Invited to wedding,husband is not.?

Question

A good co-worker invited me to her wedding but doesn't want my husband to attend, she has personal dislikes. I've kept quite but unsure what to do?

Answer 1

I would decline the invititation. If she doesn't want your husandm to attend, then she shouldn't be graced by your attendance. Personally, that is very insulting on her part - because regardless of the fact that she has her personal dislikes, she would be insulted if not one like her husband to be and chose not to go.

Answer 2

That's a tremendous insult to specifically uninvite your husband (as a spouse invitation is automatic, that's what she did).

That's only okay to do if they had some history, not for some obscure reason.

What to do: it's your choice. Does your husband even care? Most of the time, he's happy to pass on a wedding, so it's probably a non-issue.

But what she did was wrong, and if it bothers you, you should not go, and specifically tell her that you feel unwelcome because your husband is not welcome.

Answer 3

According to the etiquette book by Emily Post, if you are invited to a wedding and have a fiance or husband they should be invited as well. Who is more important to you, the feelings of the somewhat-friend, or your husband? I would say it is a package deal, you don't come as a single anymore. Good luck deciding! :)

Answer 4

Keep in mind, you work with this person all week long. If you decline the invitation, you better make up a good reason for it because she will hound you about it. If you get along with her and you feel obligated, just go to the ceremony and decline on the reception - that way you don't have to make up an excuse for not going.

She's an extremely rude person, but you don't want her to make your life at work hell.

Answer 5

I wouldn't go to her wedding, I wouldn't send a gift or a card. If my husband attended a wedding without me, I wouldn't speak to him for week. This takes rude to a whole new level. In order to keep the work place sane, I wouldn't say anything to the nasty coworker, but you definitely don't attend a wedding that your husband wasn't invited to.

Answer 6

Invited to wedding

Answer 7

I wouldn't tell your husband. It would just cause hurt feelings. And I know it's one of your coworkers, but I feel that is rude. He's your husband, not just some guy off the street that you met like 2 minutes ago. I would politely decline. You don't need to give her a reason. A white lie never hurts.

Answer 8

I wouldn't attend the wedding without my husband, but thats just me. I know I wouldn't want my husband attending a wedding without me, nor whould he consider it. You 2 are a package deal. If he can't go because your co-worker doesn't want him there then is she really a good friend? No good friend of mine would keep me from bringing my husband to a wedding. I would just tell her thank you for inviting you, but without your husband, you choose not to attend.

Answer 9

Decline to attend. It's extremely rude to invite "half a couple" to a wedding. It's just not appropriate at all.

Answer 10

Totally rude of the bride to be! Why is this even an up in the air decision for you? You don't go - if your husband is not invited, then you should not even consider going.

Answer 11

I wouldn't tell your husband, unless you don't want to be friends with your co-worker anymore. If you tell, your husband will get very angry and may get angry anytime you want to see that friend. I would just tell your friend that you cannot come to the wedding. Just get a gift and not attend. If your husband ever asks just say she had the wedding on a day you already had plans with him. It is not sneaky and underhanded, you are just sparing his feelings.