Don't give up hope. I know it is not the same but i had a boyfriend that dumped me cause of my friend. She called him pretending to be someone else. She tried to get him to cheat on me with her and he thought it was my idea to see if he would be faithful. Needless to say he was upset and dumped me. It took me awhile to move on but i did. i never got over him, just moved on. He moved a few times, couple of those times he moved to Michigan... from florida where we live now. He ended up applying for a job where i work. We started talkin again, all was forgiven and we got married less then a year after meeting again.
2006-07-28 07:07:57
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answered by Red 1
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Chances are your calling him at work wasn't the only thing that got him fired, but it may have been his boss's breaking point. (I know my boss was really upset when my ex kept on calling all day long and then I'd be upset and couldn't concentrate on the work I was supposed to be doing) Remember if it's meant to be it will be. Everything happens for a reason. What was the terrible fight about? Did you have to call him at work? It's usually better to leave people alone when they're at work, and deal with personal stuff when they're at home. Unless, of course, it's an emergency. Boyfriend/Girlfriend stuff is not an emergency. I can see why he's upset and the fact that he's moved and you can't find him is a sign that he doesn't want you to. Don't be sad and lonely. There is nothing wrong with being single, take the time to learn about you and have a good time with your friends. You can't be a great couple (in any circumstance) without first being a great individual. And if you knew that you wouldn't be crying over the guy who lost YOU.
2006-07-28 07:03:35
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answered by wondering 2
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Alright, first of all, if you called him at work, you called him too much. If I were his boss, he'd only get a couple of warnings about personal calls on the job, & then I'd boot him. He's paid to work, not to talk on the phone. I know that sounds harsh, but it's the truth of the business world.
As for if there is any hope, I would say most likely, no. It would be best to try to move on with your life. This chapter looks as though it has been closed for you. However, there are plenty of men who would appreciate a good, loving woman in their lives, & you may miss out on something better while pining away fro the one you can't have. Take your time, let yourself heal, & talk to someone who will listen to you, whether it is your parents, friends, or a trained professional. When you're ready, you'll find someone who will treat you even better than this guy did, & you'll be glad you didn't end up with him. Take it from someone who has been there more than once. Good luck.
2006-07-28 07:04:45
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answered by Anonymous
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Nobody looses his job over phone calls. It is likely that he was about to loose his job due to poor performance or other such issues, it appears that the man is irresponsible and refuses to accept responsibility for his actions, and so, he chooses to blame you for the outcome.
You are probably better off without him, but from what you've said it looks like you are a dependent if not with him with your parents instead of taking the opportunity to become independent. That being the case it is likely that you will latch on to somebody else regardless of his good or bad qualities. Since you ask for advice, I'd say first become your own person, then and only start dating again. Certainly not the same man.
2006-07-28 06:57:08
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answered by Eli 4
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Girl get a grip on yourself. The fact that he accuses you of making him lose his job means a very big attitude problem. It's not your fault (if it's true you really wereot calling him at work too often), maybe it's his attitude. Don't cry over spilt milk my dear. He also moved away from you so it means you have to wake up from a daydream and start living your life. I know it's hard to do that but trust me I did overcome that kind of problem. I felt betrayed but I didn't lose my head. There's no use crying over a man who doesn't deserve it don't you think? There now I see you smiling. Come on girl, put your chin up. Be strong and you'll live.
2006-07-28 06:55:34
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answered by klay 3
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No. Sorry but there is no hope. If he has it in his brain that it was completly your fault that he lost his job then I would just drop him like a hot potatoe (he he). If he broke up with you just because of his job then I would definatly get over him quick. It obviously ment that he didn't really care about you in the first place. And it also means that you are just too damn good for him that he had to blame you for SOMETHING. So just move on because I am sad to say he is not coming back =[
2006-07-28 06:54:06
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answered by lost 3
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Not to get you down...but sorry to say i don't think there is hope..it looks like something deeper is going on here....he completely disappeared it seems so he may have been looking for any reason to get out of the relationship...i don't think that you should cry over him...if he blamed you so much for losing his job and you never really called that much then it is not worth it....you just have to move on as hard as it is...you can find someone out there that won't blame you for things beyond your control...don't just stay at home and cry that doesn;t solve anything..go out and have fun with your friends....it may be better that you can;t find him because i doesn't seem like he is worth your time..
2006-07-28 06:54:04
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answered by EvEl_LiL_kArEbEaR 3
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maybe you guys can work it out- and if you get back together, you had better take this as a lesson and give him some space. Or maybe he's full of **** & just wanted to break up, and maybe he lost his job for another reason, and you happened to be a convenient excuse. In any case, I hope it works out the way you want it to. Good luck.
2006-07-28 06:52:31
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answered by Anonymous
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His actions seem drastic, and its sounds like he is done. You should get back into the social scene. Go out with friends to moives, dinner, clubs and start mingle. Just use this last break up as a reminder or guide line for futer realtionships.
2006-07-28 06:52:48
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answered by J2G 1
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There is probably no hope for the two of you. But please don't cry over it! No man is worth crying over exept for one, and that one will never make you cry. I'm sure you will find another boy, there's always hope for another love. It kind of sounds like this guy was a jerk and just needed an excuse to get away from you anyways.
2006-07-28 06:52:35
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answered by Kayari of Midnight 2
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