We havent been together very long, and lately he has been treating me like crap - and the more I think about it - the more I wanna get rid of him - Why is this sooo hard to do... I really want to .. but I cant.. WHY?!?!?!
2006-07-28 07:12:43 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do stay busy, I work, attend school, play hockey and volleyball and have a busy social life - but lately i havent wanted to do much cuz of all I have on my mind
2006-07-28 07:24:05 · update #1
You need to replace him with someone else... Thats the fastest way to get over someone...
2006-07-28 07:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by charlie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because you are holding on to the possibility that Maybe he will change! it is hard for anyone to let go of all the good times, especially if it's a new relationship. there is a reason he is treating u like crap; either he's over it, wants something else, or there's something else in his life that is bothering him. find out what it is, and if he gives u attitude or treats u badly, let him go. not because you didn't try, not because you failed at this relationship, but because you deserve better. what do u want in a bf? someone who respects you, treats you well, takes care of you, makes u happy? that is not easy to find....so when u go out w/ different guys, have boundaries about what u want, how u want to be treated. Also remember that u have to work on urself, make sure u are a good gf, that u treat ur guy w/ respect. that way, u will never be able to put up w/ someone's BS, cuz u are worth a great guy, cuz u know u are a great girl!!!
2006-07-28 07:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same rut with my ex years ago. We dated for 8 months and the last month we were together he treated me like crap, I wanted to get rid of him but I couldn't because I thought he was going through some sort phase and I was hanging on in the hopes that he would go back to being the sweet person he was when we met. No such luck... he got worse so I smartened up and left him. I met my fiance about 3 months later and we've been together for 14 wonderful years now. My advice to you is to let him go and find the guy that was meant for you.
2006-07-28 07:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when it comes to matters of the heart it is never easy. It takes but a second to fall in love with some one and you can know them for a short while. What i suggest you do is keep you self busy working on you. Go to school pick up a dancing or tennis, it will help to pass those hard lonely days. It is not a full proof plan but it helps.
2006-07-28 07:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by trini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a piece of information you're not giving us here:
Do you always have trouble breaking up? or is it just this guy?
If it's always hard for you to do, you're letting whether you have a boyfriend or not rule your sense of well-being. That's a confidence issue, and maybe a friends issue. If you have friends, good friends, real friends, you can have a good social life without a boyfriend. If you're the type of person who only calls her friends when she's between men then you won't have solid friendship to carry you through the dry stretches.
If it's just this guy, it might be pheremones. Some guys pheremones 'click' with ours and we feel good when we're with them - that's what chemistry is. If that's the trouble try breaking up with him over the phone or through a letter so you don't have to smell him. I know it sounds silly - but give it a try.
2006-07-28 07:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got used on him to be near all the time, and can't imagine your life without him. You should try to think not about him and dumping him, try to think how your life could turn without him and maybe then you'll do that (dump him). If not, you are deadly in love :) Also you should' n let him to treat you like crap, cuz there is a person somewhere who can love you and treat you like a queen :)
2006-07-28 07:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by ch_zana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie...it's not that you can't (because you can...you are able and capable)...it's that you have chosen not to...so why are you hanging on? What is preferable in being treated like crap to being on your own and happy? Why stay with someone who doesn't care about you, when you could be missing out on opportunites with others who would not treat you like crap and whom you might adore?
Get some confidence...alone isn't a bad thing (it can be great) so stop settling and treat yourself as you know you should be treated!
2006-07-28 07:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can, all things are possible through Christ. Pray. Next, let go. These things happen, sometimes more than once or twice, however, each time you experience it the way you deal with it should become better. And, maybe you are more upset with being rejected than the guy, have you thought about that. Rejection is hard but you will survive. Good luck.
2006-07-28 07:16:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to respect yourself, don't let anyone treat you that way. you deserve better we all do. Look I had a girl like yourself, and I use to treat her like crap, and its cause she let me, and never really said anything. So as a man i never realized it until she left me, now she moved on and she is very happy. I'm happy for her but i learned my lesson, and I respect her for not staying around. Look you have to respect yourself and demand respect in order for others to respect you. Look my advice is leave him, don't stand around and take that, and you haven't left him maybe cause you love him or because you want to hear it from someone else, but believe me love is not always worth the pain....another thing if this is how the relationship started its not going to get better
2006-07-28 07:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by wcenice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you haven't gotten rid of him sooner is because you like the idea of having a man around. Not really caring how he treats you. You are probably hoping that deep inside he will change his ways, but they never do, no matter how many times they say they will.
2006-07-28 07:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by totallyinnocent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you haven't found a 'replacement unit' for starters. You can't even love him because you haven't been with him long enough to know him. He definately has ego and low self-esteem issues and you will always be his testing board to jack himself up. RUN>>>> It's going to get worse. Stay busy, hang out with friends, meet new people. Don't sell yourself short by staying with a loser. You probably have insecurities about meeting someone new and having it work out. Believe me, there's ALWAYS someone else around the corner.
2006-07-28 07:17:50 · answer #11 · answered by tweak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋