If someone mispronounces your name or gets a fact wrong and someone else corrects them, the first person gets all mad. Save the drama. You were wrong!
2006-07-28 07:14:47 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
People don't like to be criticized. Nowaday's it's all about "feelings" and "self-esteem" and "expression" instead of whether they were right or wrong.
When you are wrong, you are wrong. Say sorry and move on. No need to make it a stinging wound!
2006-07-28 07:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by Bethany 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Only people who have control issues tend to correct others grammar/spelling or wrong-doings. Correcting someone for mispronouncing ones name is actually courteous, as long as it's earnest & polite, but anything else is all about ego & how one can show off ones intelligence. Being right doesn't always get you what you want out of the situation, that you are trying to correct & make right in your view of the world.
Intelligence isn't always about stating your opinions, it's more often about communicating & relating to others on a human level, then perhaps others won't snap back as often. Try accepting other's frailties & faults, you might be pleasantly surprised to actually enjoy an imperfect conversation, if you give that person a chance to show you their positive fun side, without the teacher/parent/authoritative relationship you bring to them otherwise. Correcting ones grammar is an insult unless one uses tack, so why abuse one's self & risk the negative response from others? If a person is offended & snaps at you, then an appology goes a long way instead of getting your panties in a bunch. You know the old saying... one can bring a bee to honey, not vinegar.
2006-08-04 11:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by Doug 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't just tell someone that they are wrong. It is offensive and you are calling them "Stupid" without actually saying the words.
A more diplomatic way of going about it is to start asking questions from the base of knowledge that they have given and try to guide them toward figuring out the right answer for themselves. (Ex. if they say " Michael Jackson is gay" you might say in reply, "If he's gay, then how come he has 2 kids?" and continue with more questions as your friend answers...)
Get the idea? If you are correct, the evidence that you show will prove your point and you won't have to be right.
Do you want to be right , or happy?
2006-08-04 06:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u know some people can't b WRONG lol but mispronouncing my name is not a bad think for me to correct and facts about somethin i wouldn't sweat but that is just me :-)
2006-08-05 06:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just very sensitive. I am a sensitive person and sometimes it is the way that someone corrects me that bothers me.
They may say it in a snippy way or a condescending way. However I don't usually go off on them when they correct me though but I do get really bothered.
2006-08-03 12:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by Friend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't like to be criticize. We all know what he or she means when words are mispronounced or When facts are incorrect you have to say in a round about way not to reticule the person.
2006-08-04 15:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by shclapitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the person who corrects is wrong (and rude) unless they correct in a kind way to help the person in error. Never make a person feel inferior by correcting them in a know-it-all way. It must be done very carefully.
2006-08-04 14:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love it! I am one of those that 'correct other's and sometimes it gets on my co-workers nerves, like saying MARTA as martyr or mine as mines.. get real people... use correct grammer and no one will have to correct you and if you get something wrong, so be it. now you know the facts...
to answer your question.. people snap because it puts them on the spot and obviously they have a problem with having a insecurity aired out!
2006-08-02 22:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by cariebear197 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree,my maiden name was very difficult to pronounce correctly...When I was in school I got so that Id just smile and ignore it,however in my business life I made sure that my office sent the phonic pronunciation of my name with all mail to company's I would be doing business with.
Just so the company officer wouldn't be embarrassed by mispronouncing my name,not because it upset me ..
2006-08-04 06:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by Yakuza 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, people don't like being corrected I suppose, but overall it's the way in which you correct them that has the biggest effect on their reaction. Don't make a spectacle of them, or embarass them. I think if it was done with some discretion, it wouldn't be as offensive.
2006-08-04 02:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't like to be corrected! That's just a part of their nature. It's so hard for some people because they think you are criticizing them, when in reality, you're not. It's nothing against them personally, but they think it is.
2006-07-28 07:58:06 · answer #11 · answered by December Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋