My boyfriend mocks me. And no, we're not in jr. high or high school or anything, this is (supposedly) a real adult relationship, but if I say something that he doesn't like (I'm guessing this is why he does it) he says it back in a mocking tone. I find it very rude. I feel like he's just dismissing what I say and I feel unvaluable. Am I overreacting or should I let him know how much this bothers me?
2006-07-28 06:22:21 · 24 answers · asked by graybear 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Someone who mocks you or using sarcasm effectively is actually controlling and being abusive, believe it or not. It's a mild form of verbal or emotional abuse, always making you feel stupid or small.
Dated a guy like that for a year, and in hindsight I don't know why I put up with it. It's one thing to joke and bust on each other, but if he's not mature enough to handle hearing something he might not like - lose him!!
2006-07-28 06:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by sandand_surf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really let him know that it bothers you, because, as you say, you're in an adult relationship and he should respect you and not mock you. I mean, that's what teenage relationships are for.
But yes, I really would tell him that it is bothering, and if he just shoots it back at you, then maybe you two aren't meant to be.
2006-07-28 06:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by usagimoon2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he just teases you it's okay but if he really mocks you then why should you suffer? Is it really worthwhile to continue loving when in fact and obviously he's just toying with your feelings? If you let him know it hurts you and he still doesn't listen, no matter how hurtful it would be on your part, drop him the soonest possible time. You'll soon see how good it was doing it.
2006-07-28 06:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by klay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when he mocks you that is a sign of him getting tired of whatever it is you say to him. you are right to worry about it and you should tell him about it. don't feel like you are unvalueable. if all else fails, find someone who will worship you as if you were all that person has.
2006-07-28 06:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by kurtball2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know...tell him it hurts you and that he is being immature and reminding you of a boy in highschool.
To be honest I think you can do better than that immaturity and from the looks of it, you think you can too because you said this...."(supposedly) a real adult relationship"...
Good luck..but keep in mind communication is a strong assest in a relationship
2006-07-28 06:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
take care of that right quick! If you don't tell him how you feel he won't know that it bothers you - guys aren't mind readers just as us girls aren't. When you tell him it bothers you and if he continues to do it, it just shows how immature he is and you shouldn't waste your time with him. Just becuase he may not agree with what you say or how you feel doesn't mean your feelings should be dismissed or belittled! trust me, been there done that and it's NOT worth it.
2006-07-28 06:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely tell him how you feel. Recently, I realized that some people give other people "voices" when they're talking about them or showing displeasure with them. What would happen if you did that to him? If he laughs, know that is how he deals with and does things. If he gets upset, know that he is disrespecting you. I hope that it works out for you.
2006-07-28 06:26:30 · answer #7 · answered by E Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go mad he has no right to make you feel hurt everytime words come out of his mouth (like next time it happens just go you know what im sick of you mocking me it really hurts me!!! then walk off next day go back and say you just couldnt sleep last night)
2006-07-28 06:26:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ditch the ba$tard! What he is doing is abusive, verbal. He doesn't value you as a person and what he is doing is a prelude to more abuse later on down the road.
2006-07-28 06:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's really rude. Tie him up on the bed and start talking, every time he mocks you, put a clothespin on his gentals.
he'll learn.
2006-07-28 06:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by a1tommyL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋