How do you let go when they just drop you?

Question

How do you let go of someone when they just cut you off completely with no warning?

My boyfriend cut off all contact with me two weeks ago. I have been trying hard to move on with my life but it's hard. I find myself emailing him still and trying to call him, but he doesn't answer the phone and doesn't respond to the emails.

We had our future planned and I was supposed to move with him in October. Now, I'm alone and don't know what I'm going to do without him now.

I read someone else's question on here and feel as though I may be hanging on to the "fantasy" of him and us. Realistically, he wasn't as great as I seem to think....after all, he just dropped me.

What do I do now?

Answer 1

The more you "chase" him the faster & farther he'll run.Avoid any & all contact,including text messaging.It's a ego boost for him & a Power struggle 4 you.Stun his butt & drop all contact.Sit back & make new friends.Best of Luck-i know it's going to be hard-but you should not be the brunt of his jokes,chasing him.Any contact you are trying desperately to make right now makes you appear desperate & needy.
One thing that i found really helpful is get a notebook/journal.Write down everything you wanna say to him,just as if you were talking to him face to face.It's Great self therapy,a big release.That way you are not embarrasing yourself while he is being a lil' boy & putting his tail between his legs w/ no explanation.

Answer 2

Oh wow...I know it's hard, but what a jerk! He obviously didn't cherish you in the way you deserve to be because he would've at least said something to your face about it. What a coward! Be glad you didn't wind up moving in with this cad or it would have been a lot worse. I know things suck right now, and you're going to feel sad about it which is normal, but you've got to get back to your life. Did you have any career plans for yourself? How about special hobbies and interests on the side? Get back into those and the sooner the better. You'll feel less stagnant and far less alone. Besides, the more things you do just for your own happiness, the happier you will be and you will attract a happy man who won't just vanish off to the island of lost men without warning. Good luck.

Answer 3

It's hard to move on...believe me, I've been there. You just have to take this time to concentrate on YOU.....scour the bookstore and pick up some self-help books to help you understand what your going through, involve yourself in new hobbies that maybe you've been thinking of taking up but haven't tried yet, volunteer for a worthy cause that you promote and if you still cannot deal with the pain on your own..think of seeking help from a counselor, sometimes that can help immensely.
Hopefully you will meet new people, friends or possibly maybe even a new romantic relationship. You may even read up on Meditation....it takes some practice but if you can get into the habit of relaxing 10 or 20 minutes a day and concentrate on your breath.....it can also do wonders.
Good Luck to you...I'm still not over the love of my life and it's been 5 yrs. all I can say is that little by little it gets easier day by day. Chin UP!!!

Answer 4

You muster up all the strength you have and quietly move on. It will not be easy...but you must...you have no choice. Each time his thoughts come into your mind, force them out. Instead focus on the fact that it is OVER! Keep your self respect in tact. You deserve better than someone who can just drop you and don't have the decency or courage to give you his reasons. Eventually you will get over him and will be a much better person. Under no circumstances can you allow him back...whenever he feels like it he will dump on you again.
Find you a good novel...read it every chance you get. When you finish, get another. This will help occupy your mind.

Remember...there is no quick solution, you just have to grind it out...I know...I've been there.

Answer 5

You are begining to see the real truth. It hurts when we don't want to face the fact that the person we thought was so right for us let us down. We always thought they would be right by our side. You have put him up on a pedestal and it takes time for the love you feel to be pulled out by the roots. My suggestion would be to stop emailing him and go on with your life and yes; love hurts very much. It will take some time but through all this you will become stronger.

Answer 6

You just answered your own question (Realistically, he wasn't as great as I seem to think....) You will find a better man who will show you more love than him, just change your thinking and move on. You are too good for him anyway, think like that because he won't ever find someone as good as you.

Get on with your life and if he tries to get back into yours just ignore him. You will be fine.

Answer 7

Ok I have a good story to tell. My soon to be ex. wife left me four months ago for another man and it tore me to peices till I realized hell I am better off with out her. We have 4 girls that she left me with to raise. She has paid no child support. Has only seen the kids a couple of times since. Think of it this way would you have rather been married and have kids and he do this or would you wrather find someone that will charish you for you. screw him.

Answer 8

I bet this is very hard for you... and well i guess you should get the point the he wasnt good for you too.. if he couldnt be a man to tell you this well its better to find out right now than later..Go one with your life.. get out and get to know new people..some day your man will come along.. good luck.

Answer 9

how long were you dating and how often did you see each other on a daily or weekly basis?

beleive it or not he did you a favor, at least you did not have kids or joint responsibilities that could have made the situation much harder to deal with.

you definitely need to move on and get to know the next person extremely well before you make any commitments

Answer 10

I guess It's time to move on. Time heal most situations but live and learn and press on. I probably felt the same way about last month but what can you do. Keep your head up!