i'm currently in a serious realtionship with my boyfriend of almost 4yrs. i recently met a girl in my same situation and the thing is, we are both bi-. if anything happens between her and i, does it consider as cheating on our boyfriends? we both love our mans, but it's just that we have "special" needs. it wont be a serious thing with her and i.
2006-07-28 07:33:09 · 12 answers · asked by mizs_sunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm seeing a lot of women answering this question, which is kind of silly.
Sure, fooling around with another girl behind your boyfriend's back is technically cheating, but i highly doubt he would be anything but turned on by it.
ALL heterosexual guys LOVE girl-on-girl action. As long as the thing between you and the other girl remains non-serious, I'm sure your boyfriend wouldn't mind at all.
You should definitely tell him though. Keeping secrets that benefit you but may hurt your boyfriend, is wrong, and really bad practice. Also, seriously consider bringing him in on the action too, I'm sure he'd love it.
2006-07-30 09:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are bi and your boyfriend doesn't know it, then you're not in a "serious relationship', you're living a lie.
Are you supposed to live your life with this guy, repressing the other 50% of your need for sexual expression all the while?
Talk to him. Maybe it will turn him on. In fact it SHOULD turn him on. If it freaks him out, he's either a bible-thumping bigot, a sexual bore or hugely insecure little boy.
And when you consider those options, do you really want to stay with him, anyway?
2006-07-28 14:44:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough to anwer here. Relationships need to be negotiated. It can be done explicitly as in "Dear, would you consider it cheating if I . . ." Or, it can be done implicitly where you know the answer just because you know your guy. The latter is treading on thin ice.
If you ask ME if I'd consider it cheating if my wife had an affair with a woman, the answer is, "no". I'd like her to be careful and not bring any unwanted surprises home but she's an adult.
2006-07-28 14:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is cheating. You're doing something with someone other than your boyfriend. Would you say he cheated if he suddenly went out and started fooling with another guy? It will hurt when he finds out, and he will. Come clean to him now, and take what comes with it. It's better than lying to him.
2006-07-28 14:39:18 · answer #4 · answered by callmegoddess618 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything sexual with another person besides your boyfriend then it is considered cheating, but just tell him about it im sure that he would be cool with it. And if he is then it wouldnt be consider cheating because you have his consent.
2006-07-28 14:46:51 · answer #5 · answered by A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How dumb are you? Of course its cheating! Don't matter if it is a female or male its all the same. Grow up and quit being so selfish.
2006-07-28 14:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say enjoy life, you are not married and you only live once, just make sure he won't find out, cause you don't want to hurt him. but go for it. and the good thing about it is that you can get away with it.
2006-07-28 14:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by wcenice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey no matter if bi or not if u r sexually active with someone else while in a relationship then its def. cheating...
signed
lea
2006-07-28 15:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAKE SURE ITS OK WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND FIRST AND SEE HOW HE FEELS ABOUT IT......AND IF YOU DONT CARE...THEN YOU ARE SELFISH AND UNFIT FOR BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP.....AND FOR FUTURE REFFERENCE.....9 OUT 10 TIMES IF YOU ASK A QUESTION BASED ON "IS IT CHEATING"....IT USUALLY IS!!!!!!
2006-07-28 14:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by raven wants it... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it kind of is
but if you tell your boyfriend hell probably be cool with it
anything sexual with another person is cheatin
but you have your needs
and your bf should understand
2006-07-28 14:39:40 · answer #10 · answered by tb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋