At our school there is a mob when we go to our p.e lockers there a group of l girls that want 2 disscuss things in p.e. t Since there is no one waching when u change. So they come 2 a girl that gossipped that they did something wrong the group had done something bad they surround her and say things 2 hurt her fellings!! I just wonder what u think about this, plese answer!Well i am one of the geeks that think things when bad things happen!!! What should i do if i wittness them?
2006-07-28 07:18:40 · 18 answers · asked by R5T6H9KF 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
This is from a girl's perspective, just so you know. I'm a 23-year-old college student who was mildly to moderately bullied as a kid.
Everyone has insecurities; and when you are popular, you can get away with masking your own insecurities by making other people look worse than you. The rationale: If I'm better than everyone else, then I must be pretty good; therefore, I'll push everyone else down.
Some people are popular because they're nice to most everyone; and that's the good kind of popular. But some are popular because they push others down.
It's quite OK to be a geek; likely enough, you will be earning the big bucks working in a nice office and using those "geek" skills, while they turn into secretaries and mechanics.
The way they handle bullying in schools today is really pretty bad; kids are told to "suck it up" or "fight back" when they're being abused in ways that would put them in foster care if it were their parents doing it. To tell you the truth, there's not much you can do about it, except to try your best to lessen its effects on those around you.
Make friends with those you see being rejected. If you're already a "geek", this won't be a real problem for your social standing anyway; and do you really want to hang out with popular brats and b**tards? Thought not... Anyway, a lot of those outcasts that get targeted are often amazing, unique people; even if they're just run-of-the-mill kids, they could probably use a friend. True friendships are much more rewarding than clawing your way up the social ladder, anyway.
As for stopping the bullying, it can be done; but it's tough. I would find myself a sympathetic person with some sort of authority--a teacher, one of those "popular because they're nice" people, an older student, a parent if you're close to yours... whatever works. If that person is willing to be your ally, you might be able to work out some strategies together.
This situation sounds like verbal abuse; so it's unlikely that the girls will be punished (and they probably know it). Still, if your adult can get them into trouble, so much the better. Best if you're not known as a talebearer, though.
Good luck--remember, school doesn't last forever (and, just FYI, college usually isn't near as bad as high school).
2006-07-28 07:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by lisa450 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Some popular kids suffer from superiority complex. They develop an attitude that the other kids are inferior to them. If they are not checked in a proper manner, they go on bullying others and hurt. We should try to find their weak points and see they are exposed in the gathering. Then they would feel that they also possess certain weakness which some others do not. Try to talk with them individually and convince them where they go wrong. Handle them wisely and gently without hurting their ego.
2006-07-28 07:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by SRIRANGAM G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should report it to the school administrators, counselors, or teachers. I would advise against you taking personal part in this, as I can't envision outcome being positive.
As to why they do it, they feel they have the right to do so. They figure, they are superior to anyone else. Also, some people feel pleasure from intimidating what they perceive to be a weak person. None of this is right, of course, but it really doesn't matter. There are people acting like this in adult environment also.
2006-07-28 07:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont let them get to u is the best way u show weakness they well keep coming back for more i went to school with kids that talk crap to the handycap kids more than anything and i almost got spended cause the prep's but i was not going to stand by and witch them do that and i was not an geek or and prep and this plp are *** holes an less u act like the dont bother u and u go off on them one day u well deal with this the rest your school days i blow up to times in high school once on and guy in the hall way the other time i was in class room both times plp cleared out took me out school the time on the girl for 2 week i had to see and doc about my anger problems but she did it to her slef so i dont know why they did that to me
2006-07-28 07:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by mommy72403 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think it's because you let them do it!! If it was me and I was in a locker room I would pull me pants off and tell them to kiss my A$$. And then tell them that you may think you are all that but t you ain't. So Bite me!! Say something to them to let them see how it feels!! Be like they are and don't give a shi* about their feelings. Just tell them off once!! Then just walk away like you diden do anything or say anything. And don't look back no matter what they say!! They will see you ain't going to take there crap And stop it... And guess what else? You heard it here first from a REAL Nutcase!!!""NUT'S""..PS...did i wn ...did i wn...did i wn???
2006-07-28 09:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by dl200558 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those girls are the ones who's lives will end after high school. I had some of those girls too when I was in school, and most of them turned in to skanks and got knocked up or dropped out before graduation. be true to your self, and tell if you see it happen, but do it privately so you aren't a target.
2006-07-28 07:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by missy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since mean people do bad things, I really think you should go straight to someone in authority.
If you don't want to do that, write an anonymous note to someone in authority about the situation.
Bully's are really just insecure idiots.
2006-07-28 07:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by Eeyore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beacuse it makes themselves feel better. The only way they can bring themselves up is by putting others down.
Don't let them get away with it and try not to get yourself in a position they can take advantage of.
2006-07-28 07:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by harleychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are mean because they probaly have family problems friend,love,money ect. just be nice don't make it seem like you are really getting taken over by it!Don't tell a teacher or parent becuase if they are having problems try not to make matters worse.Try to make best of it be friends!please pick me for best answer!
2006-07-28 07:19:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably do that because they know they can. They also know that it gets to them and the non popular people give thepopular girls a reaction...now if it were me i would handle it myself. you can just be whoeveres they messed withs friend and help them out...or you can get revenge...
2006-07-28 07:21:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋