erm... i dont get along with my mum and my sister i cant tell them anything bout lads and stuff and what us girls go through and because of my sister i cant even talk to lads coz she thinks im flirtin!! and i cant av a lads name on my computer as in who i love and stuff with out her givein the 3rd degree and i cant go to my friends party without her wreckin the night askin how much alchol and boys are goin to be there!!!! WHAT CAN I DO HELP!!!!!!!!
2006-07-28 07:14:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
get a new sister ?? or maybe your just to young and there only looking out for you so be carefull it ain't a nice place out there??
2006-07-28 07:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by ââ¢Â¥ ââ¢Â¥abc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feudalsurfer is quite correct in what he/she says. They are not trying to pry or belittle you, make you feel silly or stupid. They love you and it is the most natural thing in humans to be doing what they are doing in relation to your activities. You don't mention your age but I am sure that if you imagine you have a daughter, as the person says, your outlook will change. Don't forget, you are a family and the ability to talk openly, honestly and without getting emotional is the most important thing to make it all work.Stick together and try to see both sides to any argument. None of us are right all of the time. :-)
2006-07-28 14:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by Dave P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like either your sister has had a bad experience with men/boys and shes trying to save you the heartache . Or shes jelous of you sibling rivalry can be very destructive . Either way find a good time when all is calm to sit down and talk to her about why shes like this with u . good luck
2006-07-28 14:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by Treat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello dear,
all those what your sis say about lad is momentary., it wont last long if it is about flirting..if the relation is true, the approach and presentation is different and you feel the presence even in the lad's absence. thats what make human optimistic. be true to your conscience. fortget what the society says, if your heart is contented, dont bother about whats happening around.
2006-07-28 14:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by crayons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor kid! Are you the youngest? You don't give your age. Being girls themselves (yes, even your mum was young once!) they know exactly what girls go through. Maybe your sister does/did flirt & get up to all sorts of things with boys & alcohol & suspects you of being the same. You should reassure both of them that you are mature enough to have friends of your own and you can be trusted, given the chance. Also, explain calmly that you are entitled to your privacy & looking at your computer is an invasion of that privacy - would they like you to read their diaries/mail?, and if there is anything they should know, then you will tell them without being pumped for information. Keep calm & civilised and don't let it slide into an argument. Tell them that they influenced your upbringing, & they have raised you to be sensible about boys & drinking. Ask them if they they would like you to grill them about their personal life and to respect yours like you respect theirs. They have to realise you are growing up & developing your own character & personality and should support you and encourage you to be sensible. Most of all, ask them if they trust you, and if not, why not, and how can you gain their trust without disclosing your personal life too much. Tell them you love them & are grateful for their concern, but they have to let go sooner or later. Act like an adult & they will have to start treating you like one. Tell your sis the same & ask her to treat you like she would like to be treated herself.
2006-07-28 14:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by devildriver53 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for now rely on your friends. it's a phase they are going through and it will change. try to ask your mum for some time with her to do things that don't include your sister but allow your sister the same time.
2006-07-28 15:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi you come across as someone with a good sense of right and wrong try to tell you Mom and sister you will use the best judgement you can and that she should be proud of you being careful yes its true everyone needs to be careful who they meet on the net its normal just try to explane that to you mom and sis and tell them thanks for caring so much and you will do fine.
take care
2006-07-28 14:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by honesteyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit them down together, or one at a time and explain to them that you need their trust. Also let them know you appreciate the way you were raised and would not do anything to embarrass them or yourself, but give you a chance. Try it.
2006-08-01 10:24:00 · answer #8 · answered by francina i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for your sister, tell her to piss off. As for your Mum, however, she just cares and is looking after you, and one day you will appreciate it. Your sister is a real *****, though, I have to say. She's probably young, anyway.
2006-07-28 14:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by hawaiian_shorts91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mum is trying to protect you. She's the best friend you'll ever have, as you will one day realise. Try talking to her and explaining how hurtful it is not to be trusted. Try also to imagine how you would feel if you had a daughter and how worried you would be.
2006-07-28 14:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋