Almost 3 years ago, I met this guy in college & instantly clicked. But there was a problem, he had a live-in girlfriend. We remained friends until one day he kissed me. I know I should've felt guilty about it but instead there was something there. Long story short, I didn't want him to get in trouble so I let our friendship go. However, I thought about him all the time.
Fast forward to the present. I'm currently in a relationship with someone in the military but recently I've wondered if he's really serious about me. He's always say that he's busy. I wonder if he's cheating on me or not.
Last month, while having dinner with my friends, out of nowhere, I bumped into my old college classmate and the connection is still there. When were were alone, he told me he still with his GF but he's not happy with her and constantly thought about me the past 3 years.
Now I dunno what to do. I'm having those feelings again for him but I care for my BF. Please don't judge me.
2006-07-28 07:56:37 · 7 answers · asked by RDC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FYI to the 6th person to replied... I had a feeling way before my old classmate resurfaced. Not because he's always busy (I'm very busy myself and yet can make time for him) but he had a birthday card last year from his "cousin" saying "I love you and I know you're the one for me". Since that time, I wasn't able to completely trust him 100% esp. since I've been faithful the whole time.
2006-07-28 08:19:19 · update #1
If you still have these strong feelings for him then maybe there is something there. But I wouldn't persue anything until you were both single and free to make proper decisions. Be sure of what it is you want though cause you might break up with the guy you are with now and realize that this old classmate wasn't for you after all. So take your time and reflect on this.
2006-07-28 08:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by Bluebird25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there...with mr. perfect guy through two relationships. One that I left alone... my ex just KNEW I'd been with the guy and I hadn't...he felt the chemistry when the three of us were in the same room. The next was my current husband, and I had to just totally close the door to mr. perfect guy. Actually when I was single, he knew but didn't make the right move. You'll always think about him, but do the right thing. What goes around comes around and you don't wanna test that law: it is a SURE thing. So, pass the test and remain loyal to your man. Believe you me, if you all have been connected all this time, you have an invisible spiritual rubberband around you that will not leave until your business it done, or death. Not judging you at all. I was YOU two, three and four years ago. Now happily married.
2006-07-28 15:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about a bunch of confused hormonal kids. You're both seeing people. So either both of you dump them and get together in your little "storybook romance" or stay with the people you are with. Indecisive children. And please, let the military man go regardless of what you do with your long lost love. You obviously have no faith in him and are already questioning the relationship (which is probably only because you want to hook up with your college heartthrob) so let him get on with his life and find someone who knows what she wants out of life and isnt hung up on things from her past. Children.
2006-07-28 15:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mature thing to do: Both of you need to deal with your current relationships. Break up, or make them better.
Immature crappy fun thing to do: Have an affair.
2006-07-28 15:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the guy and see if he would be willing to dump his girl he is unhappy with and be with you. If the answer is yes then go for it girl. You have every right to want to be happy. :D
2006-07-28 15:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by movu101779 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just like everyone said ...break up w ur bf he is a jerk...and he should break up w his gf
2006-07-28 16:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by ROCKSTAR*CHICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with your boyfriend, tell him to break up with his girlfriend.
bada bing there you go\
BABIES!
2006-07-28 15:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by Roseanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋