yes ive been goin to swimming baths and gym for over a month now in an effort to get some confidence and help myself, you no small steps? but ive not been for about two weeks, mainly because i feel i have alot on my plate, with tryin to move out of the area im in. however i do feel intimidated by one of the life guards who works around the pool, he's over 6ft 2, muscular and has a shaved head, but he just walks around the pool acting like a real tough guy, and he stares at me sometimes, or if ive stopped swimmin and im taking a breather he walks and stands right in front of me so hes directly in my vision. not right up close, but to a vantage point where hes right in front, so i have to look another way, and he makes me feel intimidated, i dont no how to deal with the situation, and i try to carry on swimmin but he bothers me every time i go, because he's always walkin round the pool like a tough guy and starin in my direction, and i can feel my inner rage gettin ignited.
2006-07-28 07:02:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
i already suffer with great anxiety and panic, and anger, and i can easily lose control, so i have to keep tryin to work to stay in control. this lifeguard does what hes doin in a very subtle way, so if i was to say anything, i would look very irrational, but i know he's doin it
2006-07-28 07:05:02 · update #1
You could try to befriend him. It sounds like he's the kind of guy that's proud of his body ,,, and you want to get into shape right?
Ask him some questions llike how much does he bench press ... and ike that. Get advice from him on a good beginners routine. Ask him about diet ... He might use some of that powdered protein stuff at health stores ... it's nice to have a first hand recommendation. The other thing is to remember that he's part of the hired help. Find out who his boss is ... meet his boss just so you can drop his name in conversation with the life guard.
2006-07-28 07:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds tough. I would either try to go to a different pool, or check out the lifeguard's schedule. Try to go swimming at a time when he's not there! Otherwise--tough it out. Maybe only stay for 20 minutes at a time.
2006-07-28 07:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing that you should do is either find another gym place that you live around and sign up for there or tell him that you feel very uncomfortable when he walks around and is always in your direction, tell him how you feel and that you feel very intimidated by him and very insecure. My mom went through the same situation and she just told the guy to leave her alone or she would report him to the manager. He left her alone after that. Just tell him to leave you alone or go to another gym.
2006-07-28 07:10:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kidd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go to the front desk of the gym, ask to speak to a manager/supervisor and complain it sounds like this is borderline for sexual harrasement
2006-07-28 07:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by oceanlady580 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use a diff pool
2006-07-28 07:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by Radhika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋