2006-07-28 07:12:33 · 19 answers · asked by Hunky Mule 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know exactly how much is quite a number, but i do know that these things are subjective, and maybe you're a little bit too harsh on yourself. (I don't think that number is over 25, which would be a tragedy, so no point worrying :-))
A couple of refusals don't mean that there is something wrong with you, each and every person is valuable, and we have to cherish their personalities. If you are not satisfied with your physical aspect, that can be changed, but i don't think that girls would refuse you just because that, maybe it's something with your personality that needs some work. Don't think of something extravagant, try to be nice, honest, kind, patient, understanding, if you are all these things, girls will fall under your feet. though if you have already these characteristics, then you shouldn't change anything, you just haven't found the right type of girl yet, so keep looking. Maybe you like the wrong kind of girl, that doesn't suit you. My advise to you is to try to summarise what you want from a woman, what qualities should she have, and what could you offer her. That way, you can find out what type of girls is best for you.
if you decide to change anything about yourself, try to write down what is your ideal person (both physical an emotional aspects), then make a list about your qualities and defects, the things you like about yourself, and the things you don't. Don't change the things you like about yourself, but try to work on your defects, so that you become the person who you would like to be.
you don't necessarily have to change because you've been turned down by girls, you ONLY have to change if YOU are not comfortable with yourself, if you are, don't mind the girls, you will eventually find someone, who will appreciate you!
Good luck!
2006-07-28 07:35:29 · answer #1 · answered by wendy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Never change who you are. Be yourself, if a girl doesn't like you for who you are, then you don't need them anyway. That just means that they're not the right girl for you. Don't give up, and don't settle. I thought for a long time that I wasn't doing something right, or that there was something wrong with me. Because guys kept turning me away or something would happen and it would never work out. I thought I would spend my life alone. But then when I had decided to give up and quit looking, the man of my dreams came into my life. That man is now my husband. It's so incredible, all the other guys that I was so heart broke over, now I look back and ask myself what I even saw in them. Now I thank God that it never worked out with all the other guys. There's someone for everyone, you just have to be patient and not get in a hurry. They'll come your way soon enough. You know how everyone always tells you that you'll know when you find the ONE. I always thought that was a bunch of crap, but it's not. It's so true, I knew as soon as I met my husband, You'll know, be patient. Just trust and believe.
2006-07-28 14:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your name has the answer! Big! Start exercising and eating right! Mule! Don't be stubborn and hard headed! Try to become a Strong Thoroughbred instead of a Big Mule!
2006-07-28 14:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by Retarded Dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need to figure out why they are turning you down first before you can change anything major.
2006-07-28 14:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by B D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change, because then you won't be who you are. It's only so long that you can keep up a facade, before someone breaks it down. So just keep being you, and someone will fall in love with you, not someone else.
2006-07-28 14:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by Nelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope...be yourself..just don't try so hard!! (dont be 'one of the lads') nothing more unattractive than a guy who looks deperate!...and if you're trying to get a girl while drinking...slow down on the pints!!...Let the ladies approach you!... best of luck!
2006-07-28 14:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by SUI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you need major help. There must be something that you are doing wrong, but please do not kill yourself or anything for being a big failure. It is best you stay single until the right girl comes anyways so all is good.
2006-07-28 14:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by Contesta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least they are not wasting your time or taking years of your life off you. you may be needing some social skills or it may be the type of girl you find attractive isn't right for you. try doing something that gets them interested e.g martial arts or skydiving
2006-07-28 15:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep looking for a girl who will love you for the way you are. Good luck.
Have a nice day :-)
2006-07-28 14:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by drewfranklin4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your approach, or the type of girl you ask.
2006-07-28 14:15:00 · answer #10 · answered by A G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋