Whatdo you think about spanking?

Question

What's your opinion about spanking? A last resource for parents?Is it acceptable? An important correction tool for recalcitrant children or teens? Is there a limit age for spanking?

I'm competely against and have 2 good kids. I've never spanked them. Maybe spanking should be outlawed, though this wont ban it

Answer 1

i dont no but i like spanky pizza mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm pizza

Answer 2

Spanking could be a good or a bad thing it depends upon the child and the approach taken. Some children respond well to spankings because it is extremely embarrasing to them. Those types of children repond well to a spanking (by spanking I am not talking about beating a child I am talking about an open hand on a bottom or a hand) Some children spanking don't even phase them. You would have to beat them to death to even get them to cry, but other things might work well like time out or taking favorite toys away. One mistake I think that parents make is trying to reason with there children. That is completely wrong. You are the parent and what you say should go regardless of whether it makes sense or not. I see parents all the time trying to reason with a two year old or a teenager (I catch myself occasionally). If you reason with them they will have no respect for authority and will continuously argue with thier elders when they don't agree and it will get worse as the child gets older. If we were to outlaw anything it should be reasoning with our children. We can and should let our children know why we are spanking them or punishing them and on occassion why we say no but that should be the end of it the child should not talk back or argue with us.

Answer 3

Bless you for having 2 wonderful children. But all kids are not the same. I have a total of 5 children with all of personality types. My oldest is very passive and helpful. I don't really need to spank him. A simple no is enough for him. My second born is..well a strong willed child. I would firmly tell her no and she would look at me like what are you going to do about it...then do what I just said no to. I have done the time out thing but I think she used that to plot her next move. lmao So we did spank her. She has mellowed out a lot growing up and is quite a caring and wonderful daughter. My third child, daughter, is quite an easy child. She's just a pure girl. She doesn't like getting dirty, loves dresses and will just twirl around being cute as a button. Again, a simple no is all she needs. My fourth child, son, is pure boy and he knows it. So full of energy! He will plow you over if you are standing there. When I tell him no he laughs and does it again. So with him I spank. I have an 11 month old and he is too young for spanking and we are still learing his style. So far he is an easy baby.

So with all that I think it depends on the child. Some children are easy children....some are harder like the stonged willed. But thoes are fun to raise because they make you think and they want to know more about how things work and aren't satifited until they know everything. I don't spank for every little thing either. I spank if they get to close to the road (yes I have done that). I would rather have their backsides hurt rather than being squashed from a car. I have also spanked for them trying to push out the screens upstairs. I don't want that to fall out and for them to tumble out. If my spanking gets my point across I will use it. I don't spank in anger. If I feel my tempurature rise I will send them upstairs. I think it is funny how people who have "perfect" children knows how to raise everyone elses children. Open your eyes and see that there are different types of children neither one is better or worse but they do need differnt types of disclipine. Not abuse but disclipine. There is a difference!

Answer 4

I agree with you. It does not correct or teach the child anything, except that when mommy or daddy gets mad, they like to hurt people. Sort of Might makes Right. It doesn't last long and doesn't "impact" the child like the removal of a favorite toy for a period of time, or restriction from a favorite activity like not being able to play on the XBox for 3 days.

Plus, spanking cannot be "tied" to anything. For instance, Spanking a child because he doesn't put away his toys isn't the same as telling him he has to put away his toys before he gets to eat his dinner. I cannot think of a child who would forgo dinner to play with toys.

I am sure others will say one swat on the butt is "just to get their attention." Well, then, I guess in a boardroom meeting when a staffer's mind is wandering, a swat alongside the head with a file folder would be okay, too? It would get their attention, right?

Thant's why I don't spank. It's abusive. I'm proud of you for not spanking either.

Answer 5

spanking has been in process for several centuries. it reminds the kids what happens when they screw up. If they just get a lecture or privelages taken away as a form of punishment then guess what they cant wait to leave to get their own stuff and find out the hard way. spanking them reminds them there are worse things outside the house. think of the prison inmates ask them if they got any diciplinary action while growing up.spanking serves a purpose as long as you dont over do it. and have reason to. i strongly believe it should be re instated in the military its much more effective than just talking.

Answer 6

First of all, define spanking... by text book defintion it is one to two swift, but not too hard swats. I dont think that people should make a habit of spanking, but if my child, that is too young to verbalize or understand their misbehavior went running into a busy street or was crawling around a pool, I would probibly stop them and spank them once or twice to let them know not to do that. Its really a matter of thier life, and if it will save thier life in the future I will not hesitate. But spanking for lying or other things like that I dont approve of.

Answer 7

Neither my brother nor I were ever spanked, and we turned out to be wonderful human beings, if I say so myself. My mom said that a smack on the butt of a toddler when they do something dangerous is appropriate - but that's in order to scare them and not hurt them.

In getting my rather useless psych degree I learned all sorts of things that show that spanking etc is simply not the best way to discipline children. Don't just listen to people's opinions on this one. Do your own research, because it isn't easy to discipline children; you really do need a method and stick with it.

Answer 8

if your kids need to be spanked you are not doing your job. if you teach you kids right from the start what is right and wrong then there should be no need for spanking. maybe taking away privileges every once in a while to remind your kid, but never spank. i have 2 kids one is 10yrs old almost 11 and the other is 19months old

Answer 9

I think when kids are young a pop on the hands or butt is an effective tool when telling them no does not work, as kids get older they respond better to things being taken away for awhile and when they are teenagers they respond best to grounding and not letting them go out or talk on the phone.

No matter what you do, chances are someone is going to have a problem with it. As a parent all you can do is the best you can do.

Answer 10

it depends on the severity of the crime of my kids if they stole something i would spank if they ran out infront of a car i would do it i rather do it than see them dead and that depends how severe the spanking is some parents go to far such as welts or spanking other places besides the butt and that make it look bad on us who spank properly i would rather spank mine than to have them out of control when they get older and show them who is tougher i dont want to end up on jerry springer crying cause my child is beating me like i seen on their i am just carefully on how hard and where i am spanking i dont think their is an age limit til they are an adult

Answer 11

No, no age limit. A girl's never too old for a good spanking.