Help!!!! my realtionship is falling apart!!!!?

Question

Things were wonderful when we werent working (we spent every moment devoting eachother to one another, LOTTS & LOTTS of sex), but as soon as we got jobs things started to crumble. We never see eachother until the end of the day (i know that is normal), when we get home (usually around 9pm, we leave the house at 8am) i am soo tired i just want to eat and go to sleep. Needless to say our sex life fell into a slump (now only onece a day every other day, & on weekends). It really doesnt bother me too much, but to him the world is ending if we dont have sex EVERY day. It also seems that the romancing has also dwindled. i just want things to be how they onece were. i love him with all of my heart but he has told me that i dont satisfy him anymore. i dont want to give up on this. i want it to work... do you have any suggestions on how i can go about mending this situation... Please help...i feel like the 1 thing that i care about so much is slipping away...i feel so very lost right now

i know that realtionships are more than sex, its just that this is the only thing that he is complaining about...

BTW I work 40hour weeks and he works approx 30hour weeks

im 21 & he is 25

we have been together 2 years

Answer 1

It's kind of a cold fact of life, but if he's not going to take your feelings about the situation into consideration (and it sounds as if this "don't satisfy him anymore" is a sheer bulls*** manipulation plot [as in selfish] on his behalf, consider finding someone who apreciates the fact that you are willing to work long hours (as in to have some things in life besides "LOTTS & LOTTS" of sex). It ain't easy, but a clean break is a lot less painful in the long run... it might not seem like it, but it is. You deserve better than an obviously selfish pr**k. Tell him I said so and to e-mail me if he doesn't like it ([e-mail]) and I'll tell him myself.

Answer 2

See, that's the thing. Relationships (even good ones) change, so you want to have the foundation based on something more than just sex ( even great sex) because you'll never be able to keep that intensity up forever...life gets in the way. But if you're still emotionally viable to each other, then you've got to reconnect on a more substantial level...that will sustain you through the hard times. Otherwise, there's a real danger that you'll just fizzle out. Take walks together, have lunch dates together every once in awhile, and talk about everything, no matter how seemingly insignificant...the more you truly communicate, the more you'll want to make love. Good luck to you both.

Answer 3

You need to carefully & seriously think about this!
Is this a serious relationship, how long have you known him, do you know most of his family and friends? What kind of people are they?
Do you have the same values as your bf (work ethics, neatness, financial goals, education, size of family desired, etc.)?

To me your relationship sounds like the number one common denominator is good sex and lots of it. Sex is the greatest thing on earth, but there must also be other things present to keep people together.

It looks like your relationship is going through a test and both of you are failing the test. Please ask yourself again, is this a serious relationship or is sex the main part of it. Please don’t have any children until you resolved this issue and both of you are fully committed and have a marriage contract in place.

In the mean time go ahead and have all the sex you need, but don’t bring any children into this world. Someday you will find the person who will satify all your needs and desires in addition to the sex part.

Answer 4

Tell him that instead of having sex everynight and falling asleep you would like to talk some nights about your days, then you'll feel more connected. Can you call each other on breaks and talk then? Do you get weekends off? Try to plan special dates that you can look forward to throughout the week. You don't have to lose your connection if you both want it.

Answer 5

baby girl, your relationship cannot be base upon sex. right? if that's all it is, it won't last. talk to him. tell him exactly that's you need a balance in your life. you have to work and eat and sleep. sex, we have to do it when the timing is right. if he's mature and able to see your situation, then he'll understand. otherwise, you're dealing with someone who is immature or not ready for a grown up world yet.

Answer 6

Tell him that you don't want sex every day . Say is sex the only thing you want from me . Do you really love me. You need your space from sex .Maybe one on the weekends . If he say if you don't have sex with me we are over fine with me.

Answer 7

This is reality unfortunately. Try surprising him one night. Make him a fancy dinner wearing something really sexy or maybe just your apron and a pair of heels. Sit across from him and tease him with your words, your eyes, your legs. And tell him he can't have dessert (that would be you) until he finishes supper. see how long he lasts.

Answer 8

Girl Welcome to real life..hes living in a fantasy you need to tell to grown up
wait in till your married 10 years and it really takes a tole on you sex life..you got kids bills job place to be etc..........that part of life when me and my husband met we had sex like 15 to 20 times a day .....it was nice when we had it been stress takes a factor on your life ....you man needs to grow up hes
NEED TO THANK GOD HES not me ! i get it once a month if that!

Answer 9

Tell your guy he should be happy he gets to at least see you every day. Me and My boyfriend only see each other on the weekends.

Answer 10

That is life for 99% of adults in this country. over worked and unsexed. Don't feel to bad and don't stress.