Please me patient and read my question although its long...I don't want to be burden to my parents...?

Question

I am 17 and next year i am going to college. i will keep living in my home as university is in my town. I am planning on study medicine. My problem is that that probably means that for at least 7 years i will not have my own income. maybe i will manage to get some job as a translator but only maybe during summer or sth because there are no many jobs for people without finished college in my country. My parents would be ready (and happy) to support me all the way through and to even rent me apartment but I feel uncomfortable because I have 3 younger sybllings and they will need money, too. My parents say that they will have everything they want but I feel guilt even now everytime they buy me sth. They tell me not to be funny thats what parents do, but do you understand what i mean? What can I do?

Answer 1

I understand how you feel. It is hard to be dependent upon your loving parents. I, too, did not want to be a burden to mine. They supported me throughout college and I had a hard time accepting that. I felt guilty and sad.

But, I am a parent myself now. I would give my last dime to my children happily! Now, I understand how my parents felt.

When parents love their children, they get great joy out of helping them. It makes my heart swell with love to provide for them. My son is in college. Guess what? He hates that he depends on us. He says he does not want to be a burden to us.

The circle of life continues...

I tell him what my parents told me, only now I understand how they felt. I LOVE to care for my children. No matter how old they get, I will always want to help them and give them whatever they like. It brings me great joy and satisfaction. Even if I have to scrape by, I get more joy out of giving to my children.

Accept your parents' help and love. For really, that is what they are offering you: their love.

Someday, you will be able to help them when they are old. And someday, you will do the same for your children. That is how you can repay your parents, by loving their grandchildren.

Study hard and don't waste their good help. If and when you can, pass on the good deeds. Help your siblings. Help your parents. Help others who cannot help themselves. This way, the seeds of love planted by your parents will bear fruit in your love and spread more good in the world in their name.

Thank God for giving you such loving parents.

I know it is hard to take money or feel like a burden. It was hard for me and it is hard for my son. But truly, truly, this IS what loving parents do.

Just love them back. :)

Answer 2

Young lady, you sound like you have a good idea of what you want to be in the future -- so go for it! I especially am impressed that you care so much about the financial effects this will have on your parents -- and there are jobs other than translators available to college students -- does your college have a work study program or some student jobs available during the year that you could do for a few hours a week?

In my own experience (and my parents died while I was very young adult), living on your own is very hard while attending college, so it is a good thing your parents are there and that they have a home for you. I'd be hesitant to have my parents rent me an apartment too -- because that will cost your parents money that CAN be used for your siblings (and again, I am impressed! about your thoughtfulness).

Tell your parents you love them, and that you have learned a lot from them and appreciate them. That you love them so much that you know this will be a burden (the apartment) and that you would like to help out around the house still, because you know your siblings are still there.

Study hard, work towards the goal -- and achieve it

Answer 3

You can accept their offer and go on to make lkots of money and help them the way they have helped you. I would try to maybe stay home tho as to rent you an apartment would be an unnecessary burden. Unless the university is a long way away and you would not be able to concentrate with the young ones, but I owuld try to make it work at home. Go to school make them proud. Parents are here to support their children it is wonderful you apperciate it. That does not happen so often in my country. Kids feel parents are obligated to do everything for them. Even my son is not as grateful as he used to be.

Answer 4

Can't you get a part-time job while you are in school, or work at the university doing something? All you need is a small job answering phones, or maybe working in the library. Perhaps at a coffee shop or something. Or is it that you just wanted to concentrate on school. I say if they are willing to support you for the time being and they are assuring you not to worry about it then don't. But is seems that a part time job is the way to go for now.

Answer 5

Let your parents help you out now. You can help them along the way by doing stuff for them. Go on to school and get your education now while you can. In the years to come, when your parents are old and feeble, you will, at that time even repay them more by being there for them then and help out with their every needs. Go to school, tell your parents thank you very much for giving you the chance to get a degree, and good luck with your further!!!

Answer 6

They are correct. U can ask them to get a career loan for u , in case ur education needs lots of money. U can pay the loans later off , when u get a job.U are wrong to think ur a burden. Play cool and focus on other things now. Believe what ur parents r tellin u, they have seen more than u n know what they r doin.

Answer 7

Well, think of it this way. It's not like your parents are paying for everything while you sit on your ***, or because you are too lazy to work. You are going to college to better yourself and your future. Let you parents help you. Focus on your school work and one day when you get yourself a great job from all that time in school then you can buy your parents something nice to repay them for all they have done. Take advantage of it. I wish my parents would have offered that. I might had gone to college then.

Answer 8

Do they offer any kind of financial aid where you live for students? Maybe you could live on campus if that is offered in a year or two. A summer job... tutoring? Really though, your parents are going to be so proud when you finish medical it will be worth what they did with out. Just make them proud and it will be worth every cent to them.

Answer 9

Do you know how lucky you are to have parents like that?

If you want to be a doctor and have what it takes and have parents that will sacrifice to help you make your dreams, then you need to go for it girl!

Explore every student loan option or grant or scholrship to help, but do it and get off the guilt wagon.

Sit down and do some financial planning and if they are in for the ride hug them and then go thank God that you have them. And work you butt off every day!!!

Answer 10

Accept the help. You are very lucky. You can repay them by following through with your planned course of education. All... most parents want what's best for their children. If your parents can afford it. They want to do it. They don't want you to have to struggle. It is refreshing however to find a teenager who thinks the way you do. Most are all about themselves. You'll go far. Good Luck.

Answer 11

I agree with most of the answers on here. They are your parents and if they are willing and able to help you then let them by all means. There's nothing saying that you can't help out as much as you can around the house in return either. I know that when I help my mom out she gladly helps me in return with anything that she can. I now have 3 kids and would help them out with whatever I thought would be best for them too! And you have to consider that when you graduate college and start working for yourself, you may end up helping to take care of them and returning all of their help ten fold.

Good luck in School!