How do I get guys attention?

Question

I have a problem I can never get the guys attention that I want, and if I do I get it in the wrong way where all they want is sex. It seems like it is impossible to get a good guy to actually date me rather than just sex!

Answer 1

Simple. You've no doubt been using your feminine powers of seduction in an attempt to accomplish something entirely different from what you intended because you don't know any other way to go about doing it. Let me tell you a little secret us guys hide from you women REALLY well. It doesn't matter how old you are, or how old he is for that matter, if you give him the wrong signals, you can bet he'll respond accordingly. That's just how guys are; direct and to the point. (Ironic, because you women complain about how hard it is to figure us out all the time.)

That really is the thing though...isn't that right? You want him, and you want him, and you want him even more. Then finally, when you get him, you're no longer interested. You need to realize something about men lady. We ALL love sex, and you can bet that we love it a whole lot more than women do. So what you've been doing so far isn't going to cut it.

However, I didn't need to tell you all that, because I know you're smart enough to have seen it yourself by now. So, to answer your question... You already know what can get a man's interest, you're just not doing it in the correct way that gets a man to respect you still.

To start with, no man on earth (I don't care if he carries a bible with him to church every Sunday, it still applies here) respects a woman who wears "suggestive" clothing. (For example, thongs with low cut jeans...you know what I'm talking about.) So if you're doing that, you need to choose a new stlye for yourself now.

Maybe this was something you weren't fully aware of, maybe you already knew, I dunno, but it doesn't hurt to point out the obvious sometimes. I don't blame you for wanting to look sexy, but you shouldn't wear stuff that doesn't leave anything to the man's imagination if you want him to think about you in a way that possibly DOESN'T involve sex.

Next, another good tip for if you don't want to give a guy the wrong signals, I suggest not flirting as much (or as seductively if you believe your skills are THAT good) as you do now. It may make him harder to attract, but you'll still send him the message that you're a person who respects herself AND has the capacity for fun at the same time.

If you're not sure that this will work, ask yourself this: "Is it worth it to keep doing what I'm doing, knowing that the odds aren't good of getting what I want, or is changing a couple minor things about myself worth a shot?"

Also, I normally wouldn't suggest this to someone that I didn't know the general age of, but judging by your decent level of grammar, I figure you're mature enough to understand. Maybe, and I mean just maybe. Maybe if none of my above tips and advice don't seem to make a difference for you, it could just be the guys you're going after.

I'm not saying to change your entire prefference of guys you go after, because that's just not something within your power, (It's cool, I understand,) but have you considered dating older men? I'm not talking "playboy bunny marries the old rich coot on his death bed just before he dies" old, just a few years older than the guys you're dating now. Who knows, maybe the problem is the guys you're trying to date now just aren't mature enough to have a real relationship yet.

Answer 2

Guys are naturally attracted to Lavender and Vanilla, so those scents in perfumes/shampoos are a plus. Try talking in his right ear- that's the side of the brain that controls happiness. And smiling and giggling in general is always a good idea. Hoped I helped!

Answer 3

i have a problem I can never get the guys attention that I want, and if I do I get it in the wrong way where all they want is sex. this comes to how you dress lady, if you wear mini skirts, tight trousers and reviling clothes then u r advertising yourself cos thats the same way prostitutes dress, to show what they are selling and if a man sees that he knows here is a good meat for sex. and if you want a good guys attention. dress modesty, with respect and men will respect you and you will get to date a good man you want. cos good attracts good and bad attracts bad simple. :)

Answer 4

you don't have to go all out to get his attention...(just be yourself, try and ask him some questions ) about what he likes , doesn't like, sports, etc...just some ideas...it always good to go for a lunch , or dinner somewhere and have some conversation and then work into other things then.

Answer 5

dont try
just be a guys friend and get to know him
smile
laugh
be happy
dont try to get his attention
usually when u dont try, u do
cuz everyone else is trying.
guys like girls who dont have to try, they just grab without knowing
just be u and enjoy urself.
u sound young so dont worry about it, enjoy being young!
a guy will come when u least expect it.

Answer 6

just w/ that question, i soo want to have sex w/ u. haha j/k. seriously, to get a guy's attention, compliment him or find out his interest. and tell him up front, that ur lookin to date someone, but take things very slowly. that u dont just want sex. and if he cant respec that, then he's not worth ur time.

Answer 7

so u expect a guy to pay for movies, dinners, other outings and get nothing in return?? get real. sex is what guys want at the end of the day

Answer 8

well, i love you girl, and you just got to keep your eyes open. You are a good chooser. Go for the morgantown guy, Zeb, he seems to be the nicest and most ginuan. lol, i can't spell. love ya gurly!

Answer 9

keep trying.there"s 1 fr every 1

Answer 10

e-mail me at [e-mail] cuz im the kind of guy that likes a gurl 4 who she is not for the sex.