There is this guy who wants to start a relationship with me but there is a problem.My life is really complicated since i am in my final year in high school. I want to tell him that over relationship have to end because i have to devote all my time to school. He wants to go out with me and i cant go out with him because of my mother. I want to tell him the truth about the situation that i am in but i am afraid he thinks that i am weird because i dont go out alot and that i am lieing. Should i just face up or keep him in the dark?
2006-07-28 07:16:59 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
JUST LIKE YU ARE TELLING US THIS. TELL HIM THE SAME. YOU ARE RIGHT TO PUT SCHOOL FIRST. VERY GOOD. STICK TO YOUR MORALS...DON'T LET NO-ONE, AND I MEAN NO-ONE!!!, GET IN THE WAYS OF YOUR PERSONAL GOALS!!!(SMILE - GOOD LUCK)
2006-07-28 07:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all your still in school and shouldn't even think about dating bv just focusing on finishing your education without such extractions. Tell him and face up.
This is why you have so many teenage pregnancies because our sons and daughters are so in a rush to be in a relationship. Always remember dating too soon can produce the above problem and this can block your educational dreams.
You have time to date but at least with a education and finishing school you will have something to offer a potential husband or mate by getting the best education while you still can.
If your mother want her daughter to get a education first then nothing is wrong with that. The fact that your looking for answers should tell you that a relationship can be a hindrance to your goals.
Enjoy your youth and don't grow up before you have to..
2006-07-28 07:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah just tell him what is going on. Say once the school year is over if he wants to date next summer before college you will be all for that. Just say hey I am really wanting to do good in school and I cant have any distractions. He will understand and if he is really liking you then he will be around next summer. Life is to short for boys right now. You have your whole life ahead of you for that. You will thank your mother when you are 24 and have gradutated from college.
2006-07-28 07:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not as complicated as you imagined. There is nothing weird about this. Honey, you are on the right track. Studies come first. You will have a lot of time dating when the exam is over.
It is also an opportunity to see if he will wait for you...
Tell him exactly what you think. It will be ok.
2006-07-28 07:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by OnTheTreadmill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't really like him all that much and are looking for excuses. Just tell him 'no thanks'
By the way, what's so complicated about being in your final year at school? Wait till you've got a job, family and all that stuff. Now that's complicated.
2006-07-28 07:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by Ahwell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, everything you told us, and remember to always speak your mind so that people do not have to guest what you are really trying to say. Make it clear, and let him no that you are not backing down from your decision. This will be an excellent guide to follow for the rest of your life. Good luck.
2006-07-28 07:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was the same-ish way this year in school, 2nd semester, sr year. i had NO time. my guy told me that he was happy whenever i could squeeze him into my schedule. just spending any time with me was nice. he waited on me for over two years to give him a chance, and even then. i demanded it to be friendship. you can study together at a coffee shop, or have breakfast date before school, or small stuff here and there. its good to have someone around to be happy with. but dont do anything you dont want to. as far as mothers go... just be patient, help her understand you need friends- boys and girls. i turned out ok, my guy and i are now helplessly in love! good luck.
2006-07-28 07:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by amil5634 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your feelings were reciprocal you wouldn't be asking this question. It's always nice to know that someone is attracted to us, but NEVER feel obligated to respond or to explain. If he get's pesty, he's bad news all the way around. He can 'sense' for sure that you don't have the hots necessary to be with him, so just go about your life and don't be concerned about his feelings, he knows the score. At this point he sounds like a mini-stalker, it will only get worse. DUMP HIM
2006-07-28 07:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by tweak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can not have a relationship right now be open and honest with the guy and just tell him and explain to him why. He probably will understand. Give him a chance too!
2006-07-28 07:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth because maybe that will help and maybe you two can come up with plan to make time for your school and be able to hang out.
2006-07-28 07:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by Brown skin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK YOU SHOULD TELL HIM HOW THINGS ARE... IT MIGHT GET HIM UPSET, BUT YOU ARE BEING HONEST. PLUS, YOU SHOULD THINK ABOUT IT TOO, YOU NEED TO HAVE FUN, BUT NOT MUCH FUN AS WERE YOU AR EGOING TO SLACK OF IN SCHOOL... BELIEVE IT OR NOT, I WAS THE SAME WAY. I TOLD HIM THE TRUTH, AND I WAS STILL DATING HIM, N STILL AM, AND NOW I HAVE GRADUATED COLLEGE WITH A BACHELORS. HAVEING A BOYFRIEND AND GOING TO SCHOOL AT THE SAME TIME WONT BE ALL THAT BAD..
2006-07-28 07:23:05 · answer #11 · answered by thats me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋