I mean seriously.. Do we need to wait being the woman.. or should we say it first. ? Whats the deal.. I know that some guys are afraid because they have been hurt before and does it just reasure them first or should we wait to see if he is on the same page as us before we say it... someone.. please help me!!!
2006-07-28 06:15:52 · 30 answers · asked by zunyone1974 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't matter who says it first. Everyone needs to quit acting like pantywastebabies and say what they feel - if they can't respect that then they aren't worth your time. People are so afraid to say what they feel for fear what the other person will think, that's not how a relationship should work. If you love him, say so!
2006-07-28 06:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The common practice is the man says the magic words first then the woman follows. However, these days I do believe it doesn't really matter. What matters is you were able to say what you're feeling. If you're a guy it's no big deal, it's easy. If you're a girl, then so what? At least you have said what you wanted to say. So I believe there's no big deal. I also think once the woman blurts it out first, the man will feel fine. (You know some guys are soooooooo shy they keep quiet for a long time. If you're a girl and you love the guy, TAKE CHARGE!)
2006-07-28 06:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by klay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're purely 23! you nevertheless have time! focus on your hobbies, pastimes, profession. the nicely suited lady will come alongside whilst the time is right. Oh I in basic terms re-study your tale (hint: Use paragraph breaks. Makes examining plenty much less complicated). of course this isn't the girl for you, yet you probably did no longer make the pass whilst she informed you she exchange into waiting! She needed you to make the subsequent pass, and you dropped the ball. yet do no longer situation, it seems such as you 2 had very distinctive expectancies from this relationship, so this is nicely sufficient that she went for the different guy. in all risk you purely weren't waiting to get sexual. once you meet the nicely suited gal, she'll wait and notice with you.
2016-10-08 10:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're ready and willing to put your heart out there, go for it! Who gives a darn if you are male or female? Only you know when you are ready to say it, and you should always know that when you say it, you're taking the chance of not hearing it in return. If you really love him, and you don't get that response, and he doesn't push you away, just stick with it. I had a boyfriend once (my first real love) that I said I love you to way before he was ready, but when he did, with a gorgeous poem, I realized that telling him that I did love him and sticking by until he was ready to feel and admit to feeling the same way, was worth every unanswered I love you I ever spoke.
2006-07-28 06:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by Lanie Janie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter. I agree with you, some guys have been hurt before,and they are afraid to say those 3 little words that mean so much. Hubby and I have been married 10 years and he don't say it often, but he shows me every day he loves me by taking care of my 3 yr old and by sharing in the household chores. Actions speak louder than mere words.
2006-07-28 06:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter to me who says "I Love You" first, if the feeling is there go ahead and show them, tell them, etc. Don't be ashamed of it and if you don't get the reaction that you want when you say it, then maybe the other person isn't at the same point as you or is afraid of expressing themselves in the same way as you.
2006-07-28 06:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by latina21_01ucf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say it when you feel like both of you are feeling it. You'll know when the time is right, but just because you love him, doesn't mean that he loves you. "I love you" gets thrown around quite a bit, so some people just don't like to say it all the time. If you want to say it, and it's the right time for you, just say it, but don't expect or force him to say it back.
2006-07-28 06:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever feels that they love the other can say "I love you" first. If that person is you, don't feel bad if he/she doesn't return the sentiment. If you truly feel "Love", there's no ego involved and you are blessed to have love in your heart.
You can try saying it like this:
So and so, I love you very much. Please do not feel pressured to say it back. I realize life is short and filled with distractions. So often the people we care about don't know it. So I want you to know that I love you.
Then change the subject!
2006-07-28 06:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by That Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean it, say it. See what happens.
Honestly, I love everyone. I treat everyone as well as if they were my own family members. It makes it easy to meet chics, and also easy to respect their decisions if they are not interested as much as you are.
If you treat everyone like you love them, then relationships aren't about finding who you love. It's about finding who you enjoy spending time with. A lot of people seem like they haven't figured that out yet. It's not about love, it's about being together. It's about doing stuff together.
A lot of girls don't like doing guy stuff, then she gets all disappointed when the guy doesn't want to be with her.
2006-07-28 06:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by doubleoseven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little advice, if it is indeed TRUE LOVE you both will be too excited to care who says it first. You just say it. If your bf/gf reacts funny then you are NOT on the same page. Then it's just LUST.
2006-07-28 06:20:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋