This seems so very complicated so hang on. My brother in law is deaf as well as his girl friend of 10 years. They have 3 children together. For the last 5 years she has been bringing boyfriends into the house on and off and kicking him outside. He will not leave his children. Now the neighbors in the small town have been contacting us to help him. She has emotionally been abusing him these last 5 years. He is not allowed to eat with the family he has to wait until they are done. He tried to walk in front of a train this last week. We have taken him (a year ago) up to the police station so he could have the unwanteds removed and he won't do it. Now DHS stopped and we don't know why. She won't let him speak for himself and has him imtimidated. The police can't help unless he "speaks". (State Law) How do we help?
2006-07-28 06:10:28 · 10 answers · asked by 2tlpla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Also there is no common law where we live. I do not know what a baker act is and he is the sole caretaker of the three children. (Three sets of neighbors will testify.) He is currently sleeping outside on the trampoline or walking the streets.
2006-07-28 06:27:58 · update #1
He is a mute. He must know sign language. But nevertheless, if he is unwilling to so called speak for himself, then he needs and has the right to an advocate. Go to social services, he must get social security disability, and find out what you can do for him........
2006-07-28 06:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do U have no Disability Rights where U R?
The Police behaving like that sounds as bad as Religious Folks & needing 2 eye witnesses!
U Go C a Lawyer, as a family explain what's going on & ask 4 some advice.
2006-07-28 06:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy Complicated! You are correct about Him having to speak up to local law inforcment. However, her bringing in all these strange men all the time is bad for the kids & the kids seeing him being emotionally abused is definatly not good for the kids & for thier mental stability. In this state we have CYS children & youth services. If kids are being abused or in an abusive home they can help. Sounds to me like he only stays & puts up with this cuz he loves his kids. He needs legal & probably mental help at this point. I don't know what else to say.. except I'll pray for him. Hope things change for the good.
2006-07-28 06:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by Joeysol'lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
saddened to hear abt this ill treated deaf person, you should bring him to the Police station to apply for Personal protection order against the wife & helping him claimed custody of the childrens if he is capable of bringing them up solely.
approach some society like the diabled homes, social welfares,organisation, red cross,etc that is available in yr country.
2006-07-28 06:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by Goosters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your brother should pack up the kids and leave this woman. File for divorce and sue for custody of the kids. That way he has the kids and she can feel free to do what she wants.With so many witnesses to this woman's behavior getting custody should be a cinch for him. Definitely seek the advice of a divorce attorney. If you can not afford one there are many who do divorces for low income people.
Oops.. sorry i misread and thought they were married... still he should seek custody of the kids.
2006-07-28 06:22:40 · answer #5 · answered by tied2tots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you must get him out of there. the hell he lives in makes him her slave. he is doing it for his children. you have to convinse him that his children and him self would be better with out her and you have to make him speak for him self. find a good layer and do the low work properly. ask help form a physiatrist for him to release his pain and help him go over with it. he have to speak and you can also ask help in other organizations for the deaf people. so good luck !!!
2006-07-28 06:17:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
where do the kids want to be ? if she doesn't answer to him and answers for him - he can do the same - take the kids and relocate - let him eat dinner with his own kids in his own apt - don't tell her - speak to an attorney about his rights in a common law marriage -
2006-07-28 06:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by DORA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get alone with the kids im not really sure but u should really help him i feel sooo bad!! maybe show him how much he misses the kids by again trying to get alone with them and maybe he will speak up for himself i think i mite have misunderstood ur explanation to but whatever good luck!!!! :^)
2006-07-28 06:17:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE HAS TO HELPHIMSELF....IF HE WONT SPEAK AGAINST HER THERE IS NOT MUCH YOU CAN DO UNLESS YOU HAVE JUDGED INCOMPETENT AND YOU BECOME HIS GAR DIAN
2006-07-28 06:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by darkpony6262 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him baker acted
2006-07-28 06:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by jeanene64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋