Is the proper etiquette? I say no.
2006-07-28 06:49:39 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The proper thing to do is keep the jewelry since they were gifts. You boyfriend is rude to ask for them.
The only exceptions are if he gave you an engagement ring and the wedding is off and if any of the jewelry are family heirlooms - then you should give it back.
2006-07-28 07:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 19⤊ 1⤋
If he broke up with you, then you keep it. If you dumped him, then you should return the expensive pieces. If they are just little token gifts, then they are all yours, if he doesn't object. Are the pieces of jewelery things that you would still enjoy wearing, even if you are no longer a couple? If you don't think so, let him have it back. Does he have anything expensive you gave him? Remember, it is a two way street. If there is something that he gave you that was a family heirloom, then by all means, return that. That is for family. If you are not going to be a part of the family, then it definitely goes back. I wonder if anything he gave you was something he had given to another girlfriend...that is a creepy thought, huh?!
Good luck. Try to keep the relationship civil, if possible.
2006-07-28 06:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sally M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! As you already stated in your question, the jewelry he gave you were all GIFTS. Legally, he has no recourse in getting the jewelry back. The only LEGAL way he can get the jewelry back from you would be if you had signed a form saying in the event of a breakup, all property given to you ( gift or otherwise ) would be returned to him.
And don't pay for the jewelry either! For the same reason... you do not have any sort of legal document stating you would pay for the jewelry if you broke up. He can NOT win this one..... legally or ethically. Sounds like he is a sore loser.
2006-07-28 06:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by Purplelicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately not. However, if there is a piece that he gave you that was a family hierloom, or even just from his mother-that is slightly different. Legally all of it is yours though. He couldn't go to the police or anything, they'd tell him he gave it as gifts. He also wouldn't be able to sue you or anything. If he couldn't really afford it & bought it anyways then that is his fault hopefully he'll learn to not do that in the future. & if he CAN afford it & just wants it back than he is a jerk. What is he gonna do with it anyways?!? Give it/them to some other girl? Yeah how is SHE gonna feel if she knows it was given to YOU 1st? Nope, he is being rude & crude by asking. I say if there is something from his "family" go ahead & give it back keep everything else though or give it away whatever you want, but I wouldn't give it back to him. At least I don't think I would. I think I'm mad at males right now though & their infinate stupidity. :) Well good luck & have a great weekend!
2006-07-28 06:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by Nik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only etiquette issue is if we are talking about an engagement ring. If you broke off the engagement, it is customary to give it back to him, otherwise you have every right to keep them, especially if you WANT them. I have never had to return anything from my exs and my husband doesn't require me to get rid of them either but I don't wear any of the jewelry, at his request.
2006-07-28 06:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gift is called "a gift" for a freakin reason. Tell that guy to go **** himself. You shouldn't have to give back anything he GAVE you. If it was his, like a shirt or something then yeah I would give it back. But if it's a true gift, **** him. Keep the **** and move on.
2006-07-28 07:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by Gabrianna Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gifts are gifts, they weren't loans. So don't give them back. You don't have to. The only maybe-ish exception is if he gave you a family heirloom piece of jewelry, then I would return it just to be nice.
2006-07-28 06:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by not at home 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, only if he gave you an engagement ring, that you would want to give back, but a gift? its a gift! I say no way! Hes just trying to make you feel bad!
2006-07-28 08:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by cutiepie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had the right anwer tohim. Its already given to you. Isn't he man enough to let you go without taking back things he gave to you. And if you give things, don't ask something in return. Gifts are gifts. they are given to a person for a certain reason and the person who gave those things don't have the right to get it.
2006-07-28 06:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by chalyde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way...dont give it back, the point of gift giving is a gesture of emotion and at the time he gave it, it was out of how he was feeling about you at that time. So if you cant take back the emotion you aint takin back the gift!
2006-07-28 07:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by brite star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋