Ok well yesterday we found out that my mom has breast cancer and I dont know what to do to help her. because I have never ever gone through this before. So does anyone out there know what I can do to help her get through this or is there anything i can do except just be here!?!?!?
2006-07-28 08:08:48 · 22 answers · asked by sweet heart 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i would like to say to everyone thank you for your help and suport!!!!!
2006-07-28 09:32:35 · update #1
Listen...as often and as long as you can. She's going to be scared, depressed, angry at times, and all sorts of other emotions wrapped up at once. This isn't about being an expert in cancer which you've got no experience in; it's about being family, which you're a professional at. Go with her to doctor's appointments, and become involved in her treatment plan. The more positively she remains about this fight, the more likely she is to beat this disease. Good luck in this regard. I will keep you both in my prayers.
2006-07-28 08:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that recently discovered that he had cancer. The sad part is that he had gone to the doctor because he started noticing things on his body and that he wasnt feeling well. By the time they figured out that it was cancer and what kind of cancer he had it was pretty advanced. He has gone for treatments in town and in other states but its not doin much for him. There isnt much you can do other then just be there. My husband and i try to keep his mind off of it by doin fun stuff with him like goin to diner or goin the springs that we have down here. Although i know he never completely forgets about it at least he knows that we love him and we wanna make the best out of our time together wheather its 5 months or he if he pulls thru and we get 50 years with him. Love is the best thing for stuff like this.
2006-07-28 08:25:00 · answer #2 · answered by Red 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am so sorry that your mom has breast cancer. The only thing that you can do is to be there for her and let her know how much you love her, she is going through a very rough time in her life and will need all of the support from family and friends that she can get. God be with you and your mom.
2006-07-28 08:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by shywoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive! Tell her every day that you love her & you will be there for her to lean on. Things like cancer are stressfull to everyone, including family members.I recommend that you both seek a support group. There is alot of great information out there from professionals & people who have experienced some of the same things that you are going through right now. I will pray for you both, God Luck!!
2006-07-28 08:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by onewikkedwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there, don't worry, comfort her, pray, pray, pray, hope for the best, go to cancer support sites and realize how many survivors there are!!! My mom wrote a poem and talked about changing "cancer" to "Can Survive." So, concentrate on that and share it with your Mommy and KNOW that God has not given us a spirit of fear. But one of power, love and a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7
2006-07-28 08:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about the news. Just tell her how you're feeling. I'm sure she would appreciate knowing that you empathize. She might feel tired a lot, depending on the treatment so it would be nice for you to help out with the chores like cooking and cleaning. She might also feel down if she loses her hair, so volunteer to go shopping with her to pick out some new fashions.
2006-07-28 08:14:44 · answer #6 · answered by asic design gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure first thing I would do is take my mothers hand and pray with her. Tell her that everything is going to be okay and let her know that your faith is with the lord, cause when it is all done the lord has the last word. He makes the last choice for everyone. Tell her you are here to support her and you love her very much. If she needs you to attend any doctors appointment let her know you will be there without hesitation. And I will pray for you both!
2006-07-28 08:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by ressie re 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it wont go away sometimes it does now i dont to get u upset but most of the time it dosent go away shell seem to feel better then two weeks later it starts up again ill pray every night for her to get better because i hate to know when somones ill the only thing u can do for her is to spend as much of ur time for her and do what she tells u to do cause stress is the worst thing to go through and ALWAYS exprece ur love to her and the docters will do there best to get her cured and im sorry this happen to ur mom cause love is the worst thing to lose good luck....
2006-07-28 08:17:25 · answer #8 · answered by reynoldsvictoria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. My Grandmother had Breast Cancer 40 years ago and she's still going strong. With today's treatments it's likely that she will recover OK.
2006-07-28 08:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much all you can be is supportive. As you have already stated hard to be in her shoes if you haven't lived through it already. Love her as much as you did prior to finding out and cherish your time with her if it is terminal. Hope this helps!!
2006-07-28 08:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by M D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋