i love my husband and he is the one who broke my virginty. from the first time i slept with him, till date i don't enjoy sex. sex is not as sweet as people are saying it to me. i will like to start enjoying sex, what do i do?
2006-07-28 07:13:21 · 19 answers · asked by ifeoma o0 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First, you have to discover what feels good to you. Some time spent alone with some lubricating jelly and your own fingers can teach you a lot about your body and what feels good! Once you figure out what feels good, direct him during sex to do those things or put pressure where you want it. The key to enjoying sex is first knowing what you like, then communicating that to your partner! If sex continues to be uncomfortable, please don't be afraid to discuss this with your gynecologist or family doctor!!! There are certain conditions that can be helped that can make sex even painful! You CAN have a healthy sex life, and YOU can enjoy it, too! Good luck and best wishes!
2006-07-28 07:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by alone1with3 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to Ur husband, communication is not only a vital part of a successful marriage it's also a vital part of a seuccessful sex life. Were U brought up with strict moral values? I know some woman that are, are taught all there lives that sex is dirty, and when U get married it is not supposed to be enjoyable it is just something that U do to satisfy Ur husband.If that's how U feel???? FORGET ALL THAT.........RIGHT THIS SECOND
When my husband and I went to our pastor for a meeting with him before we got married he flat out told us that sex is something that is supposed to be pleasurable for a man & A WOMAN. That it is just as important that a husband to satisfy his wife as it is for a wife to satisfy her husband. U two could rent videos, not porn, but a senual lovemaking video made for couples. It will teach U both how to touch each other and different things to try to bring pleasure to U both. If U feel that U can't watch them with Ur husband, then watch them alone and once U feel comfortable about it tell U watched a video and U want to show him what U've learned.
Trust me sweetie, making love is one of the greatest things on this earth. There are no words to describe it, sex is something that anyone can do, but when U are in the arms of the man U love and the two of U are touching and enjoying each other it's not only physical it's emtional and even spiritual.....
Educate Urself, l'll bet Ur husband would even be able to learn along with U. Take things slowly, U need to be comfortable with what U R doing or else U won't enjoy it....
Good Luck too U 2.......I'm sure with time, and a little education U will have an explosive sex life.....One day U'll know what I meant by that....lol
2006-07-28 07:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by HeartsOnFire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the core of the issue you've got to relax. Next you need to move your focus away from the "deed" itself, and more onto the playful aspects of relating to your husband. Lose yourself in what you're doing, whether it's giving or receiving massages or kissing...sex should evolve as an after thought or a genuine extension of what you were already doing. Give yourself the freedom to not have every touch necessarily lead to sex...that removes pressure and a feeling of having to live up to someone else's expectations from the equation. Sometimes a kiss or a touch is an end unto itself, and that's fine, too. Broaden your definitions of sexual expression, and a whole world of possibilities opens up to you. And if you find you're unable to accomplish these things by yourselves, there's no shame in seeking professional help dealing with these issues. There are many credible therapists who can help you make breakthroughs in many areas. The most important thing to remember is that you both love each other. That will see you through the other issues and get you where you want to be. Good luck to you both.
2006-07-28 07:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering what kind of lover your husband is. Is he soft and romantic or do you feel a little wam bam thank you ma am. I think that if you were to slow down....get some foreplay in there.....long kisses and caressing first ... this should get you aroused. If your not feeling excited by the touches and the anticipation of having sex than maybe you're not attracted to him the way you think you are.
During the actual intercourse I would try riding....take your time and tell him that you need a second to get a rhythym. You want to spread your lips to make sure your clit is going to grind up against him and once you start getting turned on your muscles will contract. Make him wait until you find the spots before he starts banging away ....you know how they always start just wanting you to go faster. You have to make him wait because once your muscles get tighter becasue you're excited, plus having your clit stimulated you'll be able to pick up the rhytym and start to feel your orgasms. If you want to enjoy sex more you have to tell him what makes you feel good and what will get you off. Be selfish in bed and take control. If you're unsure of what gets you off i would masterbate more frequently. And if you're unsure about what i mean about clit stimulation while riding try straddling a pillow or large teddy bear and well...hump it.....see if you can get yourself off. Happy O's !!!
2006-07-28 07:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a little more playing in bed before you get into the actual sex part. You might just feel like you are in the same ole routine same person, try doing some new things.
2006-07-28 07:17:21 · answer #5 · answered by tryme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop overanalyzing sex and just have fun with it. If you are into the guy you're with, then you should just enjoy the moment. With women, it's mostly mental. Get into a more positive mental state about sex and you will enjoy yourself.
2006-07-28 07:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by vichussmith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone likes sex. There are still normal people on this planet who do not feel that losing yourself like an animal is as nice as other people say. Feel good about this.
2006-07-28 07:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by Firefly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first there should be love
second both should know each other well - physical needs and mental needs
third - let it happen by itself don't create it.
sex is an eventuality. not a destination or a target to be achieved.
spend more time with ur spouse. express and listen.
2006-07-28 07:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by Unn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello dear,
sex is all about how you face it, how you give, your partner return in the same manner. if he can t return the same as what you give consistently, think once again.! a man with a common sense will make sure that his partner also enjoy sex the way he enjoys. if not, think wider.
2006-07-28 07:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by crayons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't enjoy that why it not sweet to you loosen up a little have a Glass of wine and relax I reallyu can't tell you what to do I think that's something you have to figrue out yourself does anything turn you on that's were I would start good luck have a nice weekend
2006-07-28 07:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋