My boyfriend is constantly flirting with my cousin! Every time I call him she is over his house.When I ask him if he wants to come over, he says he is helping her with her homework. Is he cheating on me?Or have I just lost my mind?
2006-07-28 07:08:20 · 41 answers · asked by nikki h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you didn't loose your mind...you just lost some precious time of studying...well, i can come over and help with some homework ;) if you don't have any,i got some :)
2006-07-28 07:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by Sheefa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its hard to tell based on the information you provide. Here are a few things to consider......
1. Has he cheated on you before? If the answer is YES, then its likely that he is cheating again.
2. Do you trust your boyfriend? If you feel secure in the relationship then you never need worry about what your boyfriend is doing. My guess is that you do not feel secure, perhaps because your boyfriend has given you more than a few reasons to suspect that he is not always being honest with you.
3. Talk to your cousin. What does she have to say.....
4. Suggestion: Invite your cousin and boyfriend to come to your place.....and he can help her study while you are close by....
2006-07-28 07:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by hersh108 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not losing your mind, he has lost his. Being kind to your girlfriends cousin is one thing, but hanging out with them when you are not there is completely another. Your best bet would be to tell him that he either needs to stop hanging out with her or you are over. Only to things can come out of this situation:
1. He is or has cheated on you with your cousin.
2. He is thinking about it.(Which is just as bad as doing it.)
I know that it is a hard situation but you need to tell your cousin to stay clear because you feel like something is going on. If she doesn't, then I really do believe that your cousin might be hiding a little secret from you. Regardless, keep your head held high and don't freak out just yet. Play the detective. SPYING on someone isn't a bad thing. Especially if you truly believe that something is going on. Most girls don't want to believe that their boyfriend is cheating, therefore in order to believe it with your heart you need to see it with your own eyes. Good luck.
2006-07-28 07:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by pinkglitter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is cheating but the best way to settle you mind is to be certain so ask you cousin or go over there and see for your self. Just be prepared for the answer, because suspecting some thing and see or hearing it first hand is two totally different things.
2006-07-28 07:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by trini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you didn't lose your mind, but about to lose your man. Check your cousin about her flirting with him and if she denies it then let her know it's causing a problem for you when your man is at her house more than yours. If she was any kind of decent person she would have been seen this & stopped it long ago. So let's just say she's stupid & your going to help her see the light.
2006-07-28 07:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by mrpuffandstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your cousin knows that you are BF and GF with him? if yes then I don't you should be worry. If the first time she ever go to his house? ummm and if he does flirting with your cousin and she still doing thing back to.
Wow, next time you call and he said cousin there to help her homework and then say oh ok and go over there and see what you see. and if you did she what you don't liek to see then it cheathing and if something you see seem ok then not to worry about.
If he too busy with your cousin all the time and that the sign that he is doing over there with your cousin. I will so mad if my cousin did that to me and disrespect me and my BF and I would not fight with my cousin it the BF who should understand that he can't do that to you and your cousin ... if you and your friend that it then I don't see why wrong but if already bf and gf then he should know what he doing.
2006-07-28 07:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask you are probably right. Invite them over so all 3 of you can do homework and see if that doesn't go over like a lead balloon. You may find this site helpful in other questions and thoughts that you have had.
Hope you have a better one:-)
2006-07-28 07:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to be worried about your cousin. It's not absolutely sure that he is cheating on you but you make check this :) You know... Visit him some time without invitation..saying that just want to know how he is and to see him because he has missed you and so on :) If everything's fine, you wouldn't be anxious no more. Or... If he really is cheating on you...Too bad for him because he even doesn't know what he is missing, does he? :)
2006-07-28 07:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by ChillyღAngel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know for sure that he is cheating but the clues kinda point that way. Don't sweat it. You're way better than that.
I have learned that people always seem to blame themselves when things like these happen but you should'nt. Take care of yourself, go out and enjoy something that you love doing. If he is really cheating he is the one that is losing out not you. As for that cousin..........
Heaven help her when I'm through.
2006-07-28 07:16:53 · answer #9 · answered by RACQUEL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he knows how you feel about him so I would suggest if he continues seeing her just drop him like a hot rock and move on. You should have no problem finding someone else. If he can't respect you like he should and shows only disrespect by always being over at your cousins house then he is a waste of your time.
2006-07-28 07:13:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to set some boundaries with him and you need to have a talk with your cousin and get her str8 on how much its making you doubt him and she needs to respect your space and relationship. Talk to him and let him know you dont want a boyfriend who's spending more time with ur cousin than with you. Do something make him spend more time with you. Do things together. Get for him to help YOU with ur homework.
2006-07-28 07:11:54 · answer #11 · answered by ~*Caro*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋