have expressed Ur feelings about it. But sweetie by U doing ALSO with her U R contridicting Urself.
If U really want her to quit then the last thing U need to do is cooperate in it.
Be an example to her, not a father. The more U push her no matter how good Ur intentions are, the more she'll do it just too spite U.
It sounds to me like she needs to make better choices in her friends as well.
Try talking to her, not preaching to her and let her know how U truly feel about it. If she doesn't agree to @ least try to stop, well, U have a choice to make. Can U over look it or is it something that could quite possibly split the two of U up??? If so share that with her, just don't threated her with it. Just tell her that U care about her and U wish that she would quit, that it hurts U to see her doing that to herself and U can't just sit back and watch her hurt herself. Put in a loving way, as long as it's heart felt, woman respond to that alot better, it's threats and being told what to do that we don't respond well too.
Good Luck.....
2006-07-28 08:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by HeartsOnFire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question would be, how old are you? Second question...does she really want to be a druggie and how much do you mean to her. I'm a recovering addict myself, and had to end a seven year relationship because of drugs. You say that you are a great couple, and that she makes you happy...well then if she feels the same way about you she'll put the pipe down. You don't want to get caught up in that lifestyle...it might just be pot today, but tomarrow, who knows...
Trust me, if she can't respect you enough to stop then you need to walk away. I know that it hurts, but the longer you hold on the more its going to hurt down the road. Lets face it, if she loves you she'll choose you...if not then you don't need her anyways.
2006-07-28 08:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by miss_gr8ful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a girlfriend with a SERIOUS problem. Unless you want it to affect you via the legal system or in a thousand other negative ways, you have 2 choices: 1) insist that she quit and back it up; or 2) get rid of her. I opt for #2.
She isn't going to quit because of you, she has made that plain.
2006-07-28 08:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not her its that pot that makes u happy when ur on pot its not u talking. u can find a better girl that is 4 real. shes smoking because she has problems and r to afraid of facing them
2006-07-28 08:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋